Hello ladies, you all seem like a lovely bunch and I hope it's ok if I join too.
I had a D&E at 20 weeks at the end of January. It was a planned and very much loved and wanted baby and I was completely devastated to lose him. I asked about 5 different midwives/nurses at BPAS how soon I could start trying again and they all said just wait for your first period, which they told me to expect four weeks after the surgery.
I had 3 weeks of pp bleeding and then my first period two weeks later, so 1 week later than anticipated. After the initial shock and recovery I found I was so desperate to be pregnant again my husband and I started trying. I'm surrounded by babies and three friends have just announced due dates that are within a month of what mine would have been, and trying again has really helped me cope. I felt extremely lucky to find out a couple of weeks ago that we conceived first time, but I've just had my first doctor appointment and am feeling quite spooked.
The doctor practically freaked out, saying it's too soon, no I can't be pregnant it must be left over HCG, it wasn't a period, he doesn't believe my history. I did initially tell him that it was a 'loss' at 20weeks, not a TFMR because although I'm a Brit I am an expat living in a country that frowns upon TFMR but I did elaborate when he said he didn't believe me.
Now I feel so frightened that I've done it too soon and that I'm going to lose this baby from damage caused by the surgery or not having good lining or from damage from the forceps/dilapan, and that's on top of the normal miscarriage worry and worrying that there will be another chromosome issue.
Those of you who had second trimester TFMRs, were you given the same advice? Did you have any related issues when conceiving again soon after?
Sorry this was such a long post!