Support thread for women who are pregnant or TTC following a termination for abnormalities. Thread 7

[Kiki275]

Welcome to the newest thread of support for those ladies who are pregnant or trying to conceive after terminating for abnormalities. Since this thread first began (almost ten years ago!) there have been stories of heart break, sadness and fear, but from these stories there have also been stories of happiness, success and most importantly, hope.

@Alittlexmasmagic I’m 10dpo and af due on Saturday according to the Premom app. Maybe it’s an early positive but only picked up on frer

Thank you @mrsof20118, @Alittlexmasmagic & @Dia12
That’s a good idea about looking at things in small stages. Thanks for the advice- I rang my local screening midwife. She just said I could book another private NIPT if I wanted to and then take things from there. My risk for another T21 pregnancy is about 1/100. Would anyone go straight for CVS/amnio with these odds? I might wait to see what comes from NIPT first but not sure. Got to get pregnant first anyway!
I’m glad to have found this thread but sorry to see so many others here xxx

@Mummabear40 what a Christmas Eve! I would be having the weird scan dreams and anxiety too. Will be thinking of you. scans are naturally going to be associated with these feelings after our past experiences. I know I will feel exactly the same as you (if I get pregnant again! Think I’m ovulating on New Year’s Day!) and wishing I didn’t. Sending best wishes x

Oh that literally tomorrow @Mummabear40!!!! I'm excited and nervous for you. The anxiety is awful I know, sending you a virtual hand hold xx Once you see your little peanut's heartbeat you can relax and enjoy Christmas 🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼

Good luck for your scan @Mummabear40 xx

Good luck @Mummabear40!

Thinking of you mummabear40 Fingers crossed xx

Thank you all. I can’t say I feel any better after this morning tbh but I wasn’t expecting too. Baby’s heartbeat was fine. But measuring 6+2 whereas my dates put me at 7 today. She said a lot can change and scanning so early isn’t accurate but impossible not to be extremely worried. I hate that I have zero excitement and probably won’t until we get to the 20 week scan, if we get there.

Glad the scan went well and you saw little baby's heartbeat.
I agree, it's wishful thinking that somehow it would ease the anxiety but I think we will all be in the same boat. But there are positives to take away, this is a viable and healthy pregnancy - dating is very inaccurate this early on.
You're doing great. X

@Dia12 thank you and it is so good to know there’s people that understand. Yes viable and healthy I have to take away from today xx

Started bleeding this morning so EPU scanned me. Baby measuring only 5 weeks and I’m supposed to be 7 weeks 2 days . They don’t think it’s viable and no heartbeat. Bleeding is getting worse now with clots so I’m miscarrying for sure.
Devastated isn’t the word, I’m numb.

Oh My god @Balajake I’m so so sorry, I can’t imagine how you must feel. I’m so utterly sorry for you. Sending you hugs. xxx

So sorry @Balajake xx

I'm so sorry @Balajake, I'm devastated for you. I'm not sure how I would cope, it's all so fragile at this stage. Please do speak to someone whether it's family or SANDS/ARC or us on this thread when you are ready.
Also know, it's not the end of your journey.
Sending love.

Oh @Balajake I'm so sorry to hear this. I can't even begin to imagine how heartbroken you are. Huge hugs from me x

@Balajake I’m heartbroken and so sorry to read this today. I can’t imagine how you’re feeling. Sending you so much love and hugs xxx

@Mummabear40 you definitely need to take away that you have a viable and healthy baby in there. Stay positive so you can enjoy Christmas. They told me my dates would probably change several times with scanning so early. I know us ladies are pretty accurate on our dates since we tend to have tracked everything. Fingers crossed for you - you’ve got this xxx

@Balajake just read this and I am so incredibly sorry for You my love

@Mummabear40 keep the faith. X

@CorkViaDublin how are you? Any sign of another positive/AF?x

@Alittlexmasmagic four more positives but since yesterday getting lighter. Negative on digital today which is period due date. So chemical I think?? 🥲

So here’s my scan from Xmas eve. Bleeding got worse and pain like period cramps. It’s not soaking through pads but get a trickle when I go to the loo. They said only measuring 5 weeks but i was 7+2 and couldn’t see a heartbeat. She said sac was a little too close to my C section scar which was worrying. I’ve tried to make sense of my ultrasound from what tech said but she said it was a pregnancy of uncertain viability and to return for a scan in 2 weeks. I went to a different EPU as mine couldn’t see me but I have an early scan already booked on the 2nd which will no doubt confirm the miscarriage

Can anyone make sense of my scan ?

@Balajake you have your name and details on the scan....

Oh my god @Balajake, so sorry to hear this! What a devastating news!
Just to let you know, you have your name details on the scan.
@Mummabear40 that is good news! We have to take one day at a time which is very difficult!

@Balajake I had a miscarriage early this year, it starts with light bleeding and sometimes stops and starts again. Even the first blood was bright red blood. In the end you get a coffee colour discharge.

@Balajake I’m so so sorry, I can’t stop thinking about you. Try abs get some rest x

@Alice40p yes each day at a time is my mantra this time around. Feeling very grateful and have to have hope it’ll be ok.