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Support thread for women who are pregnant or TTC after a termination for abnormalities - Thread 6

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Treaclepie19 · 16/03/2020 10:15

Welcome to the newest thread of support for those ladies who are pregnant or trying to conceive after terminating for abnormalities. Since this thread first began (almost ten years ago!) there have been stories of heart break, sadness and fear, but from these stories there have also been stories of happiness, success and most importantly, hope. Here they are, our thread babies, and may the list continue to grow:

@Mishtabel - Bella 22/01/10
@Linspins – Franklin 22/01/10
@Shangrila – baby boy 01/02/10
@Cantdothisagain – Babycan't 12/04/10
@Katerina100 – baby boy 06/10
@NumptyMum - Josie 28/06/10
@Allstarsprincess – Frank 30/07/10
@Katiecubs - Felix 13/08/10
@GinaFB – Alexander 03/01/11
@LittlePoot - Jacob 02/02/11
@Coffeeandchocolate – Coffeebean 22/02/11
@Rushingrachel – Oliver 02/03/11
@Crazycatlady - Lawrence 08/03/11
@Dramamama - Isabella 13/03/11
@VivClicquot - Phoebe 28/04/11
@LisbethSalander - baby boy 7/11
@Stormbird – George 24/07/11
@Sarahmia – baby girl 25/07/11
@Eavers – Jacob 11/08/11
@Grandj – Eliot 01/09/11
@Babylily – Miles 05/09/11
@NatzCNL - Sienna 26/09/11
@Manitz - Sacha 28/09/11
@Cherrybug – Kade 02/11/11
@Ghislaine - Charles 14/01/12
@Mrsbigz - Callum 19/01/12
@MyangelAva - Isabella 21/1/12
@Bezzyk - Minibez II 2/2/12
@Katerina100 – baby girl 19/04/2012
@flower11 – Hannah 18/10/2012
@Bluecat83 – Noah est 24/10/2012
@katiecubs – Seth 05/02/2013
@Havingkittens – Alfred 14/04/2013
@ghislane – Frederick 22/10/2013
@lostlove – baby boy est 10/04/14
@AliBingo – baby boy est 06/05/14
@LuckyAugust –baby boy 26/01/2015

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Treaclepie19 · 01/09/2020 11:18

Thank you @Kiki275! Nope we were the opposite. He was due 19th September and came 17 days early as a big surprise!
I expected him to be late.

Happy belated birthday for your little one 😊

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Redhead43 · 01/09/2020 17:13

Happy birthday to your little ones. Hope they had some good celebrations @Kiki275 and @Treaclepie19.

@Treaclepie19 glad you have a scan booked and it will give you the reassurance you need. Hope the phonecall didn’t interrupt birthday lunch xx

@Kiki275 everything crossed so tightly for you. It’s not over yet xx

Kiki275 · 02/09/2020 07:10

AF has shown up on schedule. Chucking in some cramps for extra measure. I hate periods ☹️ x

1stbabs · 02/09/2020 07:42

@Kiki275 I'm sorry 😔 xxxx

Redhead43 · 02/09/2020 09:01

I’m sorry @Kiki275 sending lots of love and luck for this new cycle 🤞🏻xx

otterbaby · 02/09/2020 12:49

@Kiki275 sorry to hear it 😔 make sure you give yourself a little treat tonight xxx

NoCallerID · 02/09/2020 14:06

Oh @Kiki275 I'm so sorry 😔

Treaclepie19 · 02/09/2020 14:07

So sorry @Kiki275 😔
Hope you have a good supply of treats for today.

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Kiki275 · 02/09/2020 17:21

Thanks ladies. I've bagsied Colin the Caterpillars head for tonight. That plus a blanket and last nights new All Creatures Great & Small, means a very wallowy evening x

Redhead43 · 03/09/2020 02:55

@Kiki275 hope you managed to enjoy your treats. A few days of not being on the TTC healthy train is definitely needed xx

Mummabear40 · 03/09/2020 10:02

@Kiki275 sorry to hear AF has arrived. It absolutely sucks TTC again doesn’t it.

I don’t even no what’s going on this cycle, I’ve had brown and pink spotting and no EWCM so don’t even think I’ve ovulated, I’m driving myself insane over thinking.

@Redhead43 how is your TWW going?

Kiki275 · 03/09/2020 13:13

@Mummabear40 that's really strange! I hope things settle down.

@Treaclepie19 how was DS's birthday and first day at school?x

Treaclepie19 · 03/09/2020 13:16

@Kiki275 turned out really well thanks! So many tears on the way in but he had a good morning. He did well again today so tomorrow he's trying a full day 😱
I'd say I don't know what I'll do with myself but I have a growth scan in the afternoon 😂
He loved his birthday presents so that was nice 😊

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Redhead43 · 03/09/2020 13:45

@Mummabear40 sorry to hear your cycle seems to be all over the place. So confusing when you have no idea what’s happening. I’m an awfully impatient person so TWW is dragging - it’s our wedding anniversary today so that’s a nice distraction. I’ve got a week until AF is due so I’m itching to test. We’re going out at the weekend with friends and I’m thinking I shouldn’t have a drink just Incase but (apart from you ladies) we not told anyone we are trying again and intend on keeping any pregnancy to ourselves for as long as possible. Unfortunately it will be an alarm bell if I don’t have a drink so I feel a bit stressed about that - very silly in the scheme of things xx

@Treaclepie19 glad DS seems to be doing okay at school. Good luck with the scan tomorrow - let us know xx

Kiki275 · 03/09/2020 14:35

@Redhead43 personally I'd have a drink or two, especially if you're having a meal with it. Just avoid getting drunk if that makes sense. Many women don't even find out their (example) Xmas party results in a pregnancy until well after Xmas & new year. If you can drive, do. Otherwise, keep sending DH to the bar for a G&T, prewarning him you only want the T part x

Redhead43 · 03/09/2020 14:53

Yeah you’re right I’ll just have one or two, we are having a meal so maybe one with dinner then like you say we should be able to sort it at the bar. I know I’m being silly. Just very aware of doing everything completely right so I can’t be like oh it’s because we went out that Saturday night blah blah. Thanks for the reassurance @Kiki275 it’s what I needed xx

Treaclepie19 · 03/09/2020 14:59

I would just drink if you feel like it @Redhead43. I did exactly that in January. Decided it wasn't going to happen and went out for a friends birthday and drank way too much. The week after I got my BFP.

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Redhead43 · 03/09/2020 16:42

@Treaclepie19 Aww really! I might hope to follow in your footsteps then! I cancelled a few things last month to avoid drinking/conversation of why I’m not drinking or I elected myself designated driver for every event - feel like I’m putting my life on hold a bit and I said I’d never do this when we started TTC again as it would make it very high pressured xx

Treaclepie19 · 03/09/2020 16:44

@Redhead43 that was my problem. I started putting everything on hold and just got fed up of it.
Especially since nothing we can do affects things really.

Fingers crossed for you!

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NoCallerID · 04/09/2020 15:25

@Kiki275 That sounds like a well deserved treat.

Aww @Redhead43 "drink until it's pink". I read this somewhere and liked it. 😂

@Treaclepie19 how did your growths scan go today?

Treaclepie19 · 04/09/2020 16:12

All looked good thank you! Meeting the consultant Wednesday to discuss 😊

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Redhead43 · 04/09/2020 22:49

Glad all looked good with the scan @Treaclepie19 xx

Awww thank you so much @NoCallerID good little saying. How you doing this cycle? Xx

Mini12 · 05/09/2020 04:56

Hi all I haven't posted on here in about 8 months after conceiving after TTC after diagnosis of pataus of my angel baby. I found this thread such a great support during that time, I don't know if I'd have got through some of the days without it tbh so thank you for anyone who was there for me with their wise words of support during that period x
I have to admit for a whole 9 months I have held my breath despite all positive scans, private scans and the positive test results I still could not let myself believe I would have a healthy baby. But for anyone going through/been through a similar experience I wanted you to know I gave birth to a very healthy baby boy week ago and we feel so blessed he now here.
So for anyone that needs a little bit of hope that their is light after dark I just wanted you to know it can work out and you will be ok x x

Kiki275 · 05/09/2020 07:32

@Mini12 that's so lovely. Congratulations on the safe arrival of your baby boy.xx

Treaclepie19 · 05/09/2020 07:41

Massive congratulations @Mini12. I'm so pleased for you ❤

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