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Support thread for women who are pregnant or TTC after a termination for abnormalities - Thread 6

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Treaclepie19 · 16/03/2020 10:15

Welcome to the newest thread of support for those ladies who are pregnant or trying to conceive after terminating for abnormalities. Since this thread first began (almost ten years ago!) there have been stories of heart break, sadness and fear, but from these stories there have also been stories of happiness, success and most importantly, hope. Here they are, our thread babies, and may the list continue to grow:

@Mishtabel - Bella 22/01/10
@Linspins – Franklin 22/01/10
@Shangrila – baby boy 01/02/10
@Cantdothisagain – Babycan't 12/04/10
@Katerina100 – baby boy 06/10
@NumptyMum - Josie 28/06/10
@Allstarsprincess – Frank 30/07/10
@Katiecubs - Felix 13/08/10
@GinaFB – Alexander 03/01/11
@LittlePoot - Jacob 02/02/11
@Coffeeandchocolate – Coffeebean 22/02/11
@Rushingrachel – Oliver 02/03/11
@Crazycatlady - Lawrence 08/03/11
@Dramamama - Isabella 13/03/11
@VivClicquot - Phoebe 28/04/11
@LisbethSalander - baby boy 7/11
@Stormbird – George 24/07/11
@Sarahmia – baby girl 25/07/11
@Eavers – Jacob 11/08/11
@Grandj – Eliot 01/09/11
@Babylily – Miles 05/09/11
@NatzCNL - Sienna 26/09/11
@Manitz - Sacha 28/09/11
@Cherrybug – Kade 02/11/11
@Ghislaine - Charles 14/01/12
@Mrsbigz - Callum 19/01/12
@MyangelAva - Isabella 21/1/12
@Bezzyk - Minibez II 2/2/12
@Katerina100 – baby girl 19/04/2012
@flower11 – Hannah 18/10/2012
@Bluecat83 – Noah est 24/10/2012
@katiecubs – Seth 05/02/2013
@Havingkittens – Alfred 14/04/2013
@ghislane – Frederick 22/10/2013
@lostlove – baby boy est 10/04/14
@AliBingo – baby boy est 06/05/14
@LuckyAugust –baby boy 26/01/2015

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NoCallerID · 26/08/2020 20:07

@Treaclepie19 I'm upset for you! I can't believe she's out that kind of pressure on you. Very counterproductive. I had something similar in my first pregnancy but thankfully had the confidence to stand my ground. (Have you done the positive birth company digital pack?)

Treaclepie19 · 26/08/2020 20:15

Thanks @NoCallerID. So sorry you had something similar. Yeah I've got the pack. Nearly finished it! Just watching some of the videos now actually 😊

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NoCallerID · 26/08/2020 20:29

@Treaclepie19 ahhh that's good to hear! I hope you can take some bits from it, it really helped me/us massively.

NoCallerID · 27/08/2020 18:25

I really don't want to annoy my friends so I'm posting it here....
Had a positive OPK today, it's my TFMR Boys due date this week and I've just gone out in the garden to see a big rainbow.
This has got to mean something 🤞🏼

otterbaby · 27/08/2020 18:46

@NoCallerID that's lovely 🙂 will keep my fingers crossed for you! 🤞🍀

Treaclepie19 · 27/08/2020 19:04

Aww ❤ Definitely got everything crossed for you @NoCallerID!

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Dia12 · 27/08/2020 20:23

Oh this is wonderful news @NoCallerID - so happy for you. Sending you best wishes for a healthy, happy pregnancy xx

Kiki275 · 27/08/2020 20:56

Lovely news @NoCallerID, I'll keep everything crossed for you x

NoCallerID · 27/08/2020 21:37

@otterbaby @Treaclepie19 @Kiki275 thanks girls! @Dia12 ah thanks, it's only a positive OPK but I'm hoping it'll be a positive pregnancy test in a couple of weeks 😉

Dia12 · 27/08/2020 22:39

I know, fingers crossed. It's still great news. It gives me hope.
It's been three weeks since our tfmr for t18. Still spotting and passing small stringy clots.
Started up all the vitamins again and I think the hair loss (most probably from stress) has slowed down.
It took us 3 to conceive this baby and feels so cruel to have lost it. I'm hoping it doesn't take as long again 🤞🏼
Plan B is to go back to ivf.

Is there anything you did to help conceive this time around?

Redhead43 · 28/08/2020 05:48

So pleased for you @NoCallerID I’ve got everything crossed for you 🤞🏻 xxx

MummyBearBoo · 28/08/2020 09:04

Good luck @NoCallerID!

I think the due date is one of the hardest parts but lovely about the rainbow hopefully that's a sign for your rainbow baby! Xx

NoCallerID · 28/08/2020 09:35

@Redhead43 thank you!

@MummyBearBoo I'm really dreading tomorrow but I know I'll get through it. It's just a date, he would've been late like his brother anyway, I'm certain of it.

@Dia12 you're still so early on, it's so hard. I remember getting really frustrated with my body for not working as it should be, after 7 weeks of big clots and rather heavy bleeding they confirmed retained placenta and I had to have it removed. I then started taking Agnus Castus to regulate my hormones (I have loooong cycles) and ovulated within 3 weeks. Then conceived straight away, first chemical. Then another one, then another one..... so I haven't got much hope for this cycle but we've DTD a LOT and also used presseed a couple of times.
Got another positive OPK this morning so slightly confused but now thinking I might actually ovulate tomorrow - on Leo's DD. 💙

Mummabear40 · 29/08/2020 14:20

Hi All, I hope you’re all doing ok. Just wondering if anyone has experienced this. We’re TTC and I’m on day 6 after my first period post my termination and today I’ve had brown discharge and spotting. Did anyone else have this?? x

Redhead43 · 29/08/2020 14:32

Hi @Mummabear40 I have had this on this cycle which is my 3rd post TFMR my first two weren’t exactly like my periods used to be so I’m wondering if this is just my body still settling down. Good luck in TTC you’re in good company - I’m only very slightly ahead of you in this cycle as started the TWW on Thursday xx

@NoCallerID hope today is passing by gently for you. Everything crossed this is still looking like your cycle xx

Mummabear40 · 29/08/2020 14:52

@Redhead43 good to know you’ve experienced too as I found it very odd. I hope your TWW doesn’t feel too long, sending you good vibes xx

Redhead43 · 29/08/2020 18:15

@Mummabear40 Thank you xx

Kiki275 · 29/08/2020 18:21

@Mummabear40 my periods totally changed following my tmfr. I now start with brown "old blood" and end with fresh red blood. It's strange but seems to be the new norm for me x

Mummabear40 · 29/08/2020 19:06

@Kiki275 my period was actually normal for me and as it was prior to our loss but I didn’t ever have spotting a week after or any spotting actually, very odd. x

Kiki275 · 01/09/2020 07:56

Morning everyone, hope you all had a good weekend? AF due tomorrow and I'm avidly none symptom spotting. Don't feel like it's happened this month but I could be wrong.x

Kiki275 · 01/09/2020 08:36

Scrap that, got cramps now. Not even sure what this means x

Treaclepie19 · 01/09/2020 09:19

@Kiki275 don't rule it out yet! I always get cramps even when I get a bfp.
Keeping everything crossed for you!!

I was in being checked yesterday for reduced movements so they've referred me for a growth scan.

It's our little boys birthday tomorrow but he starts reception so we're celebrating today and tomorrow 😊❤ I can't believe he will be 5!

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1stbabs · 01/09/2020 09:45

@Kiki275 my fingers are crossed for you! You're not out until AF arrives🤞🏽 xx

@Treaclepie19 sorry you were worried yesterday but great news that they've finally referred you for a scan. Hopefully that will put your mind at ease a little. And happy birthday to your little boy for tomorrow! Xx

I feel like I spend all my time worrying about movements. I keep thinking he's got a pattern established and then he'll do the complete opposite the next day when I've spent all day panicking 🙄. I'm 25 weeks now and hoping it will get more regular before 28. Doesn't help that I've got an anterior placenta.

Hope everyone is good xx

Treaclepie19 · 01/09/2020 09:48

Thank you @1stbabs. She's really active normally so I notice when there's a change.
Ds1 was never this active!
I'm sure your movements will get more regular and put you at ease. I worried a lot more about it pre-28 weeks. Mine is an anterior placenta too and ds1 was posterior but he was much more of a worry.

I'm glad to be having a scan though. They said they'd phone today to organise it. No doubt while I'm out for lunch 😂

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Kiki275 · 01/09/2020 10:55

@Treaclepie19 hope the growth scan provides reassurance. It was my little boys 2nd birthday yesterday. He was 2 weeks overdue and I was desperate for him to be out before the end of August. Were you the same?x