Support thread for women who are pregnant or TTC after a termination for abnormalities - Thread 5

[Conorgog]

Welcome to the newest thread of support for those ladies who are pregnant or trying to conceive after terminating for abnormalities. Since this thread first began (almost ten years ago!) there have been stories of heart break, sadness and fear, but from these stories there have also been stories of happiness, success and most importantly, hope. Here they are, our thread babies, and may the list continue to grow:


@Mishtabel - Bella 22/01/10
@Linspins – Franklin 22/01/10
@Shangrila – baby boy 01/02/10
@Cantdothisagain – Babycan't 12/04/10
@Katerina100 – baby boy 06/10
@NumptyMum - Josie 28/06/10
@Allstarsprincess – Frank 30/07/10
@Katiecubs - Felix 13/08/10
@GinaFB – Alexander 03/01/11
@LittlePoot - Jacob 02/02/11
@Coffeeandchocolate – Coffeebean 22/02/11
@Rushingrachel – Oliver 02/03/11
@Crazycatlady - Lawrence 08/03/11
@Dramamama - Isabella 13/03/11
@VivClicquot - Phoebe 28/04/11
@LisbethSalander - baby boy 7/11
@Stormbird – George 24/07/11
@Sarahmia – baby girl 25/07/11
@Eavers – Jacob 11/08/11
@Grandj – Eliot 01/09/11
@Babylily – Miles 05/09/11
@NatzCNL - Sienna 26/09/11
@Manitz - Sacha 28/09/11
@Cherrybug – Kade 02/11/11
@Ghislaine - Charles 14/01/12
@Mrsbigz - Callum 19/01/12
@MyangelAva - Isabella 21/1/12
@Bezzyk - Minibez II 2/2/12
@Katerina100 – baby girl 19/04/2012
@flower11 – Hannah 18/10/2012
@Bluecat83 – Noah est 24/10/2012
@katiecubs – Seth 05/02/2013
@Havingkittens – Alfred 14/04/2013
@ghislane – Frederick 22/10/2013
@lostlove – baby boy est 10/04/14
@AliBingo – baby boy est 06/05/14
@LuckyAugust –baby boy 26/01/2015

[Mangoandbroccoli]

Wow, you too @Conorgog! ❤️

@JO138 Go and have a brilliant time and drink ALL the wine! I'm sure I read you need to be concerned about drinks / certain foods when the placenta kicks in which wouldn't be for a while yet anyway so you're all good either way 😊🍷

[Mangoandbroccoli]

(And if you are concerned, just hold a glass of wine in your hand - did this through both pregnancies and no one ever noticed I wasn't drinking it 😂🙈)

[JO138]

Thanks @Mangoandbroccoli I did a test this morning kind of knowing that I would get a negative and have some guilt free wine. I'm super paranoid. I took my little boy for a xray on his foot 2 days before I got a positive test with the last one and when I was dissecting everything in a "why me" I was so upset about not sending my DH in for that bloody xray!

[Treaclepie19]

A glass of wine when waiting for AF is a sure way to make sure it doesn't come in my experience 😂
I was thinking the same about Friday.. you'd think I'd know by now that it's fine.

[Conorgog]

Gosh, def have a glass of wine, your not out till your out - but your not in either - so be super relaxed and enjoy!

[Treaclepie19]

Talking of out. I'm out :(
Af just arrived early. Back to a 23 day cycle this month... which also means an 8 day lp.

[Conorgog]

Ahhh boo @treaclepie19 so sorry about that.
I don’t have much knowledge around shorter cycles - mine tend to be on the longer side.

Hope your okay x

[JO138]

Thank you ladies. I'm now wondering if maybe I still have a chance......I was so convinced this morning that it was all over until next month!

@Treaclepie19 Urgh that's a drag. Where you irregular before? I have always been able to set a watch to my period and being a bit out of sync is really annoying! I've probably spent £100 on hpt this month because I just don't trust my cycle anymore.

[Treaclepie19]

Thank you. I'm used to the short cycles, bit shocked by my luteal phase though... I am temping now though and hopefully it wont be so short next month.

My main issue is that I had heavy bleeding with the baby we lost and obviously was pregnant so I feel like I should have tested.

[Treaclepie19]

@JO138 nope! I was fairly regular. It's so annoying not knowing where I stand.

[JO138]

Speaking of annoying.....my GP just texted me to tell me I am eligible for a free flu shot under my maternity exemption. FFS!

[Mini12]

Hi all, bit behind but just wanted to say I feel for you @JO138, I bet it's so hard being in that position, waiting for the next positive. Good luck tho it sounds like u still have a chance? x

Also on the subject of age gaps I was really hung up on this for a while, my Lo is 3 so would have had a 3 yr 3 month age gap between ours, which I thought would have been perfect but not meant to be. When I look at my own siblings and husband's siblings I don't think she gap matters, I'm very close in age to my brother and sister (18 months and 20 months) but we are sadly not that close. OH has a 7 year age gap with his brother and there really close, I think personalities are the thing that makes siblings close not age. I hope you have a lovely glass of wine tonight x

[JO138]

Thanks @Mini12 How are you? X

[Mini12]

@JO138 not bad thank you, I feel better than I expected to be. I had a little bit of a wobble last night when I discussed when to try again with OH, (funny you guys were discussing age gaps) he wants to take it slow and although I'm not wanting to rush, I started to resent the fact we waited to try for dd2 in the first place and had a bit of anger towards OH for this but it's quickly passed, no-one could foresee this happening so just have to keep telling myself that.
Hope you have a good night tonight, god knows you deserve it! x

[Mangoandbroccoli]

@Treaclepie19 Nooooooo, ugh I'm so sorry. At least it's quickly on to the next cycle if that has to happen??

@Mini12 Wow, we would have had exactly the same gaps 💔 So glad you're doing as well as can be expected. I'm sure there are plenty of ups and downs to come so please be kind to yourself.

@JO138 Keeping everything crossed for you.

@Conorgog How are you doing?

[Mangoandbroccoli]

@JO138 That's really poor re the flu jab. Your hospital should have informed your gp 😤

[JO138]

@Mini12 I went through a period with my DH wanting to wait before we tried again and I have to say if he had persisted I don't think that I would have coped. We didn't ever "decide " to try again but we just carried on DTD with no contraception

[Mini12]

JO138 actually I think that's probably the best way, maybe too much pressure deciding "when" ttc. I want to see how my body is for a few months anyway but then think we should just wait and see x

[Mangoandbroccoli]

I'm out 😔

[JO138]

@Mangoandbroccoli oh ugh. Im sorry

I've had a tiny bit more spotting but really feel like I'm out, just a matter of time. I'm also shattered and a bit hungover . Came out of the city at 11pm and just getting back in for a breakfast meeting. Ugh.

[Conorgog]

Urgh sorry @Mangoandbroccoli

Glad you had a good night @JO138 - that’s where I live - It’s noisy, but lots of fun!

I’m still bleeding like a heavy period, blegrgh. Hoping the big stuff has passed by tomorrow, really don’t want a d&c 😣

[Treaclepie19]

It seems like so many of us are being tested with AF and shittiness now. Why cant things just be easy for a bit after what we've all been through?

My period is so bloody heavy today again. I look white as a ghost.

Lots of love to you all ❤

[JO138]

I'm officially well and truly out. I'm actually headed home because it's so heavy I'm terrified I'm going to have an embarrassing accident. Bleck!

[Mangoandbroccoli]

Oh no, I'm so sorry ladies 😔

I'm at least glad I know either way and can crack on with a new cycle. Will be putting much more effort in this month, much to my husband's delight I'm sure 🤣 Roll on the end of the awful period week for all of us! xx

[Treaclepie19]

@JO138 I'm feeling the same. I hope you can have a rest this afternoon.

@Mangoandbroccoli I'm planning this month too! Will continue tempting, OPKs and going to do every other day dtd I think.