Support thread for women who are pregnant or TTC after a termination for abnormalities 3

[LittlePoot]

So, New Year, New Thread. And the next set of New Babies are arriving! I hope they prove that there can be light at the end of the very dark tunnel we have all had to come through and I hope there are many more babies to come. In the meantime, we're here, as ever, with supportive words, virtual hands to hold and multiple fingers to cross to help everyone through these nerve wracking waits and scans. A more lovely group of ladies you could not wish to find. xxx

Lovely to see the positive scan news kitty and natz. Kitty I don't think you're mad, we have to weigh up the risks against our own worries at each stage of pregnancy and it sounds like you have come to a sensible decision that you're happy with which is great!

Poot, I remember with DD that it was about the 3-4 week stage that I found absolutely the hardest. Tiredness had really set in, feeding was difficult and it all just felt so overwhelming. Remember you are still recovering from the birth - your body isn't at full strength yet and your hormones will be plummeting. Whatever direction the feeding goes in you will settle into a routine that works for you in the next few weeks. Certainly by 6 weeks I felt a lot more confident and able to resume normal life a bit more, just with this new tiny person in tow .

Manitz, I hope you're doing ok. Self-indulgent posts are more than allowed!

Nothing happening here. I have bounced, bounced and bounced some more on my birth ball, eaten the hottest curry known to man and bullied DH into as much sex as he can stomach with a grumpy, tearful and enormous wife. Off for a brisk walk uphill to collect DD from childminder shortly. Then it's date night again. Lucky DH . I can tell this baby's head isn't even engaged yet so it could be a long wait...

Coffee, Drama, how are you doing? Pleeeease don't be queue-jumping! xx

just had to quickly report my fantastic news...I rang the hospital this afternoon just in case...and we have come back as
'extremely low risk...
1:4000 for DS & 1:20,000 for Edwards and Patau.
Very unexpected given my history, age, etc etc.
Actually able to go public...I can't quite believe it and keep bursting into tears! So glad we didn't go straight for CVS and had the nuchal instead.

kitty - what you're saying does make complete sense. I had decided not to go straight to CVS for pretty much the same reasons...small steps at a time and only if really really the only ones to be made) You have to trust your decisions to be the right ones for you (if that makes sense).
We must be due around the same time!

natz - lovely to hear you had a lovely scan! hope the nuchal comes around quickly and you get to be just as elated as we are.

x

Wonderful lily! Those are great results. Such a relief for you. Hope you have a relaxing evening letting the news sink in xx

Another fly by visit - just wanted to say another congratulations to babylily, fantastic odds!

Kitty, also a wonderful result from your scan, and I completely understand the reasoning for declining the bloods. You are not mad for doing it.

Poot, sorry to hear Jacob has not been thriving with BF, but as Cherry said, it's not good to have a stressed out mummy and if formula is what he needs then that is the way forwrd. I hope you do manage to combine feed if that is what you choose to do. None of my nephews would take to BF, and my sister and SIL tried so hard to get them to take it. Some babies just dont want to BF. Also just wanted to reassure you that 6 weeks was the turning point with both my DD's, so sanity is within reach xx

Catlady - lucky DH! He he!!! Hope baby mets into place and moving soon.

Hello to everyone else x

Great news from Babylily and Ilovekitty!

Whispers congratulations to Manitz. Hope you are feeling better.

Lovely to hear from LittlePoot. I guess it takes a while to find your feet and establish what works best for you and Jacob. Don't beat yourself up about the feeding, sounds like he's doing well and putting on weight now.

Hope all is well with everyone else. Not long to go 'til there's another baby boom on here!

Sorry Natz, somehow missed your post. Glad to hear your scan went well. x

hi thanks Havingkittens, I am much better now. i just thought pg was much much worse than I remembered - I have little or no memory of anything much - and couldn't work out how I was going to get through. I went home from work and hallucinated for 24 hours, stopped sweating about lunchtime yesterday and back in the office now.

Now, apart from on here, I'm planning to ignore this pregnancy and get on with everything else. DD's birthday this weekend so really busy as all the rellys have to come on different days. because I was laid up none of her presents have been wrapped. It drives me mad that i have two days out sick and nothing has happened in the house, then dh says things like 'you only work part time' etc etc. He is doing childcare today - all 3 for the first time ever - he has a long list of things to do including hospital appointments. i'm waiting to see if he still thinks i'm a slacker when i get home . This morning he asked what was for lunch?! erm, well there is bread and cheese, how about a sandwich, or how about you look in the cupboard and work out what you would like????

So glad to hear about such lovely scans. Littlepoot for what it's worth my 3 have all had failure to thrive, ie they dropped 2 centiles from birthweight. The first two were panicked over and sent for all sorts of tests but by ds they said it was just the way my kids were. I was deeply stressed by numbers one and two (who ended up mixed fed for similar reasons to you) but was finally allowed to relax with ds and feed him the way i wanted. Breastfeeding is really hard work for so many reasons but I think mixing is a good compromise if it works for you. x

PS catlady. have you tried washing the windows?

Manitz - congratulations, i know it's early days and you are nervous but you still need that congratulations! I hope you are feeling a bit better now - i didn't know you had such a brood wow.

Kitty welcome back and congratulations to you too! As everyone has said what you are feeling is sooo normal and you are in the right company here. I also think buying a toy for your little one was a lovely idea.

Baby Lily and Natz - super news on the scans, must be such a lovely relief :)

Kittens really hope your appointment in 3 weeks is useful, if they try and send you home kick up a big fuss and don't take no for an answer. Good luck with meeting your friends new baby, you will be fine and if for any reason you are not then like you say she will totally understand. Sending hugs your way x

Poot have been eager to find out how you were getting on, thanks so much for the update. It's so hard at first but you are very right every day and weeks gets easier. Now for me it's like hanging out with a small giggly pall all day :) try and enjoy the early days too though as they go so fast,now i wish i had spent less time worrying and more time savouring the smallness as it's like it was all a dream. And don't beat yourself up over the breastfeeding, like everyone on here told me. Felix was fully bottle fed by 6 weeks after much crying and agonising on my part - again i wish i had just accepted it as looking at him now it seems so unimportant in the big scale of thinks. Give Jacob a big kiss from me x

Crazycat - get a move on girl my arms are getting tired from all the pom pom waving - i am just too excited!! Coffee and Drama hope you girls are bearing up ok and don't have to wait too long.

All good here, Felix has become mobile so rolls, gets stuck, cries, rolls, gets stuck, cries - and repeat! Love to all xxx

Hello all! lovely to hear so much good news coming from the thread it's very cheering
Catlady i don't think you need to worry about me que jumping mini-drama seems happy where she is for the forseeable future much to my dismay as i'd quite like a cuddle now and George is getting most impatient and can't understand why she doesn't want to come out and watch ben 10 with him?! (can't say i blame her there .
Coffee hope your keeping well and arn't as fed up as me!
Mishta I promise you i am sometimes a lazy miserable bum but it never lasts long especially on days like today when the sun is shining.
Anywho just a quick one from me i'm off to take a renee for the horrendous heart burn i have. Love to everyone DM xXxXxXx

Hi ladies, just a very quick one, to let you know that Coffebean arrived on Tuesday evening, weighing in at 7lbs 14oz. It was a complicated labour, failed ventouse and then forceps, and I am not feeling well at all at the moment, I am grateful for DH's 2 weeks off as I can barely move. But I've never been happier in my life, he is gorgeous and I've cried so much when he was born, the relief is incredible.

I haven't been able to keep up to date with all your posts and will most likely not be able to post for a while, but thank you all again for all your support and I'll certainly start asking for lots of advice soon :)

Coffee! I knew it. You've been quiet for too long... Wonderful news that Coffeebean is here. Sorry your labour was difficult. I had a crappy one with DD that ended in forceps and it did take a while to recover from.

Have you chosen a name yet?

Right I am off to wash windows... Drama the race is on! xx

Congratulations Coffee - make sure your DH is put to work while you just cuddle your baby and get your strength back.

Ah coffee you've made me cry. at work. congratulations I'm so pleased for you. My friend's mum is an hv she says you should treat like an op and do nothing for 2 weeks at least. Hope you are able to xx

Oh Coffee. I am tearful now too. I am so so happy that your Coffeebean arrived safely and early. Can't wait to hear more.

Poot, I echo the others on the formula. You have done your best. If breastfeeding isn't allowing him to thrive, you are being a good mother by giving him the formula he needs. And yes, by 6 weeks, you do feel more in control for definite - hold onto that thought.

Good news on all the scans. It is a happy place, this thread, atm.

Still thinking of you Kittens, Mimsy, etc.

Anyone heard from LisbethSalander??

Yay coffee!!!!!!! so so pleased to hear your happy news - sorry to hear you had a hard time in labour but it sounds that your little bundle has more than made up for it. Enjoy xxx

Congratulations Coffee!! Lovely news. I hope you get to enjoy snuggles with lovely DS who is yours, all yours (and DH's of course!). Re the labour, I'd second Catlady and Manitz - while DH is off try and get all the rest you can, snuggle in bed and have a babymoon.

Oooh, thread babies in abundance! Grand. And positive scans too (Hooray Babylily and Natz; and Kitty I'd do the same as you), and positive lines. Sorry if I've missed anyone but had loads of reading to catch up on, been not getting much sleep here...

and Poot, I thought I had supply issues at the start with Josie and took fenugreek, then ended up with opposite problem as had too much! It's also very helpful to post on breastfeeding threads as there are some experience people there I think. But in the end, the best thing is to be unstressed and able to delight in your new baby.

Chicken pox over for DS, waiting to see if Josie gets it but she may avoid it this time. Great to hear that Felix is moving about - Josie has finally worked out how to crawl after a month of nearly being there and now she's FINALLY getting her hands on DS's toys

Love to all, xx and zzz.

Congratulations Coffee!!! I was getting a bit suspicious as there had been a gap in posting. Such wonderful news, well done. The birth will eventually get forgotten (easy to say now), hope you, DH and coffeebean are getting lots of family cuddles xxx

Awww, Coffee, lovely to hear your news. Congratulations! Rest up and look after yourself and take full advantage of your DH! Sorry to hear you had a difficult labour but glad to hear of your overwhelming joy! xx

hello poot i meant to say that someone told me to drink beer to increase milk. Think it is hops or yeast related. I took it as true! x

congratluations coffee! Hope you feel better soon...but in the meantime just lie back and enjoy lots of lovely brand new baby time.xx

HOORAY!!! congrats to coffee and mr coffee absolutely made up for you, although sorry it wasn't an overly positive birthing experience but the main thing is coffee bean is safe and well with his mummy and daddy as the ladies have said get plenty of rest and make sure you eat! sounds like a silly thing to remind you of but when George was born i was offen so content just feeding him and taking care of him i forgot about me! lol.
Crazycat your on!....although i still think you'll prob beat me i'm getting nada this end but then i'm not technically due for another 12 days.
Love to all XxXxXxX

Oh coffee, that's such wonderful news - I too feel all teary, knowing just how much we've all been through. I hope you've had a wonderful first couple of days getting to know your boy, and that you're healing well after your birth

Reading back, it looks like there's been lots of lovely news on this thread in the past week, so love and congratulations to all. Funny how this swathe of good news seems to have come at a time when spring seems to have sprung, and things generally seem much lighter and lovelier.

Anyway, sending you all lots of love xxx

Tears of joy for you Coffee - congratulations!! I've been waiting for a chance to write a proper message, but realise that may never happen, so this quick one will have to do. I am just so, so happy for you. Please give little Coffeebean a cuddle for me. Enjoy this beautiful time, it goes so fast xxx

Poot, though those early days can be so special, they can also be the most stressful - it does get better, I promise. As for bf/ff, I don't think any of that matters in the big picture. Just do whatever works for you. Kisses to little Jacob xx

Numpty, I hope BabyJ escapes the chickenpox. Poor little DS, glad he's on the mend xx

Hello and love to everyone else xxx

Congratulations Coffee and welcome to the world coffeebean - what lovely news. Sorry to hear of the difficult labour but sure you'll be feeling much better soon. Lots of warm baths with lavender and tea tree oil! Enjoy these early days getting to know your little man. x

Drama I have just realised my dates are wrong, so my due date is later than I thought! The race really is on...

With all the stress around the 12 weeks scan and then being so pleased it was a low risk result I didn't even think to question the date. But yesterday I counted properly and it would be physically impossible for me to have a due date of 18th Feb as this would have needed my last period to start on 15th May 2010. I had an early miscarriage on 20th May 2010, so on the 15th I was still pregnant with the previous pregnancy...

I had forgotten my GP had originally estimated my due date at 1 March. Actually when I did the proper maths it looks more like 23 Feb, which would only put me a few days overdue rather than massively so.

I don't know why it's taken me so long to figure this out. Am going to have to chat to my midwife when I see her tomorrow as I am facing the threat of induction.

Sorry, very self centred post indeed and I'm boring everyone to tears with this revelation at the moment, but it feels massively important somehow...

Coffee how are you doing? I hope you're beginning to feel a bit better physically after the birth and that Coffeebean is doing well xx