Support thread for women who are pregnant or TTC after a termination for abnormalities 3

[LittlePoot]

So, New Year, New Thread. And the next set of New Babies are arriving! I hope they prove that there can be light at the end of the very dark tunnel we have all had to come through and I hope there are many more babies to come. In the meantime, we're here, as ever, with supportive words, virtual hands to hold and multiple fingers to cross to help everyone through these nerve wracking waits and scans. A more lovely group of ladies you could not wish to find. xxx

Not much time to post as feeding a spotty DD just now, but wanted to say to Catlady that I had similar situation with DS ie due date before it was possible, or so it seemed. So I opted for monitoring - pretty sure NICE guidelines say it's up to you if you want to do this, though the system can heap the pressure on. My first monitoring scan showed that my amniotic fluid was low (at around +10 days) and the second, two days later, wasn't any better. So given the risks of that, we decided to go ahead with induction. Actually by that point (+12?) my body had finally decided it might want to do something, my waters broke the evening of the induction... but labour fizzled out. My body doesn't seem to have the whole labour programme set properly!

But in my experience, hosp will stick to whatever due date they gave you at scan, they seem to think they are absolutely infallible, even though my due date for DD was changed each time I went! It was only within a day each time though, I think.

Better go! xx

Hi all, just a quick one while my little one is sleeping. We put him in the conservatory at the moment as he is a bit jaundiced and needs as much light as he can get.

Very hard to keep up to date with the thread at the moment, however I am so pleased for the good scans and the BFP manitz. Congratulations and as usual I'm keeping everything crossed.

Poot, I hope little Jacob is better now and gaining weight steadily. Breast might be best, but if it turns into a source of stress for you and Jacob is not gaining weight, then formula is the best solution and you are doing what's best for him. It's just so hard not to feel guilty when all we hear for 9 months is that breastfeeding is the only way.

Second week at home for us, and tiredness is indeed settling in, but it's all so new and exciting, and I'm loving every minute of it. I'm feeling better as well and I can take small walks around the house. My DH has been a saint and has done all the housework, so I can just cuddle and feed my little Coffeebean.

Numpty, you've had your share of illnesses for a while now, I hope it has all settled down and you'll be able to get some sleep soon.

Catlady, I'm shaking the labour pom-poms for you. Drama is next then, how exciting, more thread babies!

I have to dash now, but not without saying again a big thank you to you all for your support during these nerve-wracking 9 months. You have made it all much more bearable. xxxx

Just back from the hospital after some quick monitoring. All ok on the CTG. They didn't bother with a scan and are happy for me to come back on Friday morning for monitoring again when I'll be 42 weeks by scan date and 41+2 by my own dates.

They offered me induction on the home from home unit, which was quite tempting as I'm getting bored now, but since everything is still normal I've opted to decline it, come home, have some acupuncture and yet more sex in the hope of getting things moving.

My midwife is very supportive and happy to attend me at home still. So we shall see what the next couple of days brings... if I haven't had the baby by Sunday then at that point I will go for induction.

You're right Numpty they didn't want to move my dates, but were at least willing to listen and I didn't feel pressurised which was refreshing.

Coffee it's so lovely to hear from you and that you're loving every minute with Coffeebean. Is it sunny where you are today? Hopefully a bit of sunlight is all he needs to clear the jaundice. xx

Numpty, poor BabyJ :( At least it will be over and done with I suppose. My big girls never had CP, and they somehow missed out on their vaccination for it at school a couple of years back. I must really get them immunised as it can be quite bad at their age. Hope she gets over it quickly xx

Catlady, definite pom pom shaking for you. I suppose you would say you are SWI again? TMI alert, but it actually worked for me once, and of course I didn't get up to shower after so as to let the prostaglandin do it's job; went into labor and forgot all about it until the midwife was checking how far dilated I was - in all my wisdom, I told her how I'd just induced myself so to speak. To her credit she didn't so much as grimace, just chuckled and continued her examination. Now that's what I call professional. Ewww! I had also had a shot of castor oil for good measure, but I don't think that's recommended these days (if it ever was). Good luck xx

Coffee, so lovely to get an update, to hear how much you're loving being a mum, and that you're healing. The birth sounds like it must have been traumatic for you. Bet DH is smitten. Cuddles to little Coffeebean xx

Hello and love to everyone else xxx

Hello all!
lovely to hear from coffee, glad your feeling better and DH is being a very attentive new daddy give coffeebean a little squeeze for me!
crazycat: won't be long now and i still think you'll beat me, aside from some "ooo are these braxton hicks there a bit strong?" moments minidrama appears a bit too comfy for her own good! good luck and i hope all goes well no matter how you get started off.
I'm so bored! DS is at school all my rl friends are at work or busy...was debating getting my nails done as a treat but then i'm not sure what the policy is with emergency c-sections and acrylics??? also prob not v-practical with a newborn really just sick of looking at my ratty nubs and battered cuticles ....sorry what am i waffling on about?! i think this baby needs to get a move on before my brain perminently turns into mush!

Drama you just reminded me of a comedy moment in my last labour... while being wheeled into theatre for trial of forceps before EMCS I interrupted the anaesthetist four times by shouting 'but i HAVE to tell you, I have NAIL POLISH on my toes, and it's RED, it's not even CLEAR'!

He just patted me on the head and said 'well you'll be glad to hear we're not going to do anything to your toes' .

I never got as far as the EMCS, but they gave me an EMCS level epidural just in case, and weren't bothered about the nail polish. Not sure about acrylics though and wouldn't want to risk having them unceremoniously removed in a rush (ouch!)

Have just seen my midwife again. Bishops score now 5 so a mild improvement. More acupuncture this afternoon, monitoring in the morning and then if still no labour I'll be induced tomorrow night xx

Oh forgot to say Mishta I had a similar moment with my midwife mid-sweep... I felt I had to warn her that we'd had sex every night and I went to bed with evening primrose oil capsules stuffed up by my cervix! She didn't even flinch...

Oh, Catlady, seriously Lol at that one! How funny A capsule - who'd have thought!
I hope the acupuncture worked and you are too busy giving birth/cuddling your little one to even read this. If not, the 'home away from home' unit, though obviously not quite the same as a home-birth, sounds lovely. Again, good luck xx

Waving pom poms in anticipation for catlady i settled for reflexology and a pedicure in the end btw the beauticians was quiet and it's run by my bf's sister so i got ridiculously pampered which was lovely cause i never normally have any time to do this sort of thing, still think mini-drama has settled in for the long haul but the bag is packed the house is clean (well...as clean as it gets with a 4yr old boy tearing round it daily) and the delivery ward is on speed dial along with DP's work and grandparents to take care of DS so i can put my feet up and play the waiting game i suppose.
Catlady your story had me in stitches that's exactly what i wld have done lol

Tired after a typical night with a 10-day old, but still shaking those pom-poms for Catlady... hope no update means she is cuddling Catbaby.

I was also wondering about Rachel, I think her due date was 1 day before mine, so last Sunday. I hope all is well and the little one is here now.

So Drama is next, then is it Viv? Is this the year of the thread babies or what?

Numpty, I hope Josie is better.

Hi to everyone, not much time to post these days... everything ok here, Coffeebean is striving and gaining weight steadily, so I'm very pleased. xxxx

Hello hello. Had home computer trouble but delighted to let you know belatedly that baby Oliver Patrick arrived last Wednesday. It was a lovely calm delivery and he's a very zen baby. More than can be said for his brother who is acting up big time! All the spare energy I have from feeling good after a quick delivery is devoted to being resolutely patient in the face of the toddler emotion hurricane!

Anyway going to catch up on the thread now but from what I have seen in a quick look at this page can I say BIG CONGRAAAAATULATIONS to Coffee on the birth of Coffeebean, so delighted for you and so glad you sound so happy. And Catlady you must have the patience of a saint. A friend of mine is 41 weeks at the moment and she has actually become insane with the waiting, as I fear I might have. Fingers crossed for some action really soon and hope you get the home birth you have planned.

R xx

Congratulations Rachel! Sounds like a lovely delivery, here's hoping DS calms down soon , if it's not one it's the other...! And may I say, a lovely name choice, Oliver is a favourite of mine.

Catlady - I am hoping Catbaby has arrived by now

I am anxiously awaiting the nuchal scan in 16 days. It is also Cara's due date today and the last week has been a real rollercoaster of emotions. We went and laid some flowers in the garden of rememberance which was lovely but so difficult as it's the first time Ive been back since the cremation. All the old raw emotions came flooding back (not helped by the pregnancy hormones and immense guilt I feel by being pregnant).
All in all it's been a pretty exhausting day, and came home to find a referral letter for eldest DD to see a peadiatrician as the GP is concerned she is too small. Both DD's hav enow taken to sneaking into our bed in the early hours of the morning which has been making for some pretty cramped sleeping conditions and severe back ache!

Coffee - I hope you are resting and enjoying your little boy, you too Rachel. Poot I hope things are going well with you? xx

Sorry for the very few personals, I hope you are all keeping well and happy. Manitz, how are things? xx

hi natz all fine here, Ive been to see my gp and am waiting for my booking referral with the mw and scan dates etc. I am really tired at the moment but no other symptoms yet. I'm glad you have marked Cara's due date. hope the pead goes well, dd was always too skinny for them.

rachel congratulations, i think i've already said it to coffee but in case i forgot i've been reading and thinking it!

Got to go now. Please can someone tell me if I can eat Boursin? i have half a pack left and I'm dying to eat it.
Thanks x

Quickly popping on to say Congratulations to Rachel! So glad to hear that all went well and that Oliver Patrick is a zen baby... just what you need with a toddler adjusting to the role of big brother! Hope you are enjoying your snuggles together.

Got to go, small boy in a strop.

Strop diverted - honestly, we've had a month of illness here (D&V, Chicken pox twice, and now earache) and I'm getting a bit tired of it. Josie is getting better now, she's covered in spots and was really bad on Thurs/Fri but at least she's now smiling again. At least DS has finally begun wearing pants, a major step for him.

Anyway, hoping today goes well for Catlady if she's still waiting for Catbaby to appear; and that Drama is well and not too fed up. Laughed at the TMI re sweeps! Eeew.

And good luck to those at the start of the journey, worrying about those first scans. There's such a conflict of emotions when marking the dates of a lost baby when carrying another. We all made decisions that none of us wished to make for those babies; there is such a driving desire to be pregnant again to make it all right and yet when it happens there is that guilt, misplaced though it is. Plus the fears for what could happen again. The only thing to do is take it a day at a time, get through each day and try to distract yourself... and in time the guilt will go, for it IS misplaced. You love the child you lost; you love the child you are carrying.

No idea re the Boursin, I'm afraid - now I'm hungry!

Bye for now.

Congratulations Rachel! What a lovely name Oliver is. Glad all went well. I'm sure big brother will settle down soon, it must be so hard for them. I used to torture myself by likening it to DH coming home with another woman (fictional scenario) and saying 'look at this lovely new lady we have, she'll be living with us forever, but don't worry, I still love you just as much'. I'm sure it's not that bad for them though (I should hope not). Good luck xx

Ok, help me, I'm losing track; we now have Catlady and Drama to go (though think Babycat will be here by now), then a bit of a gap until Viv, then another bigger gap until the next batch, of which there are a fair few (?).

Manitz, I took the liberty of googling for you (I google everything). According to the Norbiton Fine Cheese Co, UK, it is quite safe for you to have Boursin - enjoy :)

Hello to all xx

X-post with you Numpty. So glad to hear BabyJ is on the mend xx

Grrrrr! I had written a long message full of personals, and it's all gone! Anyway, no time now for another one (hungry baby), but congratulations Rachel, wonderful news, and Natz, I am glad you found a fitting way to mark Cara's due date. I was also pregnant on Silvia's due date and I remember very well the mixed emotions.

Hello to everyone else - waiting for news from Catlady. xxxx

Mmm Boursin... I've eaten it by the truckload this pregnancy after not having it for years. I hope it's now been devoured Manitz!

Needless to say I am still here, still waiting. Daily monitoring still showing a happy baby but if I don't go into labour naturally tonight I think I will probably be induced tomorrow if the hospital has space for me. I'll be 42+3 by scan dates and 41+5 by my own so I think it's about time really. We have tried every other way of getting Catbaby to make an appearance... one last extra special Date Night for DH tonight in the hope it might work .

Rachel, what wonderful news that your little one is here! I am very jealous of course and cannot wait to be sharing newborn stories with you (or toddler + newborn tales of horror!.

Natz I too was pregnant on my baby's due date. It is such a conflict of emotions it's really hard to know how to feel. I hope you're doing ok today and not too anxious about the upcoming nuchal scan. The waiting can be tough...

Poot, Coffee, I hope you're not feeling too exhausted through the newborn haze. It will definitely get easier as the weeks go by.

If I do go in for induction tomorrow I'll post before I go in xx

Good luck catlady! i'm still shaking my pom poms for you, had a date night myself last night but to no avail! i'm just very impatient aren't i? i'm trying to keep busy and take my mind off the waiting.
Natz: I'm another one who was pg on my babys due date, i won't lie it was hard and i looked at his little hand and footprints and scan pic and had a cry it made me feel better to acknowlage his little life. And his nuchal scan result was really tiny compared to the little girl i'm now waiting on so the nuchal isn't always the b-all and end-all. Hope you had a gentle day x
right i'm off to beddy bys now (getting the sleep in while i can) so goodnight and again good luck to catlady XxXx

Hi all

Congratulations to Rachel! Fantastic news and lovely name. It takes a while for pfb to adjust to the arrival of a sibling - it'll settle down shortly, I promise.

Catlady, writing as one who went 2 weeks overdue with DD1, I genuinely know how you feel. Here's to labour setting off spontaneously during the night. Looking forward to your news.

Numpty, hope your two are okay now. The pox is horrid. DD1 had it last year; Babycant avoided it, luckily, since she was just three months old at the time.

Hi Mishtabel, how's things? and Coffee, you sound so loved up. Hungry babies are a good excuse to catch up on Mumsnet and watch a lot of TV....

Good luck Drama, too.

So many new babies!

Natz, Manitz, Grandj, good luck with coming scans....

Hi everyone, sorry I haven't been able to come and post for a long while. Been having a pretty bad time with DH since November (long story). We are having counselling, which is helping somewhat. TTC is consequently off the cards, maybe forever, so I have found it a bit difficult to come near this thread. But I wanted to come and say congratulations for the new arrivals (so many!) and good luck to those imminently expecting babies (and BFPs).

We went to Australia and it was great to see my family and friends. Thanks to Numpty for the texts and checking on me. Thanks to everyone for asking about me. I may not be back for a while but I want you to know I do think about you all, and wish you all the luck in the world.

Oh Mimsy, I am so sorry that you have been having such a hard time. I really hope things improve. Take care of yourself and give your DS a huge hug.

Mimsy, sorry to hear that. Although of course I don't know your situation, in my experience, the saying 'what doesn't kill you makes you stronger' goes for relationships too. Wishing you and your DH all the best. Take care, you know where we are xx

Natz, I seem to have missed your post from Saturday. I hope in some small way you found it healing. Good luck for your upcoming scan. As for the girls sneaking into your bed, I can empathise. 14yr old DD occasionally sneaks into our bed, not so bad when DH is away, but when he's home and with Bella in the bed also - oh the backache in the morning!

Love to everyone xxx

Hi everyone I haven't posted on this thread before and i'm a bit new to this! I had a poorly baby who was born the 4th Feb at 17 weeks who we called Harry :-( We would really like to try for another baby but we were not given any info on this. I just wondered if anyone had any idea when your periods return and if you can start trying straight away?

Big congrats to all who have just had babies been reading your posts :-) xx