Support thread for women who are pregnant or TTC after a termination for abnormalities 3

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So, New Year, New Thread. And the next set of New Babies are arriving! I hope they prove that there can be light at the end of the very dark tunnel we have all had to come through and I hope there are many more babies to come. In the meantime, we're here, as ever, with supportive words, virtual hands to hold and multiple fingers to cross to help everyone through these nerve wracking waits and scans. A more lovely group of ladies you could not wish to find. xxx

Hello Everyone,

It has been a awfully long time since I last posted on this thread but I have been trying to keep up every now and then with the goings on.

I just wanted to say congratulations to those of you who have had their babies, congrats to those of you who find themselves pregnant again and I really do hope you have a smooth pregnancies and also GOOD LUCK to those trying.

Hello to Kittens, Manitz, Natz, cherrybug, babylily and Mishtabel and whoever else was about when I last posted. (If you can remember back that far)

I'm currently 32+2 weeks pregnant and can't believe I've managed to get this far and it has been pretty uneventful apart from the CVS.

I Hope you are all well - I just wanted to check in XXX

Hi Stormbird. Of course I remember you. Great to hear you're on the home stretch and everything's going well.

MyangelAva, I'm glad that what I've said has given you hope. I think this thread is such a lifeline so please do make yourself at home here. There is plenty of empathy, hand holding, ranting, and hopefully eventual joy, etc to be had here.

I would just say, have a chat with your midwife or consultant to see if you can be offered an early CVS this time. I am now offered a CVS at 11+3 I think, before I even have a Nuchal. I'm so sorry that things turned out how they did for you, even after such positive odds and combined testing. I was just questioning on the other thread that I'm on about how I would feel about having a CVS, with the associated risks or miscarriage, now having had 4 miscarriages in addition to my two terminations but what you have said has reinforced my original instinct to go for a CVS in my next pregnancy. So, it looks like we've both helped each other out somehow.

Congratulations on your BFP, bittersweet and very scary at the moment I'm sure but fingers crossed this one will be uneventful. Stick around here whenever you need to. I'm not on here that much at the moment as I feel I need to get to at least 8-10 weeks before it's even worth me worrying about Nuchal Scans and so forth but everyone else will make you feel welcome.

Stormbird, good to hear from you and that's great to hear you've had such a straightforward time. Not too long to go now, keep us posted!

Hi myangelava, good to see you here! Can't give that much advice as to early stuff as I didn't tell anyone until I was 8 weeks when I thought I really had to get my head out of the sand and phone the hospital! You should get an early viability scan at around 8 weeks so ask about that and get booked in for the nuchal as early as possible so that if you do wish to have CVS you can have it early. The nuchal only tests for downs though (on NHS) so if you feel you need to know for certain then invasive testing is the only way. The only way I could know if this baby has the same as last time is via invasive testing but I'd like to avoid that if I have no red flags to point me in that direction IYKWIM, so we are waiting for the detailed scan in June and if anything looks wrong there we will probably have amnio. CVS miscarriage risk at my hospital was 1 in 50 so that wasn't an option for us really.
In my last pregnancy I felt something was wrong from the start and had a number of worrying signs, very faint HPT, no strong symptoms, baby measuring small for dates, 1 in 13 risk of DS at 16 week bloods which led us to amnio and the discovery our baby had an unbalanced translocation. This time my pregnancy has been much more like it was with my DD and I've been put ahead datewise so the baby is growing well. It's not scientific but as our geneticist said to us, every pregnancy is different and you should make decisions based on how you feel this time rather than the outcome of the last time. So I would say, like many others have done, take every step at a time.

Kittens, hope the steroids don't make you feel so rough this time and 2WW goes by quickly. The hope list would be lovely to read!

Mistabel, thanks, I am so looking forward to our holiday and hoping I can switch off for 2 weeks and then face it all again when I get back. Have detailed scan 2 days after we get back. I remember you saying that hopefully the only thing I'd be worrying about would be if people thought I looked fat. No point worrying about that now as I'm huge already! Tankini rather than bikini for me! Though our second week is in a private villa so I can let it all hang out!

Hope natz, grandj, babylily, sarahmia & manitz are all well and not worrying too much. Manitz, are you next to have a scan?

Love to everyone else!

Hi everyone, it?s been ages since I?ve been able to post, although I am lurking.

Cantdo, my heart sank when I read about your friend, I can?t even begin to imagine what they?re going through. I hope surgery won?t be needed for the poor little one, and it?s excellent there was no brain damage.

Natz, I was doing exactly the same when pregnant, calling my DH to say I felt no movement all morning, and then again to ?update? him when Coffeebean was kicking me later.

Manitz, excellent news about the scan. Knowing that things are as good as they can be at this stage will hopefully put your mind at rest a little.

Cherry, great news from you too about the risk. Enjoy your holiday for the moment, you need to have a little break from anxiety before your anomaly scan.

Kittens, fingers crossed for the 2ww and that you don?t have so many side effects from the steroids this month. Still cheering you on.

Myangelava, welcome and gentle congratulations! No other advice except to get through each day and try not to think ahead too much. That?s how I got through the early weeks.

As for us, I?ve been struggling a bit this last couple of weeks, and lack of sleep doesn?t help. I?ve hesitated a bit before posting in here, as I am above all so grateful that Victor is healthy and I don?t want this to sound as if I?m complaining, but it seems to have become harder, not easier. Feeding is not going so well anymore. He is gaining weight nicely, but he is feeding little and often, and it?s been ages since I?ve seen him come off the breast happy. He is unsettled most of the time, feeds for 5 minutes and then something seems to bother him and he wouldn?t continue to feed, even if I burp him and give him a break before trying again. He just never seems full anymore, and I am wondering if this has something to do with him refusing to nap (by the way, thank you all for your advice, I have tried everything but he just can?t settle, or rather I can?t settle him anymore during the day). It breaks my heart to see him come off the breast crying, and I have no idea what is wrong. It doesn?t look like colic, sometimes there is no trapped wind at all.

We?ve decided to give him milk only from a bottle tomorrow, to see if it makes any difference. He is just so miserable for a good part of the day, and I?m at a loss about what to do, I just cuddle him. I hope that if he manages to take more milk at a feed this will make him a bit more settled. What really got to me is that he started to cry in his car seat and pram, so even going out has become stressful. I need to go out for my sanity.

Anyway, despite this he is a joy, and I enjoy every broad, toothless smile. I just wish there were more if these and less crying, poor little thing!

What a mega message?. as usual, once I start writing, I just go on and on. I really have to go now and catch up on some sleep. I?ll be here lurking, even if I probably won?t be able to post for a few days xxxx

hi there. thanks for well wishes. Stormbird I'm very glad everything is going well for you and you are so far on in your pregnancy! you must be the next to pop I guess.

Coffee bf is so hard at this stage it probably doesn't seem like it but Victor is still very little and in my zombie time when I look back at my kids. It takes about 3 months to establish feeding and is very hard. I gave up with both girls at around the 3 month mark - mix fed till about 6months but the bf was just really for comfort than food. It seems massive at the time but when you look back it's not such a big decision. I fed ds more successfully until he started biting (at about a year) ouch. Looking back I realise I could have continued to bf with dd1 if I had started to feed in a separate room rather than just everywhere. She and even more so dd2 got really distracted and would pull off and look around then go back for a bit more and repeat - all day if they could!! I think it would have been better if I'd gone off on my own in a darkened room and created a really relaxing atmosphere. At the time though I didn't want to impose regimes and wanted to socialise and fit the baby in with me. I cant remember but did you try baby massage? the U one is particularly good. Also I found they always have a sleep after being in the swimming pool, perhaps you could take him swimming if he's had his jabs.

cherrybug I think my next scan is 8 June but I'll let you know. We are off camping over half term and I'm really excited about it although concerned about my poor back which is really painful during this pregnancy. I've a feeling natz is next.
Hope everyone is well. xx

sorry, kittens, fingers crossed here too. Hope steroids not too grim.x

Thank you girls for welcoming me and for your advice. Thank you in particular to cherry, I feel exactly the same and interestingly, I had the same experience with faint BFP and small for dates etc. with my last pregnancy too. I am aware that there will be lots of decisions to make but for now I just wanted to be in the system because that was a massive hurdle with my last pregnancy.
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Sorry for yet another fleeting post, I will get on here properly soon and do a full catch up - just skim reading at the moment. Welcome MyAngelAva, and congratulations on your BFP. I was slightly in denial when I got mine, but booked in with GP as soon as possible to get the care started. All of our care so far has been excellent and everyone has been aware of our history (partly because it's the first thing I mention when we see anyone new). We opted not to have a CVS after our odds with comparason with the the odds of miscarriage after CVS, especially as I suffered a big bleed after the CVS with our lost baby Cara. However I know odds are not something that will offer you reassurance this time around. Just wanted to wish you well and welcome you.

Kittens good luck with the 2ww! And hope as others have said that the steroids are kinder to you this time around.

Sorry for lack of personals again. Suffering with awful back pain, not sure if it's siatica or if I have pulled something. Has anyone used tens machine during pregnancy? I have one which says not to use during first 12 weeks but am still rather cautious about using it at nearly 23 weeks. Am going to rind midwife tomorrow as back pain is causing a lot of problems with doing pretty much everything at home!

Cherry, Mishtabel, Manitz, Stormbird (hello and horray for not too long now), babylily and anyone else I have missed, hello and hope you are all well. Coffee I hope the bottle feeding has helped settle Victor? Have you spoken to GP about possible reflux?

Got our scan on the 2nd June. Hopefully will be able to find out the sex if baby lets us - and we have a different sonographer!

Not so quick post after all....

Hope everyone is well and will be back on again soon xx

Thanks for the reassurance manitz. Natz, sorry to hear about your back pain, can you try an osteopath maybe? No experience of TENS during pregnancy, I used one during labour and it helped a lot, but I didn't need it before. One of my friends has sciatica when pregnant and it went away by itself, fingers crossed that maybe it's the baby sitting on a nerve and s/he will move soon.

Bottle feeding has helped a lot actually, I started on Sunday and I've had a much happier baby since. He even managed to nap better, although he is still resisting daytime sleep. The problem is that I don't manage to express as much as I would have to during the day, so I use a couple of bottles of formula as well. But since he's been more content and can sleep more, I will continue like this. He is still latching on well at night so hopefully my milk won't dry up completely.

Anyway, better go now. Big wave to everyone, and especially to Cantdo, Drama, Mimsy, Numpty, Rachel, Catlady and all those who haven't posted recently, I hope everyone is well. xxxx

Coffee - really glad the bottles are making such a difference. It's a common thing I think and as Manitz said you do look back down the line and think you shouldn't have got so worried about the whole BF/FF thing. BF is great of course and you've done really well but the most important thing is a happy baby and a happy mum and there is no reason why you cant combine feed. I did that for 9 mnths (albeit with a lot of expressing to keep supply going).

Natz/Manitz good luck with your forthcoming scans and Natz hope your baby isnt being a non conformist again and you get to find out the sex. I'll be away on hols when you have them (hopefully, if this flipping ash cloud stays away!) so will check when I get back how they've gone.

Myangel - hope you're getting used to the idea of being PG and get a date for an early scan soon. Remember it's a new pregnancy and so you're starting with a clean slate. I should take my own advice! I'm still worrying all the time! I'm hoping if all goes well at my anomoly scan I'll start to relax a bit.

Kittens - hope you're well, managing on those steriods and feeling ok.

Grandj, babylily, stormbird, sarahmia - hope all is well in your pregnancies and you're feeling a bit more reassured as time goes on.

Hi to Louize too, if you're lurking, hope you're well.

Right my last post for a while as hopefully my plane will take off as planned on Monday and I'll soon be sunning myself sipping non alcoholic cocktails by the pool and enjoying a bit of a de-stress.

Love to all, Cherry x

Hello all so sorry for my long absence - i have started a new job and find myself pretty busy with that and looking after Felix who is intent on scaling any piece of furniture he comes across! all is good here but the little guy is a bit grizzly at the mo with teething (finally a tooth at nine months) and a bad cold (probably a result of his first camping trip last weekend, bloody gale force wind kept me awake all night but he slept like a frigging log!).

He has started at nursery now which he seems to love although he comes home with a nice new bruise every time. Part of me wishes he would miss me a little bit but i guess i should be happy that he is a sociable fellow.

Very happy to come on here and see so many good scan results - congratulations cherrybug, natz and manitz, so happy for you all :)

Myangelava and helonlouisey welcome and welcome back - congratulations to you guys too on your BFP's. It's a scary time i know but you are in the right company here.

Can't very glad to hear your friends baby is doing much better and that the mri was clear.

Mishtabel - still trying to get my arse into gear re. the wedding but i just so indecisive argh! rest assured i will let you know as soon as i have a date so you can book your flights and get practising on those scales.

kittens how are you doing lovely? hope the steroids are a bit less evil this time round and as always am crossing everything for you this month. also i think your idea of the babies names on the welcome note of the next thread is an amazing one! lets make sure we do this x

Coffee sorry you are having problems feeding victor - i had exactly the same thing with felix - he would never take a full feed and would just start crying half way through. i found it terribly stressful and it got to the point where i just dreaded having to feed him. Anyway turns out he had reflux and infant gaviscon really helped - maybe worth having a chat to your gp just to check?

Love to all xxxxxxxx

Me again! Katie, lovely to hear from you. Cant believe Felix is 9 months old already...! Hope the new job is working out well for you. I didn't put my girls in nursery as I was lucky enough to be able to work from home of an evening, but remember feeling rather rejected when they settled into pre-school and would happily wave me off so they could go and play with their friends. As you say though it is lovely that he is settled and sociable.

Coffee, so glad the bottle feeding is helping. Day time naps will hopefully follow soon. Hope you are feeling more relaxed about it all now?

Cherry have a lovely holiday!!! Am very jealous that you are jetting off. Haven't been on holiday for 3 years. Hope you relax and have a great time. Have you told anyone yet? We told some of our immediate family at around 10 weeks, but didn't tell the rest or friends until 16 weeks when it was a bit obvious I hadn't just over indulged.

Kittens - still thinking of you and hoping you are feeling ok. hope the next week goes quickly for you x

Manitz - you are amazing/mad going camping! Ha ha . I hope your back isn't too bad and that you use a blow up mattress to sleep on. Beed years since Ive been camping, but have distinct memories of sleeping on eneven floor in my sleeping bag. Hope you all have a lovely time and with any luck the weather will change in your favour!

MyAngel, how are you feeling? Hope you are keeping well.

Cant, how is your friend doing and her baby? So glad the MRI was clear xx

Hello to everyone else, sorry for so few personals yet again. My back is no better, and the midwives have advised against using a tens machine before 36 weeks. They also think it is SPD again, although it's in a different place to last pregnancy. Had it all on my pelvis bone with DD2, but is all in my buttock hip area this time. Not much fun. Plus got a stinking rotten cold with a cough which causes a lot of pain when Im having a coughing fit.

On a happier note, we have got the girls bunk beds and moved all the bedrooms around, so now have a nursery for the baby when he/she arrives. Cot is in place and just ordered some drawers as nowhere to put baby clothes! I know it's a bit early, but as we moved all the rooms we decided to just go ahead and do it in one hit.

Baby very active and loves a good night-time kicking session. Am 23+1 now and apart from the back pain, and really enjoying this pregnancy x

Erm - sorry for all the typos!

hi natz i also have the buttock/hip thing. I read that it was pelvic girdle pain which is spd related. have to not do too much in the day (yeah right) or I have to crawl to the loo in the night and up the stairs. Oh I can't wait for camping...

Katie glad felix is settling in, so upsetting to see they don't need you isnt it!

not much else to say but wont be around for a bit, really should be cleaining out hamster right now followed by the joy of sitting in a permanently damp environment for 5 days which will help my cold come right out. Apart from to announce that have successfully potty trained ds no accidents for 5 days now so am feeling v pleased with myself/him.

Have a nice week everyone x

Hi everyone, it's been a bit quiet here over the last week or so which hopefully means everyone is just getting on with things and not worrying too much!

Hello to MyangelAva and congratulations on your BFP. It's so scary at the beginning but the time does pass, and I can't really add much to what the others have said about CVS - but welcome to the thread.

Natz and Manitz, sorry to hear about the SPD. Weirdly, I've also had it over the last couple of weeks - really bad on one side, a bit better today thank goodness but earlier this week it was agony. The doctor has referred me to a physiotherapist, have no idea whether it will help or not as I haven't had a treatment yet, but maybe worth asking about?

Coffee, it's great that the bottles are making such a difference, definitely sounds like trying them was the right thing to do. Whatever it takes to make them happy/sleep is the way forward.

I'm struggling a bit today. We went to visit my sister, who has just had a baby girl, which is lovely for them. Seeing the baby didn't really upset me that much, although I did feel a bit sad that my babies who should have been born before this baby weren't there. But it was more upsetting that now I am pregnant again it seems like my family have forgotten my babies ever existed. My brother-in-law said "congratulations on number 2", which I couldn't answer because I haven't had this baby yet, and in any case it's not number 2 in my mind at least. And then my sister said they had been thinking of calling their baby Grace, which is the name of my first lost baby. I guess they either forgot about her, or else thought it didn't matter if they called their baby the same. But I think they just forgot.

Sorry for slight outpouring. I feel really sad about it but I know things will probably feel better tomorrow. Hi to everyone else, hope you are enjoying your holiday Cherry.

Thank you everyone for thinking of me, I'm doing well thank you. The sickness has started now, as has the tiredness but aside from that, I'm well. Its still sinking in, I think. I'm definitely seeing this pregnancy as a step by step journey and am not actually thinking there will be a baby at the end of it, but I suppose that is natural given what we have all been through. I did contact my GP and the hospital directly for booking in appts this week as last pregnancy they messed it up & I wasn't even seen til 12 weeks, so hopefully I too will be offered an early scan. it's interesting how many of you were put off having a CVS. I'm pleased you've said this as I too am looking to try and get as much info as poss about this pregnancy and if there are 'signs' to encourage a CVS or Amnio then I will do it. Does anyone here have any experience of having scans privately at the Fetal Medicine Centre with Prof Nicolaides? I'm thinking about going to him for a 12 week or 20 week scan.

I'm sorry, this has been a very 'me' post, I hope that everyone is doing well and has had a nice Bank Hol weekend. I also wanted to send a hug to grandj, that's horribly upsetting, esp when it's your family. Xx

Hello all, it?s been very quiet in here lately, not surprising I guess with the long week-end.

Glad to hear from you Katie and it?s excellent that Felix has settled in so well at nursery, and that you have a new job. I remember you saying that your DP also has a new job in Brighton, it must be great without the commute.

Mishta, if you come to Katie?s wedding, I live very close to her so we must meet up. How great would that be?! How are you and gorgeous Bella?

Manitz, well done with the potty training. I have no experience of this whatsoever, but as far as I?ve heard it?s very hard. How are your beautiful nails, have you managed to pamper yourself again?

Grandj, it must be so hard, not very common on MN but can I give you a big hug? Can you maybe talk to your sister and remind her that the name Grace is so special to you? As for family members forgetting, we also have to deal with this, sometimes I remind them and some other times I don?t bother. You will never forget and that?s what matters most, although I know it hurts so much when our babies are not acknowledged.

Myangelava, step by step is definitely the way forward. I?m sure someone with experience of a nuchal scan at the FMC will be along soon.

We are well, naps are still a struggle most of the time but I hope we?ll get there in the end and it?s just a phase. The nights are somehow better, although my little Coffee can still wake up every couple of hours sometimes. He is 14 weeks tomorrow, I can?t believe it. He?s very curious and very alert, he doesn?t like his pram very much anymore ( I think he just gets bored), but loves it in the baby carrier facing forward.

Whose scan is next, is it Natz or manitz? Sorry for not remembering too many dates at the moment, I blame it on lack of sleep xxxx

Grandj, Im so sorry you have had an upsetting time with your sister. I can imagine it will be quite painful if they decide to call her Grace, and I know at the end of the day it is their decision, but maybe as Coffee suggested, you could remind her why that name is important to you. They could possibly use it as a middle name? I also get the comment on this being our third baby, and I know that most of the time people just dont think before they speak. But I still find it quite upsetting, especially with us already having our other 2 DD's at home and people comment on how we will react if it's a third girl, I feel like screaming at times that we HAD 3 girls. But I think they just dont mention Cara for fear of upseting me. Until you have been there, you dont know how to handle things. And even then it's not always that easy. My sister lost her only daughter at 24 weeks and now has a beautiful baby brother for her eldest son (who knew about his sister), and I am very cautious of mentioning anything along the lines of 'girls are so much easier/harder to...' as if she never had a girl. We both talk about our little girls and it is a small comfort to think that they are together.
I hope your sister and her husband can appreciate the name issue xx

Myangel, I have never been to the FMC but am sure some of the ladies on this thread have. Have heard great things about Prof Nicolaides, he took care of my sister when she was carrying her daughter as there were complications. She always spoke highly of him. Am glad the pregnancy symptoms are creeping in (although hated early pregnancy as always felt awful, hopefully you wont suffer too much).

My cold got much worse over the weekend, trouble breathing, pain in my ears, my teeth, my eyes, completely blocked nose and (TMI) thick green snot, strained neck muscles and tummy muscles and after a night of being unable to sleep because of the pressure and pain in my head last night I finally gave in and booked an emergency appointment at the GP surgery. Had telephone consultation with the practice nurse who asked me to come in for examination, and turns out my rotten cold was actually sinustitus (I think is what she called it), so am now on antibiotics and paracetamol, and vicks vapor rub - already feeling so much better!

I have not been able to smell or taste anything for 4 days, so eating is very boring, and turns out Ive been drinking off milk for the last day - oops! DP spat his cereal out in disgust and informed me I was not to touch food until he checked it. Also didn't smell that DD2 had wet her bed as they have been up before me every morning, and she had taken her wet colthes off but not told me, so when DP came home from work Sunday he walked in, took one whif in their room and my poor baby got into trouble...

Sorry for mega post, but first time Ive been able to look at the screen for more than 2 mins without wincing in pain. Hope everyone had a happy long weekend xx

I am next for the scan I think? Am booked in for Thursday, then think Manitz is 4 days later? x

Thanks MyangelAva, Coffee and Natz for your support, it helps being able to talk openly here with people who understand. Thankfully my sister has gone for another name now. I know she wasn't meaning to upset me, just that she didn't think about my Grace. I still feel sad about it - and also that it didn't occur to my mum either - but I suppose I just have to remember that our babies were very important to me and my husband, and that is enough really.

Good luck for upcoming scans Natz and Manitz xx

hi there we are back from camping which was fab apart from the freezing nights, kept having braxtons when shivering so came back a day early in case i went into labour from it! not fitted in another manicure coffee, bit of wishful thinking there really as not likely to get rid of ds that easily but have a friends wedding coming up on the 18th and might try in time for that!

grandj no one ever remembers my girl, when I referred to it with my mum it was like she had wiped it from her mind. I found it upsetting at first but now i understand that it's my grief and it's too difficult for people to understand how it is. I would also be upset over the name and i'm glad that your sister has chosen another one, i don't think that's a conversation i would want to tackle.

I need to find my blue notes but I think i'm 8 june and 13 june anomaly and cardiac scans (cant remember which comes first though). Got to get organised. is yours tomorrow natz?

Had a nice day today as was still supposed to be camping and dh was at home. accidentally let him have my last mint magnum when I thought it was an almond one and ds did a poo in the bath - serves me right for crowing about his potty training - still pretty good but had a good reaction from his first fart in the bath so tried to squeeze another out and hasn't an awful lot of control, his fellow bathers were not impressed.
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Ha ha ha!!! Manitz, am in fits of giggles reading about your DS bath antics. I have an image of giggling children then a horrified reaction to a little floater appearing , my youngest DD did something similar once to her big sister and I could barely breathe from laughing so much. Glad camping went well, although worrying about the Braxton...! Good idea to come back early.

I was just about to type, 'no, my scan is on 2nd June', then realised that that is indeed tomorrow - now the frantic hunt for hospital notes begins as I didn't realise how quick that date has come around...! Eeek!

Grandj, also glad that your sister decided to go with a different name. Did you have a chat with her or was it something they just decided? I always loved the name Emma, but I could never call my baby that as my sisters lost baby girl was named Emily and it's just too similar. As you and Manitz say, our babies are always going to be important to us and never forgotten by the people who loved them most. Cara will always be remembered in our house, and once our girls are older we will tell them about her.

Will let you all know how scan goes tomorrow - and hopefully share the news of the sex too! We are taking the girls with us, so should be interesting xx

Hope everyone is well

Hello everyone - just dropping by to let you know scan went well, healthy active baby, all organs looking good. Cant believe how much baby has grown in 3 weeks, looks really cramped in there!

Took the girls with us and they were so well behaved, my eldest was staring at the screen with a wide open mouthed smile. Little one kept asking Daddy if that was the baby's head (even when looking at legs, bless her) And baby also shared the gender secret with us....

We are going to be adding another baby girl to our family!!!

Now reading through the name books and thinking about re-decorating hte small room to a fresher pink

Next scan is in 4 weeks, am feeling so relaxed and happy, just trying to get past the last of the Sinitius and cold. Baby gave me some very hard kicks today which actually hurt - she's a strong one xx

Hi ladies, thank you for all your lovely messages after my BFP announcement a few weeks ago, sorry I haven't been back on, sadly the pregnancy didn't progress well and I miscarried last week at 6 weeks and 6 days. It's been a very hard week as I refused a D & C due to my developing Ashermans after my termination (scarring of the uterus) so have been at home the past week miscarrying naturally and just praying my body does what it needs too, otherwise am booked in for a D& C next Wednesday. It has taken us 18 months since my termination to get pregnant again, so am finding it very very hard, however I am relieved that nature took over this time and thank God I didn't get to 12 weeks and was faced with another termination.

I am worried now about it taking another 18 months to conceive again, and the fact that in all likelihood ive now had two pregnancies that have had chromosonal abnormalities, I am just terrified about whether I will ever have another pregnancies that is chromosonally normal.

I just wanted to wish all you pregnant ladies all the best for thhe rest of your pregnancies and wish lots of luck to all you lovely ladies still TTC.

Thanks again for all your help and support

Helenlouisey x

Natz-congratulations on a lovely scan and how fabulous to have a new baby girl on the way. Good luck all you other lovelies with scans coming up. Fingers permanently crossed for you all, even though I don't have time to post much these days.

Jacob's doing really well and I'm loving my new cafe lifestyle! I guess lunching with the other mums is something you can only do to excess with a first baby so I'm making the most of it... The cafe cake collection's not doing my waistline any good though, that's for sure.

Mainly though, I was logging in to check up on kittens. I hope you're doing ok with all those steroids hun. Peeing on those sticks yet? Really hoping for some good news for you very soon.

Love to all. P xx