Hi mrsbigz, and welcome, although I wish no one had to be welcomed on this board! It is a lifeline though, as Lily said, and I hope it will help you too. I am sorry you lost Eve.
I lost my baby girl last Feb at 22 weeks, due to severe brain anomalies. It took about 6 weeks for my period to arrive, but it?s been erratic for a couple more weeks, and I bled on and off and for what seemed like ages. I waited 3 months before ttc again, although I was obsessed with getting pregnant again. We took ages to decide what kind of memorial service we wanted, whether we wanted a funeral or a cremation, and also we had a post mortem done and it took 3 months for the results to come back (we didn?t want to try again before having an answer as to why this happened, even if the answer was in the end ?random bad luck?).
I fell pregnant the second month of trying and now my 9 week old is sleeping upstairs. My care during the pregnancy varied. My local hospital were not great, except for the antenatal screening coordinators, who were brilliant. However, the professor at St George?s in London who diagnosed Silvia last year was a godsend, he scanned me four times throughout the pregnancy and told me I can self-refer anytime. I was under consultant care until the anomaly scan, and then when nothing was found they put me under mw care. It seems to differ a lot though.
There is no right or wrong, it all depends on your individual circumstances. It is a difficult, nerve wracking journey, but it helps so much to have your hand held, even if only virtually, by women who understand and who have been through this. I hope you have good support in RL too.
To everyone else, a big wave. I hope the bumps are growing well and fingers still firmly crossed for Kittens and the SWI :). Better go now, I have to catch up on sleep, but as usual I am lurking and thinking of you all xxxx