Single pregnant and don’t think I want my baby at 17 weeks

[Poppyrose12]

Hi sorry for the long post,

Me and my partner have been together for over 6 years now, neither of us wanted kids. Earlier this year I caught unplanned. I was never convinced I wanted a baby but not enough to have an abortion and everyone was so supportive saying my feelings would change. My feelings for not wanting a baby have only grown stronger the further alone I have got, I’m not at all excited and I can’t see a baby in my future. My partner feels the same if not stronger and what’s me to consider abortion or adoption because none of us really want this child however my problem is because I’m 17 weeks my whole family know and are excited and buying things, we know the gender and to make such a big decision I have to be 100% sure and I can’t be. It is my first pregnancy and I’m so scared of the risks or that I’ll regret my decision it’s putting me in between a rock and a hard place. As the only decision my partner can make he has decided that if I continue with the pregnancy then he will play no part, not even meet the baby when it’s born.

I feel stuck and trapped and I don’t know what to do.

If you are worried about what to tell your family, I guess that miscarriages are common so you could pass it off as that. Seriously do not do this. I honestly cannot believe anyone could even suggest doing this!! Pretending you've had a miscarriage is sick and twisted and an insult to any woman who's suffered one and so desperately wants a Baby

When baby is born, give yourself time too. I didn't feel the immediate rush, and yet I had always wanted to be a mother. Day 3 to 5 you will cry as the hormones come in. They can't focus on you and they can't smile. But when they smile at you week six, the feeling is amazing, and I can honestly say every age is now my favourite. My daughters are now 6 & 8, and they are my absolute best friends. I am lucky, they enjoy the same things as me, but I think that is part nature, part nurture. Good luck! Xx