Pissed off at DH making breakfast

OP, I'm getting frustrated on your behalf! You have clearly found something that works for you, so well done and try to ignore all the noise about carbs/fats/proteins.

Not that this is the point - the point is you made a choice and he didn't respect that choice. So I don't think YABU. However, I think some of the other PPs may be right, it's a major change and perhaps he is struggling with that.

OP - the people saying that you should have just eaten the fry up and been thankful are mental. I think that he really disrespected you by going ahead and doing a fry up and I would also not have eaten it.

What were his reasons for doing that? That’s something you and him need to sit down and discuss.

I meant to add, good job on your hard work and efforts so far OP

If I'm going to be kind to him (though in real life I'd react like you!) perhaps he is missing the social aspects/connection of the food related things you did previously.

But that wasn't good. Maybe when you've both calmed down a chat about a nice breakfast next week with a grilled bacon medallion, poached egg, grilled tomatoes and spinach might help..

He may have been trying to be nice but he needs to understand that you are aiming for long term happiness, not short term gratification, and he should be supporting you in that .

(And you are not wrong that the breakfast on offer was far from healthy)

I think some of us are also frustrated because diet advice is moving on, there's loads of very well backed up new research out there that suggests that cooking with oil (ideally olive not seed oil) is really not unhealthy, but that constantly spiking glucose levels with a diet high in carbs and fruit is a slow steady path to type 2 diabetes. But I agree that's a completely separate issue from.the DH, who should be butting out!

It depends how they're made, but bacon and sausages are often highly processed and overly salty so not exactly the super healthy option some posters think 🙄. A banana would be better from that perspective, but OP if you want to share a cooked breakfast w your DH then from what has been said a poached egg and mushrooms with one slice of toast would probably be best. Good luck with trying to lose weight, and hope your DH can be more supportive

You know you're not being unreasonable. You sure?
Whilst I appreciate it must be difficult for you, it's a bit unreasonable to expect your OH to automatically change his habits because you have. Unless you feel he's deliberately trying to sabotage your weight loss I'd be a bit more tolerant.

Try talking with him when food isn't on the agenda and tell him how important his support is. Then tell him again. As long as you're not imposing your eating habits on him I'm sure you'll get there.

If this thread is the reaction to a woman wanting a fucking banana then I'm not surprised we're where we are with women's rights.

You just need to explain to him that while you appreciate his effort you really need his support to improve your health.

I had wholemeal toast, scrambled eggs, mushrooms, beans and fruit the other day, with a few rashers of grilled bacon….

It is doable to have a treat breakfast without throwing the dieting out the window…

Just not an entire fry up.

Why are so many people focused on the food?!

It's the example in this case but not the actual problem.

The problem is communication,listening, respect and support. That's why she lost the plot...

I strongly suspect that the OP will conform that she and her husband have communication problems about far more than food.

OP, fairly play, you seem to have found something that works for you. Don't change it but see if you both can find a better way of communicating as he isn't listening or understanding what his support would mean to you.

This. I wouldn’t let my dog eat any of the rubbish I eat. I should look after my health the way I look after hers!

Couldn't you have just eaten a bit of the fried breakfast instead of the toast and banana? And not eaten much lunch later. He was trying to be nice, no need to make it into a drama.

They don't really believe this OP, for some reason a woman making better, healthier choices bothers them. Its fascinating to read. Not one person honestly believes that a fry up is healthier than wholemeal toast and a banana.
I'm assuming he is aware that you are trying to lose weight and that you have actually spoken to him about it over the last 3 months? He shouldn't need spoon feeding information about a woman he lives with if he is a NT functioning adult. He is just thoughtless by the sounds of it but glad you have had a chat. Hopefully he stops offering you crap.

That sounds lovely and healthy but is quite a lot of food for breakfast. To me it is also quite a lot of energy and focus on food. I have found personally that focus has been my downfall. I think people are way more obsessed with food than they used to be and it is a hobbie for many people whereas people used to play instruments, read books, go to sport clubs and play squash or tennis or similar. My Mum has always been slim, eats loads of vegetables but just doesn't really see food as that interesting, she was writing poetry and songs in the evening when we were children not spending her time perfecting dishes for dinner.

How is bacon and sausage good for you, too much unhealthy protein is not good for you.

Not sure it's @JudgeRudy who's the "moron" here
You didn't need to throw out the food. Ridiculously wasteful. And you're better off with protein than 2 slices of toast.

In fact a lot of posters seem bothered by the fact you have upset one of the man's. To some women, upsetting the man is the worst thing you can do ever. Their feelings need protecting at all costs. As you can see by the posters telling you to eat a fry up, while dieting, cos he was just 'doing something nice'.

WORD!

Poshdog has been on a diet and very successful too. He's lost weight and is far healthier now we have a grip on his allergies.

Ever notice how a lot of people don't want their partners to lose weight? Maybe he just likes to keep you in your (insecure) place

To those posters picking at the OP's choice of unrefined carbohydrates over fried proteins (never mind the nitrate-rich, bowel cancer-inducing bacon and sausages) - you're missing the OP's point that her husband is continually undermining her efforts to change her habits. Knowing she has chosen a healthier and lower calorie (yes it is) breakfast option than the one he is preparing, he goes ahead and prepares her the option she doesn't want, anyway. So he needs to change his behaviour and acknowledge and support her efforts to change hers. That's the point, surely?

OP, well done on the weight loss and good for you for tackling your health while young. 'Good', unprocessed fats and proteins - unsalted nuts, seeds, avocado, eggs, unpasteurised cheeses, olive oil, proper butter, full fat unsweetened yoghurt, meat, chicken, fish - promote weight loss because they make you feel fuller, quicker, they don't generate excess glucose and insulin responses, they are more effective at promoting muscle. A breakfast of scrambled/poached eggs, mushrooms, tomatoes and sourdough toast is fine. Skip the orange juice, and the bacon and sausage and the fried bread.

For fuck's sake.

OP I am getting frustrated on your behalf with some of the bullshit on this thread.

Your DH is pushing food on you as a manipulation tactic op. He's being horribly unfair and then acting the victim when, understandably, you get annoyed upset with him. He's probably scared that as you gain confidence you won't need him as much and will feel more attractive (although I'm sure you're lovely as you are).

I'm sorry He's doing this. You've done nothing wrong. I'd be upset too.

It doesn't sound like he was being nice it sounds like he was being manipulative and playing the victim. Should we all just do what men want all the time cos they're trying to be nice? Ffs

A meal that OP neither asked for, nor indicated in any way she wanted. She was going out to buy bananas.

And yes sure in the grand scheme of things it wouldn't have made a difference but I'd imagine eating the fried breakfast may have caused enormous guilt and feeling shit and bloated and may have sabotaged OP's whole day of trying to eat healthily. Things like this cause a spiral effect when you're trying to be healthy.