Pissed off at DH making breakfast

The kids had already eaten, it wasn't a family meal.
She does treat herself..... to things she considers a treat (you know like adults with autonomy can?)
No one has to compromise on what they put into their own body, it only effects them.
She's not crash dieting, she's losing weight long term.
She's not demonising foods, she enjoys the treats that SHE wants.
When you're trying to make better choices and find a good balance you don't want someone else's idea of a treat when they really fancy it, you want your own, having both is overeating.
This thread has bought out the illiterate and the very controlling.

No one has to validate someone else's meal choice by having the exact same. I'm pretty sure the OP wouldn't have commented or though anything of it that her husband was having a fry up.

My DH is the same when im dieting its like they want to sabotage you. Just ignore him I would have thrown the breakfast in the bin too.

No she doesn't. Not remotely. What are you on about?

Ok @KR2023, calm down!

I don’t understand why people are picking out the food the OP ‘should have had instead cos it’s less carbs’, it’s the OPs choice on how she does her diet. It’s nitpicking

YABU.

I don't think he was trying to sabotage you... From his reaction, he clearly just doesn't understand how hard it is.

I'd be naturally pissed off too, but a more polite response would have been thank you, but I'm trying to lose weight, can you PLEASE not do this anymore, I'm serious... I've come so far and I really do mean it when I say I don't want you to make me anything from now on... I can sort out myself.

Better than an argument. I might even have eaten the eggs as they're reasonably low calorie and basically just pure protein, so would have been a nice grudging compromise.

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How can processed meat be a better option? It's consumption on a regular basis is linked to colan and bowel cancer.

My Gran had Scandinavian heritage and therefore my Mum's cooking was/is around whole grains, yoghurts
fermented foods l, fish (herring and salmon) small potatoes, lots of cabbage. She has always been slim, as was I until my early 40s and I have a DH who loves cooking quite a bit of meat, lots of lovely food but it has Influences of his childhood which is rich food like Duck, processed meats and organ meats (feature heavily in Jewish diet), my MIL in contrast was obese until recently where she cut a lot of this out.

Better than an argument. I might even have eaten the eggs as they're reasonably low calorie and basically just pure protein, so would have been a nice grudging compromise.

Yes OP - ram those eggs down your throat, whether you want them or not. You are not entitled to bodily autonomy if it might upset a man in any way.

I know some Mumsnet users have a low bar for men, but we seem to have every surrendered wife in the land on this thread. The OP didn't want to eat eggs. Or bacon, or sausage or whatever. She wanted to eat a banana. Why is she not allowed to eat what she wants?

Bananas are banned in Gilead

It wasn't that my Mum saw food as fuel but she has Scandinavian heritage and we were brought up on fermented foods, yoghurt, whole grains, fish and lots of cabbage. Dinner was important for the family to get together and it was certainly healthy but it wasn't the Mediterranean approach which is probably more like my DH's obsession and choices. Culturally, food was about your own private immediate family having dinner together but it wasn't a big social thing outside of that except on special occasions, my friends that lived near me would be encouraged to go home at dinner time as my Mum didn't want to step on any toes in feeding other people's children. However, if they did stay for dinner it was planned and definitely the parent would be asked if that was ok.

And no bananas (bananas are no better than a mars bar, the body converts both to sugar and practically nothing else).

Of course bananas are better than a bloody Mars Bar. The average banana weighs more than twice what a standard Mars Bar weighs, but has a much lower total carb content, never mind sugar. It also has fibre, vitamins and minerals. And no dubious ingredients. What a ridiculous remark! A banana is a pure, natural food. A Mars Bar is ultra-processed food designed to hook people on sugary crap.

Yes, exactly, it is the same with sausages, processed meats have low nutritional value.

typed too quickly, meant to add I am also doing low carb, but it’s not for me (or anyone else for that matter) to say what’s best for the OP as we all have different systems.

"Fried breakfast in the food bin and I've just eaten toast and banana."

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I took her phrasing to mean that SHE had thrown it in the bin.

Just spat my coffee out at this.

Blessed be the frui- NOT THAT ONE!!!

No @AcrossthePond55 , he threw the food away in a temper.

Ah that's interesting, because I've encountered the Scandinavian approach to food and privacy before, and from a Southern European perspective find it really deeply bizarre! There was a thread on here a while back about how in Sweden you didn't feed the kids of others. Anyway I think there's many ways of skinning a cat when it comes to countries with healthy eating cultures, as it were - but as a foreigner I'm not sure the UK is one of them!

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I have just RTFT and my blood pressure is through the roof. I don't understand how anyone can see OP making a decision about what she wants to eat, which doesn't affect anyone else, and then her husband completely overruling her and then getting upset when she refuses his food, when she'd already said exactly what she wanted, as him "being nice." It's not nice!
I would be furious in OP's situation, and I share her frustration with some of the completely insane responses on this thread.
She doesn't want your dieting advice, she doesn't want his fry up, she just wants a banana.

Well that's the thing, the UK didn't have an obesity problem until we had more influences from America, fast food availability we seem to have really embraced. I am not Scandinavian and grew up in London but obviously the culinary influences were a mixture of Scandinavian and English. The diet of my English grandparents and my Dad was not exciting like a Mediterranean diet but you certainly weren't overweight on it. My parents were socialists and heavily involved in politics in the 1960s, their identity was about the music, the politics, the literature they read and obviously we were brought up in that way, food wasn't something that was important to them like it is now to lots of people. I would imagine though that many Brits watch MasterChef but buy in a takeaway regularly. There is an obsession over food now that I don't think was a big part of an English person's (at least) identity, I'm not sure I if is actually helping anyone, it is hard to tell. Like I said my DH loves cooking so I do appreciate it is a hobbie but I don't remember it dominating our free time in the past and we were not anymore overweight than our European cousins.

@EmmaEmerald They exist and are a type of food pusher.

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Banana mmmm