Pissed off at DH making breakfast

I'm sorry but I think you're being a tad unreasonable. We're doing noom in my home and it's all about moderation not necessarily cutting out foods all together. You're lowed one day when you can treat yourself....you're allowed one glass of wine etc. It does sound like he eas trying to do a nice thing, no need to throw it in the bin, how wasteful.

yeah I was going to say.

besides- how is even saying the OP might be morbidly obese even helpful except to make the judgy poster feel smug?

Some people are feeders. Or sabotagers. OPs DH may not be but it is worth the OP trying to work out if he is- and if so what is motivating him to be so.

You sound quite agressive and unreasonable on every count.

Faddish bullshit. Bananas are certainly better than a mars bar, and also better than nitrate-laden bacon and additive (and carb!) laden sausages. Let the woman have her banana on toast, and let her have it in peace!

Yabu just say no thanks. No need to kick off and cause an argument.

The fried breakfast without the fried bread would have been better than the banana on 2 slices of bread.
it’s the complex carbohydrates that are so bad for you.
The protein and fat in the cooked breakfast will fill you up for longer and not break down into simple sugars. It’s a fact!

Are you really not able to read OPs replies? She DIDNT WANT a fry up - she told him specifically that she wanted banana and toast and he made it anyway then got shitty that she didn’t eat it.

So the only one being a ‘tad unreasonable’ is her DH who sulked because she didn’t eat what she didn’t ask for….

"DH I'm popping out to get banana to have on my toast for breakfast"

"Tell you what, why don't you enjoy your walk but I'll do us both some poached eggs and mushrooms instead if you fancy it? I've read that eggs will keep us fuller and stop us snacking later and I know how hard you've been trying recently."

If this was what happened, then fine. What actually happened was dh ignored her and made a massively more calorific and salty breakfast that she didn't want.

I don't. I'd quite like an evening out with the OP and a couple of the other posters on the thread like @NeverDropYourMooncup.

You can go for a low fat pizza and a diet coke.

Then a banana.

Sounds quite nice. I'm in.

We know!! About a million other posters have said the same flipping thing. But OP WANTED A BLOODY BANANA and her DH doesn’t get to dictate to her what’s she’s having for breakfast.

He's just not taking you seriously about food. It's such an emotive issue for a lot of people - they feel shamed if others are focussed on improving their diet, or have a set idea of what a treat is etc etc.

You are not unreasonable at all and it is frankly nuts that:

a) so many posters think you were.
b) so many posters have misread this as you asking for advice on diet and nutrition.

Given the usual tone on MN, I'm very surprised at the responses you've had.

I wonder if this is down to women not being used to a man cooking? Or if they have such shit husbands that, in their world, this is 'caring'?

Have you read the OP's posts? If so, you should be ashamed of your lack ofcomprehension skills.

She TOLD HIM what she was going to have, he purposely cooked a completely different meal - and SHE IS EXPECTED TO BE THANKFUL??

Why? Are YOU thankful if you go out, order a curry and the waiting person decides you would like fish and chips instead and brings you that? And just so you weren't accused of being "wasteful" you would sit and eat it - yes? Of course not.

He was the wasteful one but cooking unwanted food.

This. He’s an insecure sabotaging tower. You’re showing him up.

Good for you. It feels good to lose weight and do something for yourself, doesn’t it?

Have you spent years in a cycle of dieting/bingeing ?

I have .

I've had this done to me by people every single time I mentioned trying to lose weight.

I've stopped telling anyone at all.

For the fry up, I would have eaten maybe half a sausage, one egg and a slice of toast.

Frying isn't inherently unhealthy. Just depends on the amount of oil. What would be wrong with a fried egg cooked in a non-stick pan without oil?

He's being unhelpful but you could always have a "grill up" as they call it on slimming world. Tailor it to your needs. Grill the bacon or just use medallions, grill low fat sausages (asda do some lovely ones) poach the eggs, grill the tomatoes etc.

I think it is unfair to impose a diet on other members of the household. Especially when your decisions as to what can or can't be eaten on said diet / restrictive eating plan aren't really nutiritionally sound.

If he wants sausage and eggs for breakfast and for the kids - he can make it. If you want to nibble on bread and a banana instead then do so but he doesn't need to change his eating habits because you have changed yours.

I think he's not being supportive enough but you also overreacted. You could have just said thanks for the breakfast but I'll stick to my diet thank you. You could have salvaged the breakfast it's quite a waste to go in the bin. Maybe he used to enjoy pigging out with you. Maybe you need to find a healthier activity to replace eating junk together.

Sounds like he is sabotaging your diet. I hope he really isn't usually as you describe in your last post - cos that's not good.

As an aside, what kind of idiots think sausages and bacon are ever healthy options? Fast track route to colon cancer, more like.