Parents: if you had one day of your pre children life back, how would you spend it? Please keep it lighthearted

The poster clearly meant in comparison to when you have children in addition to the busyness when free of children. Being busy is a comparative thing!

Telling my partner I want to separate, so I don't have the mess to untangle 23 years later.

You wrote
”saying that childfree people are ‘not in the slightest bit busy’ is quite another thing and demonstrably untrue.”

which I quite agree with. I was responding to this because what you wrote is what I believe people have chosen to infer when the OP didn’t write this in her opening post. Or anywhere IIRC

I wouldn’t think the poster ‘clearly meant’ that at all. She clearly stated that when you’re childfree you think you’re busy, but when you’ve children you realise you weren’t in the slightest. Not you were less busy, had more time, but weren’t in the slightest

Not done any of this for 25yrs...since getting pregnant.
I'd love to go to Cumbria armed with a couple of spliffs and some mushrooms and just chill...enjoy the fantastical beauty of the mountains and waterfalls without having to care about anyone but myself for a change.
My 20's was a wonderful decade 🤣

I read it as in comparison, I don't think it's necessary to state that. People often leave out those words in other contexts when it's clear that's what they mean, it's a kind of a figure of speech.

If you thought you were busy then it would be impossible to not be busy at all, you must have been occupied to feel busy at the time.

I don’t think we’re going to agree on our interpretation of that post, so let’s just leave it here, will we?

I don't know why it even came up to be honest. I agree we should stop derailing the thread.

Don't think it has anything to do with people without kids, it's the feeling of many parents that's all. People are allowed to feel, yes?

Why wouldn’t people be ‘allowed to feel’? What a strange question you posed.

As previously stated, if the pp wants to compare her levels of busyness pre and post children, that’s fine. What’s not fine, IMO, is for her to make a blanket statement that you will only realise post-children that actually you weren’t in the slightest bit busy when you were childfree. She can speak from personal experience but not generalise.

Get on my motorbike and go for a run. Now I'm older and the kids have gone and have their own I now have a motorbike again to potter about on.

I think some are taking this post very seriously and literally, when it’s clearly a bit of fun about what mums miss from pre-child life posted on a parenting website everyone has freely chosen to join. It does somewhat disprove the premise that we’d all be happier and more light-hearted without children though.

Anyway here’s what I’d do… before I had a kid I used to do this thing every night where at about 10 o’clock I’d close my eyes and open them again about 8ish. Weird. Can’t remember what it was all about but I vaguely remember I used to enjoy it.

I think some are taking this post very seriously and literally, when it’s clearly a bit of fun about what mums miss from pre-child life posted on a parenting websiteeveryone has freely chosen to join. It does somewhat disprove the premise that we’d all be happier and more light-hearted without children though
Agree with this.
I thought it was a light hearted thread similar to a "youth is wasted on the young, what would you do if you were 21 again" thread.

Definitely! There’s a whole thread dedicated to complaining about this thread, when it’s just a bit of fun.

(I miss proper dinners… can’t wait till DS can eat them with me 😂)

'Saying you are busier with children is one thing, and nobody is likely to argue that.'

On this thread they certainly would

My sister is busier but in the hobby sense. Sge works full time. Has 3 dogs. A horse and plays netball, boxes and goes to the gym. She's always out drinking and seeing friends. She has no kids.

I have 2 children so the mental load is huge especially because I gave Autism but I rarely leave the house.

@Grommmm
https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/childfree-mumsnetters/4837250-might-just-stay-in-here?page=4

😂

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It's a shame there isn't a notmumsnet site for the child free all to go to. Some seem rather bitter for some reason?

My dss are grown. I have dgss and love having them but am glad not to have dcs all the time now. They're great fun though.

Sorry your thread got hijacked OP. You sound fab.

What the hell is going on in here?!

I don't think I wasted my days pre-DC, I was very lazy and enjoyed many long walks. Given one of those days back, I would take a very long walk along the South West coastal path with my lovely husband.

This made me wonder what I would say in reverse to this, in ten years from now when DC is grown up - what would I do if I had one day back with my daughter when she was little (I could cry just thinking that).

I think being nasty to parents about their children is quite fashionable at the moment unfortunately… 99% social media platforms are full of it. All except for MN because it used to be a parenting website. Apparently one single nice space for mums to have lighthearted chats about how our lives have changed post DCs is one too many!

Certainly seems that way.

Might go back to netmums 😉

I am actually going to experience the beforetimes next week because I’m on PTO… I will be using my freedom during nursery hours to do exciting things like go to the dentist and get my MOT done and have a blood test 🤣