AIBU that veg should not be shared at the wedding?

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If you don't want to come across like a spoilt brat, perhaps you should stop using the word 'demand'.

Just a thought.

It can be a nightmare! You're leaning over candles, trying not to damage the flowers, hoping you don't knock a glass over - pain in the arse. If the plates are hot when the food is plated, I've never had a problem it being cold when it comes out.

Portioning out vegetables on each plate means that the veg will be cold when the plate hits the table. Vegetables get cold very quickly, hence covered serving dishes to keep them hot.

I’m with the OP. It’s much more elegant to have your food presented all on the plate, nicely arranged.

I have been to weddings with veg served family style in big bowls and I really don’t like it for various reasons. Some people are greedy, it can take a long time for the veg to reach you, it is awkward trying to gage how much you can take that leaves enough for others, and the table looks a lot messier with dishes wedged in wherever they fit and glasses and cutlery pushed out of the way.

I can imagine it saves a lot of money to serve large bowls of veg instead of plating up. But it is much more pleasant to have your food served on the plate ready to eat.

Sounds better to do it their way. Less waste

OP I am totally with you. We had silver service for our wedding. We wouldn't have opted for serving bowls of sides. Either on the plate; in individual small bowls, or you have it served by the waiting staff. All plates should be placed down on the table, at the same time for all guest at each table. For silver service, one doesn't help themselves to food.

With respect, that's absolute nonsense.

Hot veg on a hot plate, plated quickly in the kitchen and delivered to table in minutes

I doubt, on the day, that you’ll care. Weddings are so much more than their parts. I know it seems a massive deal to have the right dress/flowers/venue/table plan/veg position, but honestly, it’s not. It’s really not.
I’m sure you and your guests will have a wonderful time regardless of whether the green beans arrive pre plated or not.

In the run up to my wedding, I was obsessed by the colour of the drinks trays as they did not fit in with my scheme. I look back now and cringe at the fact I was such a lunatic over it. Doubt any of my gests recall what colour the tray was, what they had to eat or whether the vegies were served separately. Just make sure there is enough food and that people don't have to wait feckin hours for it and you'll be grand!

We're getting married this year and having a choice menu. We haven't chosen yet, but their menu lists different veg and types of potato with different choices of mains, so plates must be complete when they arrive at the table.
I hadn't given it much thought until now. I've definitely been to weddings where the veg was passed around and I've usually ended up with less than a fair share.
I think you're right to have it how you want it to be.
Getting the food right at our wedding is one of my top priorities. People need to be well fed.

It’s normal unfortunately. Im with you - hate it 😂

YANBU as it’s your wedding, you are probably paying a lot of money and they should be able to accommodate this. Can the servers not go round and serve the veg onto peoples plates then they aren’t all doing it themselves?

Personally I wouldn’t think twice about this if I was a guest, even if I didn’t know others at the table I think it’s fine to serve your own veg. But it’s your wedding and they should accommodate your request especially something so simple.

As others have said probably completely normal, but mainly done in the interests of the catering company - it’s easier to under portion because the big bowls of veg will make it look like there is more than what there actually is.
Also if you ask for bowls to be replenished will they actually do that when the time comes? Will they be able to hold back some ‘spare’ veg in the kitchen?
Also I think for meat I would choose braised red cabbage, carrots, peas, boiled, roast potatoes. I also like butternut squash. I think courgettes and mini corn are more of an ingredient in a one pot dish (like a stir fry) than as a side veg for a roast.

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Yes, this is nice.

I also agree that there's been barely any room on tables at recent weddings I've been to.
With centrepieces, favours, wine, glasses etc I really don't know where they'd find room for serving dishes.

I’ve been to countless weddings, black tie events, formal dinners and events and I’ve never ever been served a sharing bowl of veg. And I’m really surprised to see all these posts that say it’s normal.

I've never been at a function where the veg is on serving dishes on the table. It either comes on the plate or waiters come round and serve the veg from big trays

i would expect to have the choice of veg from a dish - having it put on a plate for me would make me feel like a toddler who was being told what i have to eat. I always allow people to help themselves to veg at home

I’ve never encountered this at any wedding I’ve ever been to. The veg is always already on the plate. I’ve also never had cold food because they’ve been plating it up in the kitchen.
Thinking about the last wedding I was at, there wouldn’t have been space on the table for bowls of veg with all the glasses and centre pieces, flowers etc.

I like it like this because I eat a lot of veg, and DP hardly has any (same for others). So I just keep going back as the greedy pig 🤣

My DD2 has just got married and had a very formal wedding breakfast and all the vegetables and potatoes were served in dishes only the beef and roast potatoes were on the plates. We had about 50 adults and everyone was served quickly this way.