to be really sad for my little girl ???

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I went to pick up dd (6) a 3.20 and she looked really sad, and I asked her what was up and she told me she wanted to go to her friend Nadia. I said no my love you cant go as you havent been invited ! I looked at Nadia's mum and she was surrended by all dd's best friends. They have been all invited to Nadia's house for tea and water fun, apart from dd.

I know she expect to be invited to all the party but I couldnt help feeling so upset on her behalf... I mean it was so in her face..

Would you have feel the same as me or am I ott ?
On the top of that, this mum posted a statut on fb saying to pray for the sun as she had 12 little girls back at her house for a party.

Life is cruel !

Thank you !!! She is fine already, it is just me being an old ressentful bat !

bit harsh the secondcoming!

And nonsense. Never understand why people think that the younger a human being, the less valid their feelings.

Chilodminder don;t worry, I use a CM and it wouldn;t bother me an aounce if she ahd posted this.

Unless of course Nadia is a real name and we can never know that can we?

Thesecondcoming - So because I'm a childminder, I shouldnt care about my daughter's feelings ?? Would you put your children with someone so heartless ?? Nadia is not her real name of course, I will never do that, I shouldhave called her Child A !

Childminder - If I were you - I'd just pretend yesterday never happened with regards to the other mother and just smile and do the usual smalltalk at the school gate.

Have had something similar and the awkward silence persisted for far too long until I just couldn't be arsed with it anymore.

Life's too short and you could find yourself in the playground with her for many years to come.

Glad your daughters ok though

Thank you Traceybath, I'm going to try starting by a smile !!

thesecondcoming : My dds get sometimes hurt by my mindees but it is unfortunately one of the aspect of the job I have to cope with and no I dont give notice and I accept it is just a phase ! The children are not the cause, the cause is this mum who decided to single out my dd as if the atmosphere in the class was not bad enough !!

I found your post very interesting Morloth, all of our reactions were 'poor little dd' but you're right. all of us getting upset about it would just underline to our children that it's a terrible thing to be left out. it is always going to happen at some stage in their lives, best to get some perspective early on and help them deal with it. When this happens to my dd I am going to try to be breezy about the whole thing. Thanks.

Glad your DD is ok.

Hope you have now accepted that this mother is no more to blame than you are. You didn't invite Nadia, she didn't invite you. She has only done exactly as you did. Friend/best friend is really a blur and very changeable at 6yrs old.

I would put money on the fact that Nadia had been upset at being left out of your party and her mother has simply returned the favour. You really need to accept that rather than blaming Nadia's mum.