to be a tad suspicious?

[tortoisehellOstrich]

DP has "gone hiking in a national park with a colleague for the weekend" after a conference. The national park is rather remote, and the accommodation apparently doesn't have wifi. So I accepted that there would be no contact from Friday morning until they returned to the airport Monday night.

Except Google's wondrous data-dribbling abilities have just informed me (via a GPS-driven automatic facebook update of the colleague) that the colleague returned to London on Friday.

I was already a bit about the lack of wifi meaning no contact because of mega-expensive overseas data download costs, since surely a computer geek and his colleague know how to stop their googlephones automatically syncing diaries etc when they turn the phone on to send a text?

Email and text haven't been answered. DP's phone is clearly in the USA.

i guess I should resist temptation to ring up the colleague and ask what the hell is going on?

X posts......slow laptop, sorry.

Great idea Glenda.

Glenda, that is a really good idea!

Uh-oh. I hope it's all a misunderstanding and everything is ok.

if a woman answers teh phone tell her the truth
i betacha shell be right on it

does all sound v suspicious but there could be a reasonable explanation, give him a chance to explain. Whilst Glenda's idea is good, i perhaps wouldn't tell him that you have done this as if it all is innocent he could be extremely cross that you haven't trusted him and went checking up on him.

i would initially broach it as "who was it you went hiking with in the end, i had thought it was X but is noticed on FB that he came home on Friday..."

hope everything is ok.

but I noticed

I'm sorry, but I just cannot think of any good explanation for this. Not one. And the reaction of the colleague is very bad.

Bit I really do hope my pessimism is wrong.

Good luck.

I don't know much about facebook technology - will you seem a paranoid person for checking the colleague's page to begin with?

Of course, there is the 'minor' detail that by checking you have uncovered the fact that something in your dp's plans has changed and he hasn't told you...which could be a worry.

Have you and dp been having trouble? Why have you been feeling suspicious?

If your DP knows about your previous relationship, he surely should be understanding that you might think along those lines and to go out of his way to reassure you?

If not for those reasons, then you're just checking to see if he's OK, who could complain about that?

I really hope there is an innocent explanation.

More than a little suspicious.

Does the colleague have a partner? Could you call them? Sorry your partner is being an arse, regardless of what the excuse is!

If the colleague had been called home unexpectedly, or his plans changed or whatever, then why on earth would he not have just said so to you on the phone, and that your DP had decided to go on alone. But to slam the phone off (assuming that's what he did, although even so, he could have called you back to say so) just implies panic on his behalf.
Dodgy.

Yes you can stop android apps running, it would have only have updated London when they actually were in London.

It does sound suspicious - but if there is an innocent explanation then he will be reasonable, if there isn't then like Hecate and others have said - he will be angry - taht would make me more suspicious.

Glenda's inforamtion sounds useful too - have you tried this?

Hmm. I think it's either suspicious or worrying - why on earth would the colleague put the phone down on you unless he was hiding something? I'd be tempted to try colleague one more time and just say you're worried that he's back and husband isn't - is everything ok? And then try getting in touch with the national park.

It'll be interesting to see what the 'explanation' for this is and if it's at all plausible, but on the surface it does seem very odd.

What's an android app please?

I'd be more than a tad suspicious....

Where in the US was the conference BTW?

Android is an operating system for mobiles, its like an iphone (but much better lol)so you download all sorts of apps etc and the gps thing would be one of them, you can change your settings to not data roam whihc means when its not in a home network it wont try to connect. Now they mauy not have enabled that but whereever the collegue was is what his app would have said , android runs off google so essentially google maps whihc in my experience is accurate.

Whats occurring then? any news?

he answered my text, says he is hiking with colleague.

given that he said he wouldn't be able to text, this too seems worrying.

I haven't answered. tempted to phone colleague at work tomorrow.....

Sorry, I'm a little bit confused. Was your DP's conference in the US?

he actually said he was hiking with the collegue you know is home?

oh dear.

Hope you've got it all sorted OP.

If however you've found out he wasn't where we was supposed to be I'd keep schtum and give him enough rope to hang himself. The less you say the more he'll lie.

Shit, sorry but it does sound like he is cheating (I know the signs, sorry). If your gut instinct is telling you something isn't right, then it prob isn't......