I'm not against working Mums but this is going too far.

[Intefering]

Name changed regular.

A friend of mine has 3 young children with a partner in the military. He is due to leave in 3 or 4 years time I think.

Said friend has told me that she will be re-joining the Navy when her youngest starts reception in 2 years time, several reasons why, money issues, she's worried that after 8 years being a SAHM she will be unemployable, she loves the Navy and nothing else career wise interests her.

AIBU to suggest that this is a ridiculous idea?! I doubt she's considered all the time away from her DC, how her DH will cope picking up the slack at home on his own. Yes she may have loved the Navy but that's behind her and she should concentrate on her responsibilities as a wife and mother.

I'm trying to advise her as her friend but I can't see past her incredible selfishness, how can she have all these kids just to abandon them? She's worried that in 18 years time when all the kids have left home she'll be in a miserable job having watched life pass her by, I really want to tell her that she should of thought of that before getting pregnant.

AIBU and if I am can someone tell me how this will work because I really can't see it.

Oh sweet holy jesus, I've just remembered - I'm having a baby in a few weeks and going back to work full-time. My boyfriend will be a SAHD and he's ex-military. Won't somebody pray for my baybee? A selfish mother and a SAHD!?

she wants to do it so she won't be sat at home when the kids go to school, lonely and unemployed - or in a dull end job, maybe I am bit jealous that she can do it so easily. My conscience wouldn't let me.

Off on the school run but I'll be back soon.

Don't hold back now, tortoiseonthehalfshell

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(But especially applauds the 'come and have a go if you think you're hard enough' aspect! )

Yeay Tortoise!

yes you are jealous

Well, win win. She gets a fulfilling career, you get to feel superior and a martyr. What's the problem?

Well put Tortoise. And I'd still like to know why the op thinks the DH would not cope picking up the slack at home while the DW is away? She coped okay, while he was away, no?

so instead of getting stuck in a dead end job she's deciding to go back and do something that she's done before, and loved, and a career that will carry her through once her DC leave home if she so wishes.

Go Tortoise!!

Well said Tortoise.

Interfering I've got nothing to add to all the YABU posts, except about your comment:

'my conscience wouldn't let me'

Do you have any idea how much of a sanctimonious maryr you sound?!

'martyr' even

So OP, when your kids go to school, you are going to sit round doing nothing all day long..... will your conscience allow that??

The OP is BVU.

I think Tortoise has scared her away . We should set her onto all the trolls

OP - ridiculous? Yes, you really truly are.

I childmind Military Children, I often have children that both parents are Military, occasionally both Parents are away for a few days, that is why I do overnight care.

Just because she wants to go back in, does not mean that she has not thought long and hard about it. Her DH obviously is prepared to be the main carer, and as long as they have good childcare in place (if he is working) then what is the problem!

well my conscience tells me to do what's right for my children and for me. And what's right for ME and my children, because I don't stop mattering just because I have children I my conscience tells me to make sure I strike a balance that means my children are loved and care for, while not forgetting about myself, both in the here and now, and for the future.

I know from past experience when I'm not happy, I've been low, I've been a martyr my children aren't as happy

To be fair, the Op does work. But in a profession better suited to ladies than galavanting around the world on warships.

Galavanting is a great word, isn't it? It suggests such...fun.

Well, interfering, your conscience is obviously as dumb as the rest of you then.

I've rarely read an OP that manages to be so equally offensive about both women and men at the same time!

Just to be clear, MNHQ, I did not just invite the OP to Cat me, you cunt. Honest.

"my conscience wouldn't let me"

Gosh, you clearly don't have much faith in your DH then, if your conscience wouldn't let you leave him looking after his own children.