To be furious that DD was alone when I came home??

[ApocalypseCheese]

DD has asd and a statement which covers her from the moment she leaves home to the moment she gets home. IE she is never unsupervised for her own safety.

Got home from shopping earlier and the poor thing was sat on the sofa panicing, one phonecall to the school reveals there were hardly any kids on the transport bus so dd was home quite a lot earlier than usual.
The front door wasnt locked as i've lost my front door key, dp had left for work earlier and left it open for me/the builders.

Not good enough, these people are trusted to care for my child when i'm not there, heads will roll in the morning

actually no I don't think the op has been rude on the whole. She made one comment which perhaps she shouldn't have but other than that I don't see where she's been rude. And tbh given some of the responses (re being grateful for the transport) I think she has a point!

It's my responsibility to pick up my children on time from after school club. Doesn't mean they are turfed out onto the street if I am late. Two of the playworkers stay with them until I arrive. Just because one side is unable to meet their share of the responsibility, doesn't absolve the other party of theirs.

Ugh, well I agree with your OP. But you have been incredibly rude very early on in the thread, and won't even acknowledge that you have been so... just saying the comment was 'bit childish' doesn't cover it in the least. I think that is the reason why some of the other replies have been a little brusque.

I am glad your daughter is ok.

Not as rude as the other posters, Pixie, no. Also, any rudeness on her part was in response to ignorance about the particular needs of her child.

Presumably the bus driver/escort has your mobile phone number, apocalypse? Should they not have phoned you to let you know that they were running early anyway? Or is that not part of the contract?

at the "how many countries would provide this level of service" comment...

Where were you, OP? Were you "unavoidably detained"?

Yeah, i'm dead luckey to have two dcs who will always need some form of care Alouiseg, thanks for that.

"sense of entitlement" ffs

"Just be grateful your dc gets a bespoke door to door service!"

WTF??? Christ I still think the OP is being a bit UR - but there's no need for comments like that.

Personally I'm bloody grateful that I have 3 NT children who don't require such a high level of care

toccata our door is almost always unlocked . The OP's daughter is the same age as mine and functioning at approx the same age too. Her escort would not take her in the morning or leave her after school without seeing one of us. If DD came in on her own , they would wait until I'd waved before driving off.

ApocalypseCheese re post in sn, there we know all about school transport

By SoupDragon Wed 23-Jun-10 18:30:57
Not as rude as the other posters, Pixie, no. Also, any rudeness on her part was in response to ignorance about the particular needs of her child.

Still no excuse for being rude.

Alouiseg

actually you know what - I've just read the second post about sense of entitlement and just because I'm almost bloody tempted to swap opinion and say yanbu as I'm almost ashamed to be associated with posts like that (and sitting in the YABlittleU camp makes me feel like I'd be assocaited with those types of comments)

wannaBe

all 6yos need a door to door service, don't they?
Usually that is provided by a parent

I can't see a reason for jumping on that comment
nobody said the service shouldn't be available

op's dd was only 10 minutes early
the front door was left open
I think the op should learn from her mistakes, arrive earlier and keep the door locked
and have a word with the escort and insist on face to face handovers

Who leaves their front door (which opens directly on to the pavement) unlocked?

OP - if you hadn't done that there would be no possibility of the transport people thinking someone was in. You would have come
home to find them waiting outside for you. I think you need to reflect on that before you go in all guns blazing. YOU were too late home. Your dd didn't come out of school early, her journey was just shorter than usual. Clearly the escort/transport service needs a reminder of their responsibilities but you are not blameless here.

EvilTwins, i'd stopped to pick up a prescription for my niece, d sis is ill and it's epilepsy meds etc. The bus was late so was a few unfortunate events really.

I agree the front door shouldnt have been left open but the fact remains a carer exchange is just that and we have had the same routine for 6yrs.

I'm damn shaken up by the whole thing.

oh ffs the op made one comment.

But instead of responding to the actual op people have to jump on the one thing she shouldn't have said. I bet if op had made a spelling/gramatical error that would have been picked up instead.

yanbu, agree with Wannabe's sensible posts. although it's understandable how the mistake arose repen front door, the issue does need raising with transport, so similar mistakes don't happen again. also clarification re:timing/early drop offs etc.

OP - yes, I see it was a number of unfortunate events, and you probably thought you had loads of time, so I do sympathise.

Still think the whole unlocked door thing probably led to the logical assumption that you were at home.

I hope you calm down over the next few hours.

By Northernlurker Wed 23-Jun-10 18:36:52
Who leaves their front door (which opens directly on to the pavement) unlocked?

McCanns

runs away

6 years old!!!! You should have been home. Stop making excuses, you feel guilty as hell and want to make it someone elses fault.

Why the link to the football results Narky??

actually those 2 posts have enraged me.

And you know what - I did actually work for a short time in a school for the disabled (that was what it was called - not being unPC)/orphange/hosptal (very difficult to caterogise what it was as we don't really have any equivalents here in the UK.

Anyhow, while many of the children lived there permanently, those that didn't live there did actually get a door to door service.

ok - they had to pay for it - but it was included as part of the school fees........and everyone over there pay school fees.

Boneyback, that's just low.