To be furious that DD was alone when I came home??

[ApocalypseCheese]

DD has asd and a statement which covers her from the moment she leaves home to the moment she gets home. IE she is never unsupervised for her own safety.

Got home from shopping earlier and the poor thing was sat on the sofa panicing, one phonecall to the school reveals there were hardly any kids on the transport bus so dd was home quite a lot earlier than usual.
The front door wasnt locked as i've lost my front door key, dp had left for work earlier and left it open for me/the builders.

Not good enough, these people are trusted to care for my child when i'm not there, heads will roll in the morning

I think it was unwise to post in AIBU, and when people gave their responses many of them didn't know what the sn door to door service actually involves responsibility-wise and legally.

But I remember surviving DS through his pyromaniac phase, and his eat anything sweet phase, and his carving phase.
And the den building. With tipped over wardrobes.
And oh God, the climbing phase.
We used to hand over responsibility to another adult, linked with eye contact and verbal conformation, and signing in blood.
Because unsupervised, he was really imaginative and inventive and completely without any understanding of the consequences.

So I understand the shudder of raw horror that must have gone through you.

I'm also impressed that you don't have burglars and thieves in your area.

sense of entitlement you do realise why the transport situation arises - i.e. the lack of special schools/units attached to mainstream, such that children ended up being bussed in from a fair distance?

I thought Narky was linking to the tits?

oh do fuck off there's a dear Alouise

AC , im horrified that the escort did not a phone/txt you to say dd would be home a little earlier...i know what leaving my sn dd alone for 5 mins so i can nip to the loo is like (its like letting a baby play with matches on the danger scale), never mind having her alone for 10 mins.
Its obvious you`ve had a nasty shock, and poor dd - i hope she doesnt meltdown because of this...she must be so distressed.
i dont think YABU to have word with the escort on this.

YANBU. You could have been late because you were eating cake in a Starbucks and it would be irrelevant because your dd's IEP and the contract with the transport provider states "carer exchange".

The transport provider should absolutely not have left your dd there without checking you or your partner were there.

AlouiseQ is being a bit umm odd? Those posts were so uncalled for and have enlightened me about the gaps in here education.

hope you and your dd can relax and enjoy the rest of a nice sunny evening.

oh - is the OP's DD 6?

I thought she was older - didn't the OP say somewhere in the thread that this arrangement had been in place for 6yrs??? So therefore her DD must be YR4/5/6??

"i hope she doesnt meltdown because of this...she must be so distressed."

Not necessarily at all- mine would just head for the biscuits

Alouiseg, shes 11 but functions at around age 6 level.

And as I have said repeatedly, I crossover service is just that, whatever the circumstances.

OP's dd is 11 but operates at around 6yrs.

Bollocks. gaps in her education. Not here.

'mine would just head for the biscuits'

Oh yes. Then eat them in his den by firelight.

By ApocalypseCheese Wed 23-Jun-10 18:41:33
Boneyback, that's just low.

it is and I apologise

but its been a long day and my humour has gone beyond black.

o that was a good guess........ok admittedly I figured if she was in her 6th year at school then she was a year above my DS1 who has been at school for 5yrs.....but included yr 4/5 as well as I didn't know if there had been any nursery transport stuff

im also quite saddened by the attitudes of some of the posters ...Having a child with SN needs a whole new rule book of parenting....take the one that you know form having a NT child and burn it.
ASD children often are a danger to themselves and cannot be left alone... the agreement was that the escort should never leave AC`S dd until she was handed to her parent...she did not do her job.Even if AC had been home all day ...the escort should not have let dd walk in the house alone.

morecrack, alouise wrote:

"How many countries do you think would provide this level of service??? Yet op's obvious sense of entitlement means she thinks she can control the traffic
flow on any given day. I am, once again astounded by peoples rights without responsibilities." and she was referring in general to six year olds, was she? get real.

I leave my door unlocked sometimes

It is quite common to do so around here

Yes I am very shaken, these people are responsible for dd when i'm not there.

Also THE TRANSPORT SERVICE IS NOT FREE.

Dd attends an autism unit in a mainstream school,out of my area therefore, as it isnt her directed school I have to pay the transport costs.

The den by firelight?

I am so lucky that dd has shown no interest in matches and lighters. But I could imagine her running a bath to eat said biscuits in. Fully clothed, naturally...

premium - I do often leave my door unlocked when I'm at home - I'd never leave the house with it unlock...............well apart from when I totally forget to shut it at all and bugger off to the shops for 1/2hr with my DS's

YANBU in any way shape or form, nor do I think you have been particularly rude. There has been a fair bit of ignorance bandied about though

Transport should always handover to an adult, they had no idea if you had been delayed by something like a car breaking down or an accident - you could have been inside and hurt or someone could have broken in. If you couldn't be found, they should have waited for a few minutes and then tried to contact you, not just dump her

If I have ever been held up a few minutes - and can happen very easily - the bus has always waited until I get back, especially if they are unusually early, they will wait until 5 minutes after the time they should have arrived. If I wasn't at home for longer than 5-10, they would take my child to the local SN after school service

You need to speak to the transport people and let them know today's situation is totally unacceptable

To everyone else on this thread who has no personal knowledge of special needs/disability, jump down off those high horses - we don't want to entrust our children, some of them totally non verbal, to the care of strangers but we don't have a choice - and if they let us and our children down, we need to complain to make sure the services are fit for their purpose. Transport is an extension of school, they are loco parentis (sp?) I can't believe some of these comments and I think the OP has been quite restrained actually

So why risk a post in the nt shark tank?
Do you feel the need to live dangerously?

lol @ porta `s biscuit munching dc ! just for you ...
...

But the escort does allow op's dd to walk in alone
she has done it every week for 6 years

it has only become a problem because op was not home in time and left the door unlocked!

Can't you challenge the fees if her Statement says her education should be at the school she attends? That doesn't sound at all fair or right to me.