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to dislike wedding rings on men?

178 replies

commeuneimage · 18/06/2010 06:56

I think it makes them look wimpish and henpecked. Probably because my father would have died rather than wear a ring. Does anyone else feel the same?

OP posts:
TheBride · 19/06/2010 20:15

Nooka- I am generalising so there will always be cases that dont fit. I just cant step away from my social history interests

Despite the jokes on this thread, there is also a religious aspect- my dad comes from the north and there, in his very working class community, wearing a wedding ring was viewed as a "catholic thing".

I have also heard the opinion (more than once) that "a gentleman never wears a ring" so that might also be a consideration as to why some people consider it aspirational not to wear one.

nooka · 19/06/2010 22:26

TheBride I thought that your point was interesting, and I can see the logic. I wouldn't be at all surprised if there wasn't a class element (probably regional and religious ones too), but it just jarred with my experiences and for once Google was not very useful.

Snobear4000 · 19/06/2010 22:33

It might make them look wimpish (I disagree), but at least (and I assume this might be important to the OP) it makes them look not-gay.

BucketGusset · 19/06/2010 22:36

Women don't like wedding rings on men because it reminds them they belong to someone else when they are at it hth

victoriascrumptious · 19/06/2010 22:39

I think they're sexy

nooka · 19/06/2010 22:43

Why woudl you think that Snobear? My gay married friends wear rings too.

itmightnothavebeenme · 19/06/2010 22:43

:O Bucketgusset or whatever your name is, that is a vile thing to say, you homewrecker!

gettingtogrips · 19/06/2010 22:46

I don't like any jewellery on a man and I agree with the OP. I often imagine the man has been pressured into wearing one whether it's peer pressure or from his partner. It must be very strange for them to wear a ring for the first time

BucketGusset · 19/06/2010 22:48

Jealousy is an ugly disease itmightnotbe whatever

vspiders · 19/06/2010 22:50

ahhh see it was the ring that attracted me to my boyf ... the chase is the best bit!

vspiders · 19/06/2010 22:50

ahhh see it was the ring that attracted me to my boyf ... the chase is the best bit!

hopalongdagger · 19/06/2010 23:16

Why oh why do people feel the need to judge everyone else on what they wear/don't wear/how they look?

OP YABU.

gettingtogrips Certainly no pressure on my DH to wear a wr, completely his own choice. It was very strange to me to wear my engagement ring for the first time, and you could certainly argue that he 'pressured' me to wear it- he would have been devastated if I hadn't wanted to. Do you also object to women wearing wedding and engagement rings?

Mumcentreplus · 20/06/2010 01:35

I dont understand why people think a man would be 'pressured' into wearing a ring??......he's either going to wear it or not...

ben5 · 20/06/2010 05:07

my dad doesn't wear a wedding ring. my dh choose to wear one. he onlys wears this one and his watch is the only other bit of jewellery

sarah293 · 20/06/2010 06:10

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piscesmoon · 20/06/2010 07:50

I can't imagine how someone's choice upsets someone else-surely it is just up to the couple? Why would someone else need to make judgements about it? I think it is nice that we don't all need to conform to one particular code.

Bumperlicious · 20/06/2010 08:47

What a bizarre thread with some really weird attitudes

DH wears one, he asked to have one and I was mildly surprised, but I like it (it's a very nice ring). I wouldn't think one way or another about a married man wearing one or not.

Blondeshavemorefun · 20/06/2010 09:19

i went to my friends wedding yesterday and her dh had a ring (looks like the style of my dh ring) and he was proud to wear it

went to another wedding last month and no ring for the groom as he didnt want one, tho wears other rings on right hand - know it upset my friend that he wouldnt have a a wedding ring

thumbwitch · 20/06/2010 15:37

Blondes, I can see why your friend would be upset there - if her H wore other rings but refused to wear a wedding ring, I'd be wondering why!

I was pleasantly surprised when DH said he wanted one - no pressure from me at all. But as I said before, his Dad had always worn one. As mine hadn't, it wouldn't have bothered me if DH hadn't wanted to wear one because he never wears jewellery.

redandyellowandpinkandgreen · 20/06/2010 17:29

We are getting married shortly, I'm having a ring, he's not. He doesn't want one, does a manual job and never wears any jewellery so I completely agree with his decision. I thought about getting a token one for the day but it seems a bit pointless so we're not bothering.

BongoWinslow · 20/06/2010 17:42

My husband wears one - he got a titanium one so it wouldn't get too beaten up due to his job .

It's the only jewelery he wears and it doesn't look wimpish. It looks like he's comfortable enough to publicly say "I'm committed to my wife".

But I'd be fine if he didn't wear one - I don't need him to say it publicly to be reassured that he's committed. It's just nice that he wants to.

amothersplaceisinthewrong · 20/06/2010 19:18

My DH and I both HAD rings, only his broke when we were moveing a table five weeks into married life It ihas been in my jewellery box for almost 23 years. (Mind you my ring is not the original as I lost that when it flew off when I was pushig DS on a swing in a park and not even my friends metal detector could find it!)

fatoftheland · 20/06/2010 19:24

lOLAPOPPINS. You could be me! I detest jewellery, it makes me feel sick. I was engaged once and wore the ring for a while but it made feel ill so I had to take it off.

When I see someone wearing a ring and making food I can't eat it. A man asked me out once but even though I liked him I couldn't do it because he had an earring.

It's so bad that even if I found a mega expensive bracelet on the floor I would have to leave it there!

pumperspumpkin · 20/06/2010 19:25

I kind of know where you are coming from as my father didn't wear a wedding ring. When DH and I married, I said I didn't mind whether he had a ring or not (after all, the vows go both ways even if there's only one ring) but, if he did, he had to wear it all the time - if you're buying into the symbolism of a wedding ring, then it's not something you should put in a drawer and only wear for best. He is very proud to wear his ring and it's his only jewellery.

Lerato · 20/06/2010 19:29

I don't wear a wedding ring (or engagement for that matter). Nor does DH. Neither of us feels the need to. DH isn't a ring man at all. I don't feel any need to follow convention. It all seems a bit samey to me. How many diamond solitaires does the world need?

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