to dislike wedding rings on men?

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I think it makes them look wimpish and henpecked. Probably because my father would have died rather than wear a ring. Does anyone else feel the same?

I don't think it's an age thing particularly - my DH is 50 and it was his decision to wear a wedding ring. Ditto my dad who is over 70 and has worn his constantly since the wedding.

I really don't judge people's relationships by whether or not they choose to wear a ring - people can do all the outward signs of committment to their marriage, and still not be faithful or treat their partner well. Equally, they can decide not to wear rings, or take their husbands surname, or even get married at all, and be utterly committed to the relationship.

My ILs were disgusted that their son bought me an engagement ring-MIL doesn´t have one, and appalled that he wears a wedding ring-FIL doesn´t.

YABU and weirdy.

Older than you lot?

My dad is 74 and wears a wedding ring.

They've been married 46 years on Sunday.

I don't think I know any married men in my generation who don't wear wedding rings.

Wow it never ceases to amaze me what can annoy people!

Er.. I suppose it's not a case of being unreasonable or not. Just a matter of personal choice.

I do like to see it though. My dh wears his. I don't think it's a new or fashionable thing. My dad has always worn one and I seem to remember my grandad too wearing a ring. It doesn't look weak, not to me.

I quite often don't wear mine but only because I don't like wearing rings when my hands get wet cos it's hard to dry under them.

hmmm, in other countries most maried men do.

My DH was not keen on a ring for himself, but very keen on one for me as I still got chatted up a bit in those days (long long time ago).

I said I was fine with no ring for him, but then I would not wear one either, as I could not see how he could think I "should" and he should not. Equality and all that.

In the end we both chose to wear one.

So I think YABU if you think women should wear them and men not. But YANBU if you think women wearing them look stupid too.

I'm with the OP.

If you see a handsome man wearing a wedding ring, it looks like a "he's taken" statement, and if an ugly bloke wears one, it's "hey, look everybody - I got someone!"

Dh and I are very much married - but I don't feel the need to "tag" him. (And that goes for wives, too.)

My dad never wore one, my FIL never, my DH doesn't except when we are going out! He has an industrial job, it would be dangerous and get wrecked too. I'm not bothered, I wear mine all the time, I like wearing it.

So I agree with you, you need the support!

expat my dad is a similar vintage to yours, he also wears a wedding ring and always has; he and my mum have been married 44 years.

My DH always wears his (as I do mine) and it's nothing to do with what I think he should do. I don't think he would consider himself henpecked.

OP YABU- how can it make a man look winpish and henpecked when, in the case of my DH, he chose to wear one and picked it out himself, of his own accord. In my experience, you can't make a 40 year old man do your bidding if he really doesn't want to.

He's proud to be married as am I, and its a nice little reminder when you're doing ordinary things, of the moment we first wore them during our wedding. How that makes him wimpish and henpecked I don't know.

I do agree that jewellery on men is a but yuk though, although my DH wears an SOS talisman as he is diabetic.

I don't see how a man wearing a ring can be seen as henpecked anyway as, being the social norm, it's unlikely that his wife will have insisted on it - it will just have been assumed.

I like my wedding ring, it's generally the only piece of jewellery I wear. My choice to wear it, Dh isn't fussed.

Dh doesn't wear any jewellery. His body, his choice.

I don't like wedding rings - probably because my father never wore one, so they just look a bit odd and out of place to me.

But I certainly don't think they make men look wimpish or henpecked, (maybe uxorious would be a better word?), that's a strange interpretation of such a widespread cultural habit.

YABU.

Rings are lovely. A plain gold band that means 'love. forever.'. I draw strength from mine - and I think DH likes wearing his.

I don't see it as a badge of ownership, but I find it cute how much mileage my Dd gets out of the fact they match. . I think she has some idea that they have little magnets in them or summat, to keep 'matching' people close together.

Men with wedding rings - I find I'm always slightly warmer towards - especially if they're otherwise quite laddish. I kind of imagine them looking after a little family somewhere, standing up to their responsibilities as men.

One of the weirdest OPs I've seen here. YABU. There is something nice about a man wearing his wedding ring, not sure what that is exactly. Doesn't bother me if they don't wear it either, it's a personal choice.

I also do think that any kind of jewellery other than a wedding band or wristwatch looks hideous on a man.

YABU.

I like seeing a wedding ring on a bloke, but only coz I'm nosyand it saves me having to ask.

My DH wears his around his neck because he says it rubs and it isn't hygenic for his job. He does put it on if we go out (never) or on high days and holidays.

I think all jewellery on men, including wedding rings, looks very bleurgh. Just personal taste.

Doesn't annoy me. I just don't like the look of it. Likewise earrings, mose studs, tattoos.

Don't really buy into the 'henpecked' argument even though the only man I know who does wear a wedding ring - my father - is as henpecked as they come.

I find my DHs wedding ring sexy and manly. I really can't explain it. It's not very rational. And I bought it for him, so it's a compliment to me that he wears it

YABU- Off the top of my head I couldnt even tell you which of the men that I knew did or didnt wear wedding rings. Why would go round looking for something like that?

... unless it's a nose-ring attached to a chain which the wife pulls him around on all day whilst beating him on the bottom with a Woman's Weekly (on the other hand, that floats some people's boats......)

What I really hate is men who wear signet rings, but no wedding ring. Yuk.

"I find men without them very strange and somewhat conceited - like they're too 'special' to wear a ring for their wives or not committed enough to their relationships. I always feel a bit sorry for their wives when I see a married man without one"

I called this statement pathetic AlCrowley, not you personally.

You just sound needy.