to dislike wedding rings on men?

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I think it makes them look wimpish and henpecked. Probably because my father would have died rather than wear a ring. Does anyone else feel the same?

My Granddad didn't until my Nan died, then he wore hers. It made him feel closer to her. I have had it since he died, but I don't wear it. It wasn't even their original one, they married in 1946 in southern France and had a very cheap one, they replaced that when they had a bit more money. I will always treasure their ring, they went through Hell in different ways before they met, Nazi occupation in my Nan's home town and 6 years on the front line for Granddad. I admired them both so much and that ring is a symbol of hope.

I don't find rings on men attractive, and think a wedding ring on a man does make him look a bit sad, like a bull with a ring through his nose. Or a dog with a muzzle. But then, I like men who work with their hands, not soft-handed office workers. None of the men in my family have ever worn rings and I think that's the crucial difference - if daddy wore a wedding ring, you'd probably want your hubby too as well.

I think they're nice. But no men in my family wear them so I used to not like them. Don't think it makes much difference about what type of man they are tbh - in my experience cheaters of my acquaintance have been divided equally into ring-wearing and non-ring-wearing, IIRC

yabu but each to their own. my dh wears a chunky platinum weddimg ring but no other jewellery - i think it looks fab - esp now it is a bit scuffed and he is v tanned

dh likes to wear it (mostly because he cant for work) but then he likes to hold my hand in public and his words 'show he is owned'! which i think is cute but many will cringe he he

PIL don't like DH wearing a wedding ring because they think it looks Catholic.

yep, I'm cringing.

i don't doubt it lovechoc! i'd cringe if he was someone else dp!

DH doesn't wear one at work (machinery and that) but he wears it other times, and no, my father doesn't wear one.

I don't really care either way. I like DH to wear his, because I wear mine and when I see them it reminds me of our wedding.

But I think the OP's attitude is very odd, so yes, YABU.

Whaaaaat! Its symbolic a sign of commitment to each other. My dh would not say he was henpecked, in fact he looks sexy with his wedding ring on.

Not that new fangled! My dad is 71 and has worn a wedding ring for the last 37 years! My dh wears his wedding ring, despite saying when we married he would only wear it when we were going out as he didn't think it was safe in his job! He hasn't taken it off in nearly 6 years!

having looked it up it seems only 15% of husbands wore a ring before 1940 but it changed during and after the war. Obviously I'm old-fashioned. Maybe odd, maybe unreasonable. But I still think the male hand looks manlier naked.

Though even I would't go as far as comparing it to a bull with a ring through his nose, otterlybotterly...

gramercy that's funny and I kind of agree with you

I completely agree with the OP.

OP, what bollocks. YABU.

rings on men=vile.

rings on men=vile.

My husband made the choice that he wanted to wear one, and he was the one of us pushing for them to be matching as well. I'm glad that he wanted to wear one - it's a public display of committment, and for quite a quiet private man that my husband is - that means a massive amount.

I do like a nice silver chunky watch and silver/platinum/white gold wedding ring on a nicely tanned man anyway though (purely for aesthetic purposes).

I don't always wear my engagement ring, it doesn't sit well alongside my wedding ring and it annoys me at times on my right hand where I tend to wear it, but the only time my wedding ring comes off is in the shower or during really hot weather when the heat makes me too itchy to deal with jewellery - and hubby is the same!

There is also a class thing here -

Working classes- less likely than average to wear them due to unsuitability for manual jobs/ cash considerations (eg my father never had one as parents couldn't afford two rings when they got married)

Upper middle classes/ Upper classes- men often wear a signet ring and don't want two rings.

Middle classes- most frequently wear them. Some snobbery/ aspiration around it- i.e. middle classes aspiring to upper class norms and seeing it as a bit twee.

My DH wears one, father doesn't, his father did though (but he was a Catholic )

In the past men did not wear rings just women (so I've heard)...but I find rings on a man cool...does not freak me out..wedding rings are an outward sign of an inward and personal commitment...tis sweet...nothing to do with being wimp or henpecked...thats sounds like some transferance 'issues' imo..

I wouldn't touch a man who'd 'die rather than wear a wedding ring' with somebody else's bargepole.

If they didn't want to wear one for reasonable, genuine reasons, then that's another matter entirely.

The former clearly being being of the misogynistic, antiquated, buffoonish persuasion; the latter not.

DH wears one, along with his watch. Mine's platinum, his is gold because, in his words, 'gold is fitting for the son of a carpenter'.

His father, from good Irish Catholic working class stock wears one. My father, from good NZ middle class stock wears one. He sometimes also wears my late mother's WR as well, such as on my wedding day.

Henpecked? Um, if you say so...

I love DH wearing his wedding ring - shows the world he is mine and off the market - mind you some women who obviously aren't of the sisterhood still try it on!!

mind you fwiw i dont get this need to show the world "my husband is mine". i know he is, he knows he is. what more do you need. sounds a little insecure if you need to show this outwardly.

TheBride I'm not sure that you are right there. My family are upper middle and none of the men in older generations wore rings, either signet or wedding, nor were there any rings for men handed down from previous generations. Whereas in my dh's family (working class through and through) all the married men wore wedding rings and had done for several generations, indeed my dh was surprised that my father didn't wear a ring, as he thought of that as being totally the norm.

My BIL has an engagement ring too.

DH has one but doesn't wear it unless we're going out.

I can't complain - I lost mine a couple of years ago. If DH has noticed, he's not mentioned it.

I don't really like jewellery you wear all the time - it makes me feel uncomfortable - so I'm always removing my rings (hence why it is lost).

I guess we're just not sentimentally attached to jewellery.