to dislike wedding rings on men?

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I think it makes them look wimpish and henpecked. Probably because my father would have died rather than wear a ring. Does anyone else feel the same?

Yy Bumbling - you could equally say

it makes him look like he has regular wild and loving sex with his beautiful wife

he is a responsible adult who has shown he's got the balls to weather the ups and down of a relationship

I love that my DH proudly wears his. The only other jewellery he wears is his watch. As far as other men go, I might wonder what a married guy gets up to if he doesn't wear one (as I have worked with some cheaters who didn't wear rings), but whatever floats your boat.

the level of weirdness is high...

I do find it amazing how much some people read into what other people choose to do or not do. For a huge number of people, wearing a wedding ring or not wearing one is not a long-thought-out complex decision where they have considered all the possible implications which other people will put on their actions. It's just "what you do" or "not something I'd thought of".

It never occurred to me to choose not to wear a ring, or to be worried whether DH wanted to wear one or not. I like the fact that he chose to wear one, and that we picked out matching ones together, but if he hadn't wanted to do that then I wouldn't have felt slighted by him not wearing one, or worried about what that meant for our relationship.

And I don't make any assumptions about men I meet who wear them or don't wear them. it's just not that big a deal, is it?

Lots of over-thinking here! I wear my ring some of the time, take it off when it's messy. I wear it because I enjoy being reminded that DP and I exchanged rings and made a commitment. The ring is not the commitment, it just reminds me of that.

I imagine men wear them for similar reasons, and I wouldn't give a toss if DP did or not. In fact I've never asked him if it bothers him that half the time I've put mine down somewhere and don't wear it, but I bet the answer is no.

Btw, it's a pretty British thing for men not to wear rings. In some countries it has been traditional for both partners for donkey's years.

I rarely wear my rings, DH never takes his off and trust me he is neither henpicked nor wimpish. Same goes for my father (ex legionnaire)who wore his ring until the day he died.

I can't stand men with jewellery, bar a suitably manly wedding ring. My father is very old fashioned and wears his wedding ring with pride, as does my husband. I wouldn't have been upset if he had decided not to wear one as it is his choice, but I'm glad he did. And very glad that he loves it as much as he does.

I am the complete opposite. I really like wedding rings on men and can't understand why a man wouldn't wear one. other than allergic reasons.

I do find it stange that many people think it weird that our rings don't match...a shiny platinum ring would have looked silly on him. He has very big hands and would have needed a very wide ring in order to not look ridiculous, the platinum would have looked showy. So I have a very narrow platinum band, and he has a titanium one...it matches his watch and he loves it.

YABU. Wearing a wedding ring does not make a man look wimpish and henpecked. It is a sign of his commitment to his wife. Well that's why my DH wears one and is alo why my son in law wears one. Nierhter of them are wimpish and henpecked and it's very insulting to men for you to think that.

My DH wears his wedding ring 24/7, never takes it off, but does it make a difference? No. He can wear it or not, at the end of the day we know we are married and we dont need a piece of metal to remind us!

I on the the other hand, havent worn one since about 6mnths after we got married.

I dont like wearing jewellery, I will wear a necklace if we go out somewhere nice (very rare) but on the whole I am a NO JEWELLERY person. I just dont find it comfortable.

My dad hasnt worn his wedding ring since his honeymoon, but he was a chef in the RAF and wasnt allowed for health and hygiene reasons. My mum always wore hers up until the day she died.

I think its all down to personal choice, I certainly do not believe it to be wimpish and henpecked!

Huh?

My DH doesn't wear a wedding ring, because he doesn't like wearing jewellery.

I don't wear a wedding ring, because I don't particularly like the way wedding rings look on me.

However, those are our personal choices. If someone wants to wear a ring, they should. And I can't really see how it makes them henpecked or dominated to do something they want to do?

get a life ffs

It's a class thing surely? If one has a family crest, then the men may wear a signet ring and no wedding ring (because it's not the done thing to wear rings on two adjacent fingers), and if you don't then you wear a wedding ring.

None of the men in my family (DH, father, grandfathers, uncles etc) wear wedding rings, but all either wear signet rings or nothing - all of them are very committed to their wives!

Oblomov - one reason for men not to wear a wedding ring is if they work with heavy machinery - my Grandad was an engineer and spent all day working with lathes and other dangerous machinery so didn't wear a ring for safety reasons. OF course, they could wear one other times and take it off for work but if they forget, the risk is higher for them to lost a finger.

My Dad wouldn't wear one because he can't stand jewellery on men.

My DH wears one, as did his father - I like it on him, I like the fact that we have matched rings (as does he).

I'm in Germany and pretty much all married men wear wedding rings here, although it's often worn on the right hand not the left. I think it looks fine, but I'm not keen on other jewellery on men. Dh and I take our rings off for sports so as not to catch them on things or loose them (he lost his after ski training once when his hands were cold and I am eternally grateful to the person who handed it in to the police).

My Dad doesn't wear one - wasn't so usual in the UK when he got married and he would have been worried about catching it when doing DIY etc. but now says that he wishes he did have one - I think he feels a bit like the odd one out when he's with colleagues from continental Europe.

PanicMode - class thing, really???

Someone always manages to turn every argument into a 'class thing' Mingg, especially if they see themselves on the side of the 'winners'. For what its worth, my titled uncle doesn't wear his signet ring, he purely wears his wedding ring. My father wears his signet ring as a wedding ring as he didn't want to wear two but didn't want to go without either, and I have many friends who wear signet rings. They wouldn't class themselves as 'upper class' (really, who does nowadays?) and they range from very much single to very much married!

"New-fangled, this male ring-wearing."

Ahem. Hate to mention it, but whether you wear a wedding ring or not has traditionally been a class thing.

I hate wedding rings on men too.

But that's because I'm single and it means they're married

My DH doesn't wear his anymore because he's lost 9 stone and it's too big. Its been altered once already and we can't afford to have it done again.

But he needs it more now than ever as he gets checked out loads more now he's slimmer. (Not that he didn't before, just more now).

I like him wearing it, they are reminders of promises made before god.

I was being slightly tongue in cheek when I posted and trying to move the discussion in a different direction, but I'm glad that beanlet shares my view.

In any case, although I may think that I'm a 'winner' in the class discussion or not, whether one does or doesn't wear a wedding ring is ultimately personal choice - same as changing one's name or not, so the arguments on the thread are all fairly circular.

women fancy men who wear wedding rings.

(I'll get my coat)

Sorry PanicMode, blame my ridiculous hormones (very pregnant) and an emotional morning saying bye to colleagues at work. Didn't mean to 'passive aggressively' bite your head off!