to dislike wedding rings on men?

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I think it makes them look wimpish and henpecked. Probably because my father would have died rather than wear a ring. Does anyone else feel the same?

PanicMode my question was completely genuine. I come from mainland Europe and where I come from the "upper class men" wear wedding rings (then I think so do the British Royals?) so I was genuinely asking if this was one of those (imo) British peculiarities

stubornhubby - so its its like a consumer product then?

A man with a ring on comes with a sort of 'user tested recomendation' from another woman whereas a bloke without a ring is more of a risky unknown quantity.

I'd guess there might be a "class" element in that manual workers / factory workers would have concerns about safety with machinery and practicality when working with your hands (I take mine off when I'm doing gardening or a lot of cleaning as I find it rubs), where office workers, managers etc wouldn't have the same concerns.

personally i hate men wearing rings of any type. but i dont think a man wearing a wedding ring is henpecked or whatever. it only says to me urgggh...

When we got married my dh chose to wear a ring. It wouldn't have bothered me if he didn't.
I have not worn my wedding ring for 13 years. I have no idea where it is. I wear my engagement ring and a diamond eternity ring instead.

i'm with stubborn. getting my coat. women who like men with wedding rings ? i find that hard to accept. i don't like the idea that women deliberatly target married men. not my idea of sisterhood. yuk. women are their own worst enemies. not a sisterhood that i want to be part of thank you.

Although I gave dh a ring when we got married, he doesn't wear it because he works with chemicals which used to get trapped under it and do nasty things to his skin, so he doesn't wear it anymore. It doesn't bother me either way, his commitment to me is emotional and constant. I usually wear my ring but if I choose not to wear it for weeks he doesn't mind. We love each other and nothing else matters.

My husband doesn't wear a wedding ring, and I wear only my engagement ring.

beenbeta, oblomov my theory two reasons:

• a wr shows that the wearer values, and is not ashamed of being in, a committed relationship. a lot of women like the idea of that.

• it also shows that you are desirable to at least one other person - that's just human: you know the way that when a friend picks out something in a shop it suddenly seems nicer.

But let's keep calm - this is not a big effect. wearing a WR does not turn you into an instant babe-magnet.
alas.

p.s: actually, we dont HAVE wedding rings.
We ARE married though. Honest.

OP - YABU. How on earth you equate every man wearing a ring with being henpecked and wimpish makes me wonder what kind of married men you meet.

Oh and on a side note, yup - there is a certain type of woman who deliberately targets married men. If you go into one of the expensive London bars and you will sometimes find single, gorgeous young things deliberately targeting the married men. Their view is that the men are attached so won't impinge on her lifestyle, but rich, so will buy her very nice presents etc etc...

My DH and I wear my grandparents rings (GPs died when I was a child), they are engraved with their names and wedding date - 1923. We like to have a visible committment to each other and I hope that the rings are a 'lucky charm' - my GPs had a very happy marriage

CherryBaby

snap! or at least, will be snap, once we get round to buying me an engagement ring (long after we are married ... )

mistletoekisses

um (casual talk, casual talk) so which London bars are those then?

My father would have died rather than wear a ring but since he was a child beating mentally abusive narcassistic closet homosexual I have nothing but respect for a man who does.

I will accept that some see a wedding ring as a sign of ownership or something like that and so you could say you didnt agree with them as a symbol but to say 'on a man' is actually ridiculous.

Its ok for a woman then???

My husband doesn't wear a ring and it doesn't bother me at all. He wears no jewellery, not even a watch. If he did wear a ring he would have to take it off for work and would most probably lose it anyway as he is always losing stuff. As well as a dirty, manual job he does a lot of DIY when he is not at work. I think he thought I would want him to have a ring but I'm not bothered, especially if it was just going to sit in a box most of the time. My father doesn't wear a wedding ring and neither did either of my grandfathers. FIL doesn't wear a ring either.
I'd say the majority of men I know of my father's age do not wear wedding rings however the majority of men I know who are my age and are married do wear rings. I think it is more 'fashionable' now however I do accept that some grandads did/do wear rings.
I think it is down to personal choice - I like jewellery and wear my engagement ring and wedding ring all the time because I really like them not because I feel owned.

Marantha I'm not sure I understand what you have a problem with. Are you taking issue with my wording being imprecise? In which case guilty as charged; but I thought people would get the general idea of what I was saying.

If however, you are saying that heterosexual relationships through marriage are more of a commitment than civil partnerships, then I think you are close minded and wrong in the strongest possible terms. Shame on you.

Wimpy and henpecked?
Do get over yourself, my DH wears two wedding rings, one on both hands, we had new rings for our 25th but he couldn't bear to take his original ring off so he wears his new one on his right hand, it confuses his Muslim workers no end, they assume he has two wives, a Muslim one and a non-Muslim one!

dh bought his own wedding ring two years after we got married.

He thought it would be nice (this is a bloke who still washes with coal tar soap)

I think it a nice idea-it probably wasn't the norm when your father got married.

I think what is really strange is when people feel insecure enough that they don't allow their partner to leave the house without their ring on.

DH works in a job that means he can't wear jewellery for health and safety reasons so only wears his ring on days off.

I don't mind if he wears the ring or not, it's up to him. I wear mine all the time.

dh doesn't, my dad doesn't, my FIL doesn't. Never occurred to me it was odd until I read this thread. On the other hand am sure all my male friends probably wear rings.

Isn't it traditional for a single ring to be given? I am sure I read that the exchanging of rings was a result of a marketing campaign by the jewellery industry at some point (vague and uninformed assertion)...

I have absolutely no doubts about dh's commitment to me. A marriage is not defined by a ring.

And DH has been on work nights out with his wedding ring on and seems to get more attention from women than when he doesn't wear one. He calls it a 'woman magnet'.