...to not want to take my shoes off...

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when I've arrived at someone's house for a dinner party having spent ages choosing what to wear, including footwear?
Surely you can't expect people to get dressed up to come round for a meal and then ask them to wander around in their socks/tights (or even worse, popsocks hiding under knee-length boots!)

They should put dust sheets down.

yanbu ..Its very annoying ..did they provide slippers?

Maybe it was pouring with rain and you crossed a muddy field to get there, no?

I tell people before they come. My mum, dad, sister, MIL and FIL all have a pair of slippers at my house! (Bought by me of course...)

To my mind, shockingly rude. It's a very recent fashion, too, so nothing to do with courtesy, and more to do with valuing furniture above friends.

There's a thing called a doormat for wiping shoes, and it's served us well for many years.

Nice party frock + slippers = not a good look

were they Manolo Blahnik and were you worried they would be stolen?

IMO YABU their house their rules In mine your not allowed to smoke

echt you've said it all. Very inhospitable, and totally anal imo.

Its nothing to do with valuing furniture above friends, more to do with having babies that lick the floor and beige carpets that are destroyed by peoples filthy shoes.

Most of the world realises that the shoes that you have walked through mud and shit and puddles should be taken off when entering a house, its basic courtesy and hygiene.

But it's not really a case of valuing furniture over friends. It's of liking both , and wanting one to do to something small to keep the other one nice.

I would expect to take them off in someone's house and usually expect the same in mine...though no carpets....so I'm not so bothered in mine to spoil a friendship.

YABU. Your shoes track in all sorts of dirt. I grew up in a no shoes indoor home, (even the meter man had to take his off!) and it is thoroughly ingrained. I ALWAYS take my shoes off when I enter someones house!

I've just put new flooring down which we've looked forward to for years. Why should I let it get covered in dirt just so you don't get offended? Are you going to pay to have it cleaned?

That sounds arsier than it's meant to but it's only polite. I always ask shoes on or off when entering someone's house.

I don't like it when people take their shoes off in my house. Don't much like feet, and would prefer them to be covered at all times.

I would think it most odd if a guest took their shoes off in our house.

i don't want your dog poo and cat piss shoes all over my house. and i don't want your heels scratching my lovely wooden floor. i have under floor heating so you won't get cold.

if you had a good reason for keeping your shoes on, ok. but otherwise...

i think people should make an exception for going out shoes which are worn mainly for parties and that kind of thing, they wont really be dirty and like op says it will ruin the outfit. we are normally shoes off in our house but when i have parties i would not make ppl take their shoes off. yanbu op, but if it was normal daily wear shoes and were dirty then that would bu to object on that one

I've never understood taking shoes off for a party either. IMO it looks weird, and tkaes the party atmosphere out of it.

Also I wear high heels so I am a more level platform with other people (4'10") so find it really frustrating being relegated back down to navel height.

YANBU

ok- on previous similar threads I've asked about the small children aspect of not wanting shoes in the house and whether those small children are allowed to play/sit/crawl outside in the garden/park/wherever.

Tonight's question - I take it all of you "no shoes in the house because they're DIRTY" people don't have any pets like cats or dogs???

ok- on previous similar threads I've asked about the small children aspect of not wanting shoes in the house and whether those small children are allowed to play/sit/crawl outside in the garden/park/wherever.

Tonight's question - I take it all of you "no shoes in the house because they're DIRTY" people don't have any pets like cats or dogs???

I think you are BU.
Their house their rules.

Shoes off in our house too, even for parties - shoes are for outside, on the dirty pavements, not inside where we breathe the dried remnants of whatever is ground into the carpets / rugs.

Take a Polaroid if you want people to admire your get-up and how well you accessorized your outfit - I presume you will be putting down your bag, and if so, you can lose the shoes!