The OFFICIAL buddy bench/naughty bench thread No. 2

[teaandcakeplease]

Come hither all those who haven't found their place on mumsnet, have scrapped in Aibu or crossed words in chat. The buddy bench shalt not judge.

The buddy bench will hand out wine and cakes, it will join you on your scoffathons getting pissed

All those who enter the Gazebo and sit on the bench, will have their sins erased and be given a warm welcome and cheerful chat from ApocalypseCheese, CheerfulYank, Anyfucker, HairExtensions, gomummy, tired mum and far, far too many more to mention.

Welcome to the buddy bench, we look forward to meeting you all

Oh and don't forget, last one to leave polishes bench and locks up !

Oh Elmo see I don't think you're being PFB at all there! I would be very upset and stressed and would not take kindly to her comments on to of it all! (I am actually for you here!)

So I guess I was right, I'm probably not the best frame of reference here as I would be really upset too, and would not even see that as being PFB in any way!

:( for your DS. for you.

LOl see thats when i started thinking of all of you & what you would say to calm me down .
< sips gomummys hot choc & settles back into the confort zone of the buddy bench>
My dilemma was
I did not want to disappoint ds but i had no information & no contact , address, surname details to reassure me of ds's safety .
Plus the one other time x's mum took ds(then age 9) out was meant to be to a soft play centre & for 90 mins of play time but 4&1/2 hours later in utter panic i drove there to look for ds only to find x's mum sitting reading a magazine & once again laughing at me for being so worried & she had my mobile number then to so could have text or phoned to explain the delay but didn't .

thanks for looking after me, these pillows are so comfy

elmo i would have been the same tbh, her behaviour was totally irresponsible, how doer your ds feel now, does he still want x as a friend, or has this put him off.

gomummy everything happens for a reason and like you said you would not have your dh and ds, so it was obviously a good thing it didnt work, cos your lil boy sounds so lovely

Fwiw Elmo, I think x's mum would make me quite ....4.5 hours later?!?! Suppose I am not helping to calm you down though!

Thank you for that Tiredmum, and you are so right, I do count in my prayers my thanks for my first marriage not working out as it allowed me to have all that I am blessed with in my life now - though it admittedly took a few years to get to that place!

Thanks gomummy , nice to know i did not over react . I know ds is 11.5yrs old but he is a naive child not street wise at all .

Tiredmum ds was glad to come home with me as his head & legs were aching but yes he still wants to be friends with x so i am going to take all the children out next time at least that way i know ds is safe . X's parents are just too laid back for my liking tbh .

I don't think YABU at all, elmo! I know I will be like that with DS. I've been practicing saying, "I don't care what your friends' mothers let them do," since he was born! :) He will not be wandering around town at all hours or going to rated R movies or staying over at friend's houses when their parents aren't there. Just no. I'm probably be over protective and old fashioned, but that's my job. :o So no, you did not over react IMO.

I hope you're feeling better tea!

I-shockingly, given our similar lives-was not married before, gomummy, but I did live with a guy when I was 18-19 and it was very serious. I loved him a lot and had I been older I think we would have made it, but since I wouldn't have DS and DH I'm glad we didn't. :)

What would I do with my winnings, tiredmum? Hmm...probably buy new jeans as hopefully all my old ones would be much too large! :o

Oh Elmo that is not too laid back, they are irresponsible and rather rude, imo. Good idea for you to take the children out next time though.

Cheerful that is exactly how I feel (again not surprising). I know I'll be the one DS' friends think is over protective and old fashioned, and I'm quite happy to be. :) Tis my role and I'm happy to have it.

Are you sure you weren't married before Cheerful? The parallel paths are pretty striking, aren't they?

How are you feeling this evening Tea?

"money,tickets,plane NOW"

hee hee

how was that gomummy

elmo i was going to say the same thing as gomummy, that its a good idea that you are doing it next time, at least you will know ds is safe.

right lets do an age check, how old are we all, cant remember if we have done this before, but lets do it now

LOL Tiredmum, very subtle...

Age check!

Aww thanks for making me feel better

How is everyone this morning ? Tiredmum are you feeling any better ?

yes im ok, just tired. Kids pissing me off. They cant play nicley even though they have hundreds of bleeding cars they still fight over the same pissing one.

is it too early for wine lmao! - thats how i feel this morning.

When do yours start back at school ? mine are back on Wednesday .

jack (4) dont start back till 16th sept and i think Alfie (2.5) goes to his preschool on 8th. although i could be wrong.

im going to have another cuppa now, going to a BBQ at my mums today - should be fun with my high-rate sister!!!!

Is jack starting primary school ? my dd(4yrs) is starting on Wednesday .
Enjoy the BBQ

Morning Elmo & Cheeky! Did not know the DCs started school at 4 over there, seems so young, must be v. difficult/emotional for you! They can start at 4 here too, but it's part time and optional.

Oh i wish it was optional here gomummy but unfortunately not . Although dd seems to be excited about starting school i will be putting the name tags on her uniform later .

What are you all up to today then ?

Cleaning up here from dinner party last night. And looking forward to the leftovers for lunch! :)

Glad she's excited Elmo, that should make it a little easier. Hope it lasts a long time!

Ooh dinner party sounds like fun

Yes hopefully she will settle easier than in pre-school

Bonjourno!!!!! Can't keep it up with you lot.

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Teeeeaaaa your back

Hope you were have a good time in RL .

Having i mean lol

No I'm been feeling grumpy the last few days. Been getting more upset than necessary at various DCs shenanigans. Possibly due on? If not maybe it's time to see the GP, as until now despite divorce etc I've been mostly ok. Today anything could make me cry

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The natural course of things would be my guess. You have been holding up amazingly well, Tea, maybe the next step in the cycle to get through? Is there anything you think would help? Always here to listen if you want to e/m.