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The OFFICIAL buddy bench/naughty bench thread No. 2

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teaandcakeplease · 13/06/2010 21:58

Come hither all those who haven't found their place on mumsnet, have scrapped in Aibu or crossed words in chat. The buddy bench shalt not judge.

The buddy bench will hand out wine and cakes, it will join you on your scoffathons getting pissed

All those who enter the Gazebo and sit on the bench, will have their sins erased and be given a warm welcome and cheerful chat from ApocalypseCheese, CheerfulYank, Anyfucker, HairExtensions, gomummy, tired mum and far, far too many more to mention.

Welcome to the buddy bench, we look forward to meeting you all

Oh and don't forget, last one to leave polishes bench and locks up !

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Tiredmumno1 · 09/07/2010 13:56

Yum yum elmo

good on ya gomummy

lady can you go and see the buggy in person, only you will know the difference

TheLadyEvenstar · 09/07/2010 22:15

I have point blank refused to refund after she said
"well it must have happened the last time you put ds2 in it he must have done it"

hmmm yes a 2yr old is capable of that!

gomummygo · 09/07/2010 23:12

Thanks Elmo! Lovely treat.

Tiredmumno1 · 10/07/2010 00:41

Well done lady stand your ground

gomummy no camping tonight, i am snuggling up to my lovely hubby tonight, i feel safe with him, although i dont know why, he could sleep through a bomb lol

gomummygo · 10/07/2010 02:33

Mine too Tiredmum! I remember shaking him awake one night with a panicked loud-whisper (iykwim) about there being a noise on the deck outside our room. After a few minutes (literally, which is a long time when you're hearing a noise!) I gave up and checked it out myself... yet came back to snuggle up to him and somehow felt better, lol!

elmofan · 10/07/2010 09:50

Good morning

Have had no more bumps in the night since Wednesday night so hopefully whatever it was has moved on - still not sleeping properly though .

Lay awake watching sky news till all hours last night , that there wasn't a more peaceful ending to that fugitive situation .

teaandcakeplease · 10/07/2010 22:21

Hope you sleep better tonight Elmo

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CheerfulYank · 11/07/2010 09:02

Good morning, bench! Glad you have been bump-less, elmo!

Oh, I had a day on Friday. Twas awful. For starters, on Thursday night DS and DH went to the beach (I was at work) and DS fell in the parking lot, directly onto his face of course, causing chin abrasions, a massive top lip and chipped (not severely but certainly noticably) front tooth. Poor little thing! As long as we applied constant cold compresses (i.e. Fudgecicles ) to his poor swollen lip he was fine, but he had a rough time falling and staying asleep. He was really restless, resulting in not much sleep for us. (Also factoring into the no-sleep business was the fact that I stayed up late watching a million discs of Prison Break doing many productive and useful things.)

So the next morning DS woke me at a far-earlier-than-usual-hour demanding "more ice cweam for my mouf!" I got up and stumbled about bleary-eyed, managing to walk into a wall and step on several of the sharp Thomas trains littering the floor. I decided that showering and getting dressed in actual clothing was something that could wait. I put on Pinnochio (or "pokey-no" as it's called in my house) for DS and dozed with him on the couch.

Now. For this next part you will need a bit of information. My feckless and annoying brother, who lives with us, had left to visit our parents and taken his equally feckless and annoying dog with him. Unbeknownst to me, he had moved the dog food down to our seldom-used basement. I couldn't find it and assumed he'd taken it with him and so had been feeding our dog the pellets we have for our rabbit for the past day or so, reasoning that it wouldn't hurt him and I'd run out and get more dog food soonest.

So. After a viewing of Pokey-no I decided to make myself useful and pay some bills. Upon opening one from the hospital, I realized that they apparently expect us to pay them $1300 for letting some sadistic nurse jab ineffectually at my son's arm with an enormous needle DS's gluten-intolerance tests. And also, the cell phone company wants $300 immediately or they will shut the phones off, resulting in massive charges to turn them back on.

All right. So. By this time DS is hollering for more ice cream and another viewing of Pokey-no, or at least the Backyardigans. I tell him no more TV and he informs me that his lip hurts. It occurs to me that I am raising a possible con artist, and also that I am so exhausted that my body seems to be shutting down. I realize the only thing to do here is shotgun about half a pot of coffee with vanilla hazelnut cream, just to get things going in the right direction. I do this and DS busies himself tying our dog (a long-suffering golden retriever mix named Brinkley) to his ride-on firetruck. This does not seem to bother Brinkley any, so I go back to my coffee and worry about where we are going to get $1300 before DH gets paid and also, exactly how much ice cream is bad to feed a child? I mean, it's calcium eh?

All of a sudden I hear a massive holler coming from the direction of DS and dog. DS: "No no Brinkley! Big boys don't poop on the floor!" I dash over to see the dog leaving a massive pile of excrement on the living room floor. (Apparently rabbit food is a laxative for canines?) I shriek and Brinkley takes off. He is still tied to the firetruck and so drags it and DS' beloved pirate sword through the pile of poo. DS starts yelling about the state of his firetruck and runs to get it, so I shriek get on the couch this minute and don't move calmly ask him to step away. I grimly attach the dog to his chain outside and head back into deal with things. DS is still, thankfully, on the couch, staring at the floor in respectful awe. "That's a big poop," he says, and it is. It's a big, runny, pile of poop that smells so bad I can hardly keep from retching. I get myself firmly in hand as I know that if I start vomiting on the poop, I will never stop.

Of course, we are out of paper towels. I clean up the poo with baby wipes and disinfectant. The smell is awful. I open the windows and light some scented candles, which only serves to make the house smell of a weird buttercream/cinnamon/dog crap mixture. I go outside to throw away the bag. Brinkley looks up at me, hopefully. "You know what, we're not speaking" I say to him loudly. I look up to see the one neighbor I don't know well staring at me as though I've lost my mind. Which, standing there in stained pajamas, with unwashed hair and a bag of poo in my hand, it occurs to me I might have.

I'm not back inside for more than a minute when I hear Brinkley kicking up a ruckus outside. I go out and realize he's harassing the mailman. "Sorry, sorry," I say, collecting the mail. The door opens and out steps DS, in nothing but a pair of pirate boxer shorts and fudgecicle remains smeared on his chest. "Hi!" he says, waving cheerily at the mailman. "I hurt my toof. Want to see?" The mailman gives me exactly the sort of look one usually gives unshowered madwomen with filthy children and apparently vicious dogs. (Which Brinkley isn't of course, if we ever had a burglar or anything the dog would lick him to death.)

Sigh...independently none of these things would be a big deal, but put together and factoring in my approximately three hours of sleep, it was just chaos. I found out later that the hospital bill was just an insurance issue that would be resolved, and this knowledge (as well as a long showering and actually dressing DS and I) put me in a much better mood. As did calling everyone I could think of and whining about my day. As does complaining to the Bench about it. Oh well, that's life. How are all of you?

teaandcakeplease · 11/07/2010 09:56

I have days like that too Cheerful with 2 DCS 17 months apart and now a lone parent there is much chaos here from time to time and my neighbour opposite certainly gives me "looks". So I sympathise with you here very very much!

Very annoying your brother hid the dog food, clearly its all his fault entirely

Hope today's a better day and DS's mouth gets a little better. Have you tried Arnica cream and Ibuprofen liquid to help with swelling?

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CheerfulYank · 11/07/2010 10:18

Yes, tea, it's always my brother's fault!

We did give him ibuprofen and the swelling has gone down quite a bit, it's mostly just scabs at this point.

It was just one of those days where you look around saying, "really? This is my life?"

gomummygo · 11/07/2010 13:32

Oh Cheerful, poor DS. And poor you, what a day! Amazing how much a shower and some sleep changes things isn't it?

Oh and agree with tea, clearly it was all your brother's fault.

Tiredmumno1 · 12/07/2010 13:15

did you all go on holiday

hope you are all good

teaandcakeplease · 12/07/2010 13:19

Watcha Tiredmum, how are things?

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Tiredmumno1 · 12/07/2010 14:54

hello tea

things are hectic as normal i dont feel like i have really stopped until now, thats until i have to go back to the school, just dont stop lol.

and how are you, i hope all is well

teaandcakeplease · 12/07/2010 16:17

Poor you. My life is fairly non eventful really my DD only has pre school 2 mornings a week. Otherwise its mums and tot groups, playground or soft play etc. Or alternatively a quiet day at home Well sort of quiet, with 2 toddlers at home

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Tiredmumno1 · 12/07/2010 16:36

but thats not always easy in itself, so well done to you.

its just so hard to cram the washing, cleaning etc,, in, never enough hours in the day, i am gonna sleep well tonight

teaandcakeplease · 12/07/2010 16:47

No it's ok, they both still nap well and can play on their own, also watch a fair amount of CBeebies so I don't have too much problem with washing etc, my problem is I cannot be bothered half the time I just sit on the sofa with a cuppa and watch the world go by. LOL

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gomummygo · 12/07/2010 17:07

Tea @ they both still nap well and can play on their own! Busy days here these days and I only have one toddler to contend with....but tbh I love every crazy minute!

Long time no chat Tiredmum, how are you these days?

teaandcakeplease · 12/07/2010 17:10

Something has to go well for me, considering I have no H nowadays to help.

Tbh I was pretty ruthless and are regimented on sleep training and naps which seems to be a faux pas on mumsnet But no regrets as I couldn't cope if they both slept badly as a single mum.

How's things across the pond Gomummy?

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gomummygo · 12/07/2010 18:27

Things are well thanks Tea, bloody heat wave is scorching everything but it's still better than -40, lol!

Actually I was also quite regimented on sleep routines, etc., (DH travels a lot for work so am on my own most nights, so it was important to me) but DS gave up his nap quite a while ago now. Still trying to figure out when I can do those things I used to get done during naptime, lol!

How are you doing otherwise these days Tea?

teaandcakeplease · 12/07/2010 18:41

I'm alright, H not seeing the DCs as much now maybe once a week but I think that's helping with the pain and the DCs are actually getting used to it and seem unbothered.

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gomummygo · 12/07/2010 20:16

Good to hear that you're doing ok Tea, I think of you often. Sounds like your DCs are adjusting well, totally to your credit.

How did the potty training end up for you?

teaandcakeplease · 12/07/2010 20:42

A fair amount of wee accidents, if I don't make her go to the loo every hour. She forgets as she's playing and then rushes to the loo but by then her knickers are slightly damp. So on a bad day she smells like an old lady if I don't keep on top of things LOL

Number 2's are great now though. She obviously prefers not to have it in her knickers! HURRAH!

How about you?

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gomummygo · 12/07/2010 21:07

We are dry all day, with my reminders/asking every hour or so. If I forget to ask, most of the time he is ok, unless particularly engrossed in something. Accident every few days maybe, so pretty well I think.

Poo is another story altogether! He will go and get a nappy and bring it to me at some point each day and say "Need diaper on, mummy, going to have poo." I offer the potty but most of the time it is absolute refusal (has done it 7 or 8 times randomly though). Nappy on, immediate poo, nappy off, and he is very happy with this for some reason. It is strange but I'm just letting him do his own thing, this is what works for him right now, that's ok.

Tbh, I did not expect to be doing this for a while yet so am pleased that it is coming along partially!

teaandcakeplease · 12/07/2010 21:21

DD still asks for a nappy when going for a sleep. I keep thinking maybe if I get rid of them altogether the accidents will stop

I had to bribe DD to get her to poo on potty

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