to want to bag up my children and dump them in the river?

[Greensleeves]

they have had a lovely day today - a friend over all day, a water fight with water bombs and water pistols followed by fluffy dressing gowns and hot pizza, played on the Wii with their friend, then watched the world cup and had treats (choc chip muffins and pringles ) to munch during the game

for some reason they have behaved atrociously for the past hour and a half

ds1 was so rude and disrespectful we told him he needed to be quiet so we could watch the football, or take himself off to bed - several warnings

he snarled "Oh FINE I'm off to bed then" to which we replied "Night then, don't forget to brush your teeth"

when he realised we weren't going to invite him back down again he threw an enormous screaming tantrum and unrolled all the toilet rolls down the stairs

ds2 then went to bed and jumped on the top bunk (which he has been warned about endlessly) and has broken it, so he is sleeping on the floor

they are both crying and wailing and ds1 is still being rude as well

ds2 is supposed to be going on a jud course tomorrow morning, neither of us want to bloody well get up early and take him now

I am upset and furious

and dh is ashen and silent again, I know he feels rotten because he lost it and screamed at them when he saw the toilet rolls

we are shit parents, aren;t we?

overtired and over stimulated.

not shit parents

What a yucky title greeny. Really.

Nooooo!

We took DS to a local fun fair today...every ride required taking out a mortgage and he had ice cream...

Anyhoo, get him home, lovely bath, his favourite dinner and then when we tell him bed time = melt down as he wanted to watch Astroboy...cue mega tantrum and us being informed we are not his best friends

'tis par for the course...

YANBU (much) but I am compelled to quote my own parents:

"It's been a long day and you've had a lot of treats and now you are starting to show off!"

I swore I'd never say it myself

Sorry, but I'm with greeny. As much as MN has changed me into someone less judgy, you are inviting judgement. Do you really want it?

you know perfectly well you aren't shit parents
(you of all people know what shit parents ARE )

they were too tired and too excited and it went wrong
it happens
tell dh that we all lose our tempers sometimes and that he can apologise for screaming in the morning
can 1 of you go and have a complete break and calm down (preferably out of the house or somewhere away from it all) while the other one deals with them for a bit and settles them down to sleep?
then swop and give the other person a break
it sounds like a very long busy tiring day for you all and you need a bit of a break

and greeny i think you do have a habit of thinking that if part of a day goes a bit wrong then the WHOLE DAY IS TOTALLY RUINED
am i right?
it isn't ruined, it sounds like a lovely day and they will remember it
i hope you get some rest soon and have another nice busy day tomorrow

Just overtired.

Sounds like a lovely day

and title is just hyperbole, it OBVIOUSLY isn't to be taken seriously

You're not shit. Some days / weeks just go very wrong.

I spent the entire afternoon putting both of my dc's into time out / quiet time as they were being terrors, nothing I did worked. Hateful.

Tomorrow is another day. (And I haven't even had wine!)

YABU. It is illegal to put children in bags and throw them in rivers. There are a myriad of health and safety considerations.

That is all.

i did smirk a bit at this:

"for some reason they have behaved atrociously for the past hour and a half"

after staying up way past bedtime watching tv and eating exciting snacks?
no shit

YABU to write such a heinous title but yanbu to be overwhelmed. Honestly- read your title back. It's not a hyperbole. A hyperbole is something else. It's not even a metaphor.

Oooooh hark at her with her hyperballs an all!

i quite like the title

yes I did anticipate that kind of reaction while I was writing it, but the fact is that my children don't have tight prescribed bedtimes, routines or diets, never have had and it isn't our style. The level of aggression and bad behaviour from ds1 is totally out of character (much more extreme than usual, even given overtired-and-full-of-grot), and ds2, well I am just shaken that he could have gone through the bed and injured himself and ds1. Warnings and explanations haven't worked. And we can't afford to replace the bloody thing

However- hyanbu to scream at them. not enough parents tell their kids off imo. They need to know when they have stepped out of line and you were tired.

sorry- im tipsy and when I'm tipsy I know EVERYTHING!

Could you get someone else to throw them in the river? Would cut through a lot of red tape

Exactly. It's not funny. I get your point, but look at that title. Just look at it. Another case of a well known poster getting away with something others would be slayed for.
Getting to the actual point, I think they just wanted someone to put them to bed. I don't know how old they are, but my 6 year old would probably protest at being told to do it herself if I were watching TV too. This, my friend, is where Sky+ and the wonders of live pause come into their own.

i am so on your side greensleeves, must admit i laughed out loud when i read your title post

I make no apolkogyu for the thread title fgs. It's in AIBU not In The News, and anyone dim enough to take it as a statement of serious intent can bugger off and shave their palms.

Freecycle is your friend in that case.
And if you have no routine, this may well be a reaction to that. Children like boundaries, it's confusing to them if they don't know what those are.

sorry you are feeling so grim
it's hard to judge the mood over the internet, so i'm sorry i was making jokes when it was not a good moment
it sounds an upsetting end to the day and obviously i can see why you and dh are upset
however it's good ds1 and 2 were not hurt, and they did have a lovely day leading up to it

hurley it really isn't the moment to get narky about the title, however you feel about it
i'm sure you can see that