To take my very new bloke

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where I know some, if not all, of my ex-in-laws will be??

Background, XH is a KNOB of the first order, he's said a load of crap, behaved pretty shitty to me.

So, one of his more charming comments was that I'd never find anyone else.

And I've got a new bloke who is lovely.

All his family go to this wee local town every Sunday night - think getting dressed up and cruising round in cars, cars which must be spotless. Its snob central, judgy pants heaven.

And the new bloke drives an Aston Martin Vantage V12.

So, AIBU? We wouldn't need to get out of the car or speak to them, just be seen...

to be fair knock was p*ssed last night when she started this thread

and I egged her on to start it

with the slant on it that she used - double

Tocc - now you're telling all my deep dark secrets lol

PS hope you're not offended about that other lol

But the original AIBU phrased slightly differently still stands - AIBU to dodge going somewhere if I know my ex will be there??

Wonder what replies I'd get to that one!

I know - I'm sorry, I knew what the properly phased question was, but I was still on cloud 9 after my own date and in a silly mood and encouraged her to start the thread with the flashy car slant

actually you know talking of flashy toys can't wake for my date to take me out again so I can see his flashy sat nav

Arnold - the car matters only if you know me, which some of the posters do, and where I've come from. Which I am not going to repeat here ad nauseum because really it has been done to death.

I am prepared to say that I have experience that made me doubt that I would ever find a decent bloke, and I'd had a couple of disastrous dates which were pulled to death on here, including shagman and chewingtobacco.

The car only matters because I cannot believe that someone like him would be interested in someone like me. He is so far out of my league.

And I will state - again - that I am a total petrolhead and the car interests me for what it can do, how it performs how good it looks. Not about the money. My favourite car of all time is still an original mini cooper s, not an Aston of any description.

The original AIBU still stands, although I will admit that today I would phrase it differently. If you have read the whole thread, you will see that he asked if I wanted to go next Sunday and I said I'm not that comfortable with it because my ex-in-laws will be there.

So, today, I would phrase the AIBU

"AIBU to stop my new bloke taking me somewhere when I know my ex-in-laws are likely to be there"

I am SO glad you got rid of shagman btw - think I missed chewingtobacco (eww - and I'm a smoker!) that last thread about him freaked me out

Tis funny Tocc haven't regretted getting rid of him one bit - must fill you in on my whole weekend away, but at one point on the Saturday night I did think "This is what my life would be like if I was with Shagman" - no thanks

Arnold - we've already discovered that we know some of the same people, so there is no chance of us keeping it quiet for any length of time.

The other option is to drive miles and miles to meet up, both of us travelling in separate cars?

And surely part of what you do with someone new is go out, introduce them to your friends, and you want to be seen out with them??

Or am I hopelessly out of touch?

oh don't worry Arnold - knock just doubting herself again

So, should we go in my car? Or his civic?

the V12 woman!!!

god if you lived closer I'd come and give you a kick up the arse and tell you stop worrying

Well, then, take the v12 and go, chop chop!

No unreasonable but childish.

So sorry - didnt read all. Not unreasonable but does definately suggest to me that you are not over ex at all - the fact that you want to be seen with someone else, show off etc... wonder how new man feels? Id be upset..

oh barbie - she's WELL over the ex

if you've not read it all - how about I copy and paste what the sensible (undrunk) way of starting the thrad would have been

"AIBU to dodge going somewhere if I know my ex will be there??"

Imagine your ex and all of his family just moved to Australia. Now go do whatever you would do then.

I heart jujusdad.

oh dear - me and Knock are in trouble aren't we, me for egging her on and her for starting it.

What with her and MrAstonVantage and me and my MrCaliforniafancysatnav we're a right bloody pair

we're both just a bit, well shocked that us humble single-mums-on-benefits have both found ourselves really nice blokes that don't care about all of that and just like us for us. (ad it just so happens that those nice blokes we've found happen to have money - although hers more than mine LOL).

Hell I married a man that was in huge debt, so much so that I had to wait 2 months for an engagement ring as he couldn't even afford a cheap one when he proposed.......and even the ring I did get was a really cheap one

I dont think this is a good idea.. if youe new man thinks it is a good idea he may be a show off type..

It does raise questions as to whether youre over you r ex..

Also, wouldnt you rather they were wondering what you were up to getting on with your fabulous rather than parading it about?

And finally, if this is a new thing it may not last and then it'll be 'ooh di you hear that guy that was driving knockraven round in the posh car last week has dumped her...? serves her right for being such a show off..' etc etc