To take my very new bloke

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where I know some, if not all, of my ex-in-laws will be??

Background, XH is a KNOB of the first order, he's said a load of crap, behaved pretty shitty to me.

So, one of his more charming comments was that I'd never find anyone else.

And I've got a new bloke who is lovely.

All his family go to this wee local town every Sunday night - think getting dressed up and cruising round in cars, cars which must be spotless. Its snob central, judgy pants heaven.

And the new bloke drives an Aston Martin Vantage V12.

So, AIBU? We wouldn't need to get out of the car or speak to them, just be seen...

och don't worry about it knockraven. Lots of people don't even HAVE a profile to view, and I'm talking about a lot of regulars.....it's really no biggy.

no no no no NO Knock.

You can't let your ex (or his family) dictate how you live your life now.

If there was no chance of your ex's being there on Sunday - would you go?

If the answer is yes - then you go.

Exactly what tocatta said.

Go wherever you like, but do it for you not because of your ex!

Can I first of all

My little high horse was climbed upon as I saw a: a scenario outside my scope and b: facts seemingly untrue.

I was thinking "Big Fat Troll".

Apparently people do have 007 cars, just not in my mn world.

As per the original AIBU; I would not hesitate to roll up and just be seen.

boys2mam - not as as I was when he pitched up here lol

there is another thread somewhere where I describe it all - hold on

And for the record - I got in his car in Marks and Sparks Jeans and AN ASDA TOP

lol Boys - there's none of those people in my MN or my RL world

But Knock was very lucky and met a lovely man on a plane who invited her out for a date, and then later revealed he has a 007 car.........but that underneath all the money he's still just a nice bloke

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/975663-Just-want-to-say

That's the link

Awh Tocc he's lovely and I think he's just gorgeous and he doesn't chew tobacco!!

you'll have to excuse Knock and I - we're one of a few single mum's here on MN that are currently getting luvved up

haha - no you've got to be good

lets enjoy it it and have fun.........hmm kind of contradicted myself there didn't I , if it lasts woohoo, if not >> - hey we've obviously still "got it" that we can pick up nice blokes who don't care about our "status" so we can always do it again

Ok

Now, I have to wonder why u so focused on his car?

I am sat with my DP of almost 4 yrs and my fascination is not with his car.

I also recognise I may have been a bit of a cow tonight, so why not go the whole hog (talk about mixed metaphors)!?

Boys2mam - I am a total petrolhead, I love cars, especially fast ones. Used to have a TR8 (not a 7, an 8, soft top, 3.5lt petrol engine) had a golf GTi with a 3.5lt corrado engine dropped into it, numerous Proper Minis which got faster and faster until I couldn't drive them anymore (long story - had to sell the last one, broke my heart more than the XH)

But the new bloke is a really nice bloke, really really nice, I like him, the car is just the icing on the cake

I had agreed to go out with him when he told me he drove a Honda Civic diesel

And thats great, totally normal lass going out on a normal date.

So, where is the AIBU?

Actually to be truthful, I had agreed to go out with him when he told me he drove a honda civic diesel and I knew that me and my wee car would whup his ass over the murderhole lol

psst - the AIBU is the fact that the twatish ex IL's will almost certainly be in the same place as where she wants to go on her normal date

The AIBU is really I suppose should I avoid the most obvious place to go if the ex and his family are likely to be there?

toccatanfudge Sun 06-Jun-10 00:40:59
psst - the AIBU is the fact that the twatish ex IL's will almost certainly be in the same place as where she wants to go on her normal date

On that statement alone, and I'm pretty sure I've said this further up the thread, I would roll up, dressed to the nines, in the new blokes car.

Phew

Go for it!

I would. Be as smug as you like.

Enjoy.

Me missus an me gots fuckin wicked modded dub, innit?

We goes dahn Asda car park evry Sat nite and does burn outs an that.

Me ICE is fuckin mazin, man. It'll fuckin blow dry yer hair.

Last Sat nite my ex missus wuz dahn the meet up, an me new missus beat the shit outa her. It was well sorted.

I reckon you'd be mad not to go cruise. Get in a massive ruck with them ex fuckers, that'll show em whose got best wheels an that. Innit.

Or perhaps you might like to consider things like the merits of maturity, that material possessions are fleeting and shallow, that possesions can possess you, and that you appear just as much a judgy knob as any of your XH's family.

I sincerely hope that you and your new bf can just get on andenjoy each other rather than (as I suspect) you bang on to him about what a twat your XH was / is.

JuJusDad- did you read the other thread that I linked to at all? Or even this one?

I don't give a toss about his car, its a nice added extra as I think I have said before, I liked him and agreed to go out with him before I knew about the car.

What I care about, if you had read the other thread, is that I get on with him, he makes me laugh and I think he is gorgeous. And if that makes me shallow, then so be it.

The AIBU is really, as I have said, should I avoid going somewhere that we would naturally go just because I know it is more than likely that the ex will be there.

Shiney - his other car is a Honda civic diesel and I honestly wouldn't have cared if that had been his only car.

I drive a 6 year old ford Sportka.

Nuff said.

And if he'd been a knob, he still would've been a knob, car or no car