To take my very new bloke

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where I know some, if not all, of my ex-in-laws will be??

Background, XH is a KNOB of the first order, he's said a load of crap, behaved pretty shitty to me.

So, one of his more charming comments was that I'd never find anyone else.

And I've got a new bloke who is lovely.

All his family go to this wee local town every Sunday night - think getting dressed up and cruising round in cars, cars which must be spotless. Its snob central, judgy pants heaven.

And the new bloke drives an Aston Martin Vantage V12.

So, AIBU? We wouldn't need to get out of the car or speak to them, just be seen...

oh I am PMSL @ the thought of him using knock for "show"...........actually that's pretty cool - a man that wants to use a single mum of 4 that lives on benefits for show -we rock

Tocc - ROFL at being thought a "babe"

Are you implying that with my baby belly, fat arse, tattoo and fake hair, I am chavtastic?

PMSL

hey don't laugh knock (I nearly said don't knock it - but that just sounded wrong with your username LOL) he likes you

Ha ha ha - I like him too

Thank goodness for MN

We all rock

there we go then - all's well - now go on Sunday and enjoy as you would have done anyhow even if the ex's family weren't going to be there

I can't wait to see him tomorrow - how sad am I?

What about your guy? Did you get babysitters sorted?

Wish I was closer, I'd babysit for your gorgeous boys anytime

no haven't sorted anything yet, discovered that 2 of my other babysitters have f*cked off on end of Uni year holidays and won't be back until the end of the month, and don't want to dump it all on the babysitter I used the other night.

We'll sort something. He emailed me this morning, to answer a question about something equally geeky (Plato ) that I'd asked on Friday night but he couldn't remember the answer......he remembered while washing the dishes this morning LOL.

If all else fails he'll just have to come over here and we can drink the bottle of wine that' sat in my fridge in the mean time while I sort out another babysitting session

PMSL at the thought of you trying to sneak him in past your 3.....

haha - well I@m lucky that my boys once in bed, may wake up - but don't come downstairs.

And they know I'm dating again, and he came back here for coffee (and a snog or 3) on Friday night.

So I wouldn't need to sneak him past, just arrange for him to come over once they were in bed

That's sneaky!

My problem is that the 2 girls have been told all about the car yesterday by all the kids that were at the birthday party and they want to know when they are going to meet him!

I would stay away to be honest, as I would not want to stir things. Especially as it is early days, you have only been on a few dates, so it is not like he is your boyfriend or anything.

If they are as nasty as you say, you wouldnt want comments about not being able to "bag the aston martin man" if the relationship fizzles out before it takes off....

not sneaky - just doing what has to be done when you're short on babysitters, have met someone new and don't want the kids to meet 'em

Tocc - how is it that it matters so much that he has a nice car?

Would it be less unreasonable and more acceptable if I'd said "in his Honda Civic" do you think?

QS - as I have already pointed out, this on Sunday of next week is the most obvious place for us to go - it actually would be weird if we didn't go.

Should we hide away? Or not go anywhere where we are likely to meet any of our friends? Or have to drive miles and miles to socialise?

And - he has a nice car. Should he not drive it then?

Aston Martin V12.
Do it do it do it

oh just ignore that aspect knock.

It's kind of like money - it doesn't buy happiness - but it sure can help

Thing is first dates, then it's kind of normal to do stuff that interests you both - yes?

Well that kind of stuff (cars) interest you both - so GO.

Runaway wife -- there's a pic upon my profile of the actual car pmsl

it's kind of like - strawberries are nice, strawberries with cream is just an extra bit to make it more appealing, doesn't mean the strawberries are bad, just that it adds a little interest

so he's a nice bloke (strawberries) and happens to have a nice car (cream)

suit yourself, if all you can imagine doing with a new bloke on a date is parade around in his fabulous car. Just be seen....

How exactly would it be weird if you didnt go?

Do your inlaws actually expect you to parade in a car every sunday? How strange.

Tocc - you are talking sense as usual.

it would be wierd if they didn't go QS because if the inlaws were taken totally out of the equation then they WOULD go as cars interest them both. It's something they would do as a date, not everyone's idea of fun, but life would be extremely boring if we all enjoyed the same stuff

She'd go if he had a less "flashy" but still impressive in terms of what it can do car, it just happens that his car is a Vantage V12

If you tire of him can I have his car him please

QS the whole point, as I think I already explained on this thread, is that what you do is go in the car, cruise round, chat to friends of mine and his, maybe get an ice cream.

It is a very common thing to do here, and in actual fact I will be there tonight in my own car.

Why should I not do what I normally do because I will be with a totally gorgeous bloke, in a totally gorgeous car?

I tell you Runaway - I've seen a photo of him - he's not a bad looker either

And its not just cars, its where all my friends will be, its where I go to meet people, not just cruise in the car.

it's stupid really, I wonder how many of us have good friends that live in nice houses. We love our friends for who they are, but it doesn't stop us saying "oh wow and they've got SUCH a lovely house" does it. Doesn't invalidate the friendship just because they have a nice house and we happen to mention it.

I bet Pagwatch as friends who are (in a nice way) about her house, but it doesn't mean they're only friends with her because she as a nice house