pregnant woman vs man with pram (another bus thread)

[beanlet]

So, I'm 36 weeks pregnant and was sitting on one of the disabled seats on the bus, the ones that fold up to allow extra space for prams if there are no disabled people. A fit young man got on with a DD who looked to be at least 5 sitting in a folding pram. Despite the fact that there were two free folding seats next to me, he made me get up and sit somewhere else so he could park the pram.

AIBU to think a) disabled trumps 5-year-old in pram, b) 36 weeks pregnant is near-as dammit to disabled, and c) therefore I should have "sat" my ground?

pregnant does not equate disabled in my book... at all.

(unless in cases of severe, paralysing SPD, but as you've not said you have the condition, I'm guessing you don't.)

5yo might have been disabled lol? My 6yo travels in a folding pram and she has cerebral palsy

either way, you lose.

Did you have to stand up or move to another seat?

You are pregnant not disabled or with a pram

Personally, I see priority as going: disability, pram which doesn't fold, buggy, pregnant, anyone, but others may disagree.

If you can manage to get on the bus, surely you can manage a few extra steps to another seat?

I think YABU. If I were in your shoes, I would have moved to another seat. It's not such a big deal is it?

And no, being pregnant is not close to being disabled, unless you have a disability as well/caused by the pregnancy.

But you could just move to another seat? So where's the problem? He wasn't asking you to stand.

No, child did not have a physical disability (I've worked with children with physical disabilities, so I know when I see one) and it would have been very, very easy for them both to have sat in the folding seats next to me.

I know being pregnant does not equal disabled but I'm in quite a lot of pain at the moment and have trouble changing position.

It depends, was there any reason why you could not sit elsewhere?

a few extra steps would not have killed you, you are pregnant, so it was obviously easier for you to move, so he didnt have to fold the buggy. i suspect that is a pain in itself.

beanlet, you are over reacting...if public transport is a major problem, then get a taxi....you have no way of knowing whether the child had a disability or not

And what if she had an unseen disability?

what if she had an invisible condition? not every disability is visible

No, no reason I couldn't have moved, other than that I genuinely don't see why a non-disabled 5-year-old needs to be in a pram at all! [lobs one, runs, ducks and covers. . . ]

I would have moved, but with much groaning and rubbing of back, and chucked another passenger out of their seat.

you should have moved to another seat

maybe that will seem a more reasonable idea when you are getting on a bus with a buggy

you can not possibly KNOW she was a non disabled 5 year old though... unless you asked.

Oh and my youngest who is nearly 4 hurt their knee, twas sore to walk on so the buggy was used.

YABU and you are NOT disabled.

rofl @ 'i know one when i see one'

This reminds me of something that happened to me,
There were 'double' seats free near me and I sat on the only 'single' seated chair on the bus, I was actually about 6 months pregnant, quite big and this really mean woman came over told me to move because she wanted to sit where I was! I politely pointed out to her there were free seats just to the right of me and she got mad!
Luckily someone near me, told her to back off, and that I was clearly pregnant therefore shouldnt get up just for her and there are seats beside me for her to park her arse on! I was quite flustered to be honest.
I think in future I'll take my DP's advice and just start f'ing and blinding to scare them off!

must be those flashing neon signs disabled kids have on their foreheads... or the man with the bell walking in front?

aye NickOfTime. In awe of that gift. Unless it just ammounts to they weren't dribbling / flailing arms around