To be shocked by the nasty bullying style of some of the threads on MN.

[Dismayed]

Having just read the thread about whether or not we should be ok about male nusery workers taking DDs to the toilet I have to say I am completely shocked at the aggressive, bullying comments that the poor OP received. FWIW I agree that we should not discriminate against males working in childcare but think that a lot of the battering comments were frankly out of order! As I read the thread I had that sick feeling that I recognised from my schooldays when I witnessed someone being bullied! I'm new to MN and have found a lot of the info and threads helpful but am so disappointed that, instead of finding a source that I had hoped would be non-judgemental and supportive, I have just connected myself to more of that cynical nastiness that I am so fed-up with on fb and in the media!

Gumping.

Scottishmummy always says it's just words on a screen.

But why aren't they generally understood words? Why are they nearly like real words but not quite? Why has she got the special 2092 page dictionary and we've only got the 833 page one?

its words on a screen if it adversely affects- time to log off.mn grudges and gripes are silly.over-personalising mn is silly too

never understand this not liking posters.dont dislike any posters.might think the write chuff.but dont dislike them

mn is suppoed to be witty riposte.words on screen banter.not oi she said,i said,oi hark at her

is it bullying.nah its words on a screen if no likey either challenge or ignore

(damn, cloak fell off, she'll be after me with a clouting whacker or somesuch)

People sometimes forget that internet people are still real people.

People also forget that if they ask people for their opinions, their opinion might be that they are a twat.

indeed,ask a question might get answer no likey

If you put a group of people together - be it on a forum, or in RL - there will be disagreements. It does bother me somewhat that there has recently been this instant cry of bullying if someone disagrees with you / tells you to fuck off or whatnot.

And yes, sometimes it gets a bit nasty on here at times - but the majority of the time it is a wonderfully supportive, generous, loving, caring community. I was overwhelmed by the kindness shown to me by utter strangers when I first came on here, 17, disabled, mentally ill, shock pregnancy. And each time I find myself getting a bit frustrated with what is happening, I remember how brilliant everyone was - and still is. I have been sent clothes, toys for my son, nursing bras, milk storage bags, for which I will be eternally grateful. And more than that, I have received endless advice and encouragement with everything I have asked. I have also made some wonderful friends.

So it can be frank and outright on occasion, but it is a wonderful resource. It would be a shame to dismiss how valuable it can be by judging a few posts that have grated the wrong way.

(I shall stop being a soppy cow now. But seriously, while we're on the note - thank you to all you wonderful people.)

I think bullying is too strong a word, but MN is definitely one of the most....erm fiery parenting forums I have joined.

If you can't stand the heat and all that...

I got my ass well and truely kicked around the park on a TV thread, years ago.

It has made me think before I post.
I now stay well away from anyone from the SN threads.

Lesson learned.
Not bullied but it was quite traumatic at the time!

Tiggy, don't you think it is wrong to tell people they are twats? Because someone has a different opinion doesn't mean that it is less valid - it is just not yours. If I ask someone for their opinion in real life I expect them to give me their opinion in a way that doesn't include rude language or name calling. I expect the same from mumsnet.

In saying this I have learnt since being on here that there are particular types of threads that will always degenerate - in particular ones which are judgemental of parenting styles.

I just spent an hour and a half reading the Extended Troll thread. Blardy brilliant. Don't know how I missed it at the time, or since.

Actually very nearly literally PMSL at the line:
"Are there lots of polys posting on the moneysaving expert forums then?!???"

Bloody genius thread. Pliz to have more like it. Thankyou muchly.

the Extended thread is probably the mostest fun I have EVER had on a pooter

oh ffs I am typing like a baby

note to self: never post after pub

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tsc, I have not been berated by every health professional at all, so if your going to state absolutely rubbish, makes sure it is correct.

My sons has allergies, he was breastfed, until he was severely ill in hospital, I was told MY breast milk was making him severely ill and that he needed specialist semi elemental formula prescribed to him due to my breast milk making him severely ill, due to the foods I was eating, and why this would be better for his and my health to go on formula due to the severity of his hypersensitivity to the food groups. I was not berated by every HCP at all,not even one!, it was a hard decision but, for the health of ds and mine, I took the formula. It was as simple as that!

So if you want to go and sprout absolutely rubbish about me then so be it, but your wrong and your wrong of your opinions of myself, I work extremely hard in CPU as a IRT and see gut wrenching REAL child abuse and on one occasion REAL Munchhausen's, so you comparing me to that is vicious, highly offensive and plain and simply below the line, in being so personal and vindictive.

Now if you want to go and try and being old threads up and then twist and misconstrued it to your owm understanding then please do so, but I will also correct you on it also.

I have not said anyone is bullying me, not at all, I have not got offensively personal, and I will not apologise for using words, that is known to the Scottish culture, (dont you know we have our own language lol).

It is words on a screen scottishmummy, but those words behind those screen, do and can hurt people, when highly offensive. We are still people with hearts and feelings, reading those words.

Osmo doctoring, is a pretend Dr, one who has no qualifications, but still makes a diagnosis due to their own self righteous and lack of knowledge.

Now I am off to send quality time with my children today, but TSC, if you dont realise you were highly offensive in saying that, then tbh your more idiotic that I thought, their is someone at the end of the screen remember, maybe your life lacks something that you need to get a raise from being so highly offensive and vicious, maybe a though to remember?!

its still going.............on and on and on............blah blah blah........

LMH read back your posts and maybe you'll understand why you have wound so many people up. You need to take a deep breath and let it go without being mean nobody gives a toss

You mentioned the fucking shooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeessssssssssssssssssssss

Point proven TSC, your nothing but offensive! and highly rude!

Im not going to go over it again and again. I dont believe I have wound people up I used a word from my Scottish background on this thread and was slated for it.

Trouble is that when an OP tries to explain a situation posters don't have all the background info or maybe don't quite get what they are trying to say. It's easier to understand someone fac-to-face than on the pooter.

But I have to say altho sometimes uncomfortable generally I find these long threads become quite funny.

Hope the OP on the nursery thread wasn't too offended with other opinions but in a way if you post in AIBU you can generally say you're gonna get some shit!

FFS.

You didn't get "slated" people were having a JOKE. You really are coming across as humourless, which is really making me feel sad in my tummy.

Cheer up! It may never happen!

Look, I'm trying to help you here, I swear. I get that you feel picked on, I understand. However, you are simply not helping yourself.

You said:

Add message | Report | Contact poster By LittleMrsHappy Wed 26-May-10 11:59:20

Contact MN, its the best for all, and in my own experience they were very compilable.

You then said:

Add message | Report | Contact poster By LittleMrsHappy Wed 26-May-10 12:08:29

compilable

Because you realised you had made a spelling/typing error.

All fine, people made a few lighthearted jokes, great.

You then start saying it is a word in 'your house' and actually its a Scottish word and blah blah. IT IS NOT A WORD. You just keep digging and digging!! Everyone makes typos, no one really cares (although please stop using 'their' when you mean 'there', please). And perhaps your education hasn't been the best hence you thinking 'compilable' meant 'compliant'. Let. It. Go.

If you just held your hands up and said 'yes I'm a bit thick, sorry' no one would care!!!

I'm sure you're very nice but its the backtracking and blatant lying that irritates people.

Has this helped at all?

And I got in trouble because I believed you, I thought it really was a word in your house. Never mind, I love you and I hope you find the happiness you need.