To be shocked by the nasty bullying style of some of the threads on MN.

[Dismayed]

Having just read the thread about whether or not we should be ok about male nusery workers taking DDs to the toilet I have to say I am completely shocked at the aggressive, bullying comments that the poor OP received. FWIW I agree that we should not discriminate against males working in childcare but think that a lot of the battering comments were frankly out of order! As I read the thread I had that sick feeling that I recognised from my schooldays when I witnessed someone being bullied! I'm new to MN and have found a lot of the info and threads helpful but am so disappointed that, instead of finding a source that I had hoped would be non-judgemental and supportive, I have just connected myself to more of that cynical nastiness that I am so fed-up with on fb and in the media!

Eek, I told someone once that I found their behaviour odd and unsettling, because they were freaking out about a childline sticker being put in their kids' bag. Anyhoo. She then went onto a thread about MN Passive Aggressive remarks and posted a really pass ag comment about me being a total cunt (I paraphrase obv) And then MN ate itself.

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(Womb, who were you? I'll understand if you can't say, just curious..)

(if we talk in brackets can no one else see?)

(yeah)

(I was/am WhoIsAsking - not a big name in the MN halls of fame, but you and I once had a good conversation about bringing black pudding to a party = sexpeople)

(Aha! I remember it well. sexpeople hehe )

Why shouldn't someone post their point of view if the majority of the views on that thread are similar? Is there an upper limit you'd like to see OP? Over 25 people disagreeing with the OP and then the thread self-destructs?

I have never known any forum to whine about bullying to the degree MN does. You're not in playgroup now you know

(that was a great thread)

(it was.)

(isn't it great being invisible? I feel all Harry Potterish)

WFS - Yes!!
at last got it. Not sure about the ghosts .

Yes you were unbelievably rude and scatological and brought up my imaginary past in the Hitler Youth .

But you were very nice to stick up for the horrible little person who haunts this site constantly.

(realises neither wearing pants nor cloak of invisibility)

(Cat, we're ok in the brackets. The Parenthesis of power as you will... Have you just gone back and looked at that thread? HAHAHAH! I actually had a hot face when I saw that I had put "I certainly won't be looking for advice here..." What a fucking twat. )

"i don't give a shite how fat her kids feet are or not (and as someone said on there-he can't be wasting away that much to NEED a bag of sweets in class for emergencys if his feet are an H fitting!)"

Oh you are such an imbecile, osmo doctoring eat your heart out! Yes my sons H fitting feet is sooo got something to do with his body's resistant to produce "normal" glucose levels.

Idiot!

Oh and TSC, I did not know you were banned, but as Im still here, and you were banned, must say something, Eh!

(WFS, HG. Really sorry, I may have just farted under here. Anyway, something smells really funny)

LMH what are you talking about? Is TSC banned? Since when?

LMH you aren't making many friends here.

I've liften one side, CHRIST! what the fuck have you been eating Cat?)

LMH - Hide thread. Just hide this thread - but before you do what's an osmo-doctor?

LMH I really think you need to step away from the thread...please.

LMH - are you still ranting on about this issue? Let it be please.

Heh heh heh.

Read op. Yawned. Thought "not again".

Read last hours posts.

Thought "She's got a point you know".

I'm waiting for the entire thread to implode into a black hole of irony TBH

dont sweat it Dismayed plenty not like the ole days gimmers share your views. gumping about quality of posts and proclaiming themselves to be royalty

those gals positively salivate about decline of mn,and bad manners

OMFG this is still going, and my go go hamster STILL has tourettes.

So tell me people, who do we hate and who is OK. I need to know and canne be bothered sifting through the last 1 trillion replies to arrive at my own conclusion

TSC makes me laugh a lot, for all the right reasons.

LMH makes me laugh a lot, for all the opposite reasons.

Ergo I am a bully.

Is that it? Have I cracked it?

I'm fairly new to mumsnet but i have been using other forums for years-they are all the same, it's all about what you take from them. Yes Mumsnet can be massively helpful-sheer weight of numbers means that the advice/responses you get will often hold the answer you need.

Some people can be very harsh on here. The very topic "am I being unreasonable" is slightly inflammatory in itself but that why the disclaimer is there at the top of the page.

Almost everyone will have an opinion-some will aim to be sensitive and diplomatic others will simply use it as an opportunity to bay like a wolf and strong arm thier own moral high ground. Anonimity leads to a great deal of honesty and honesty can really bloody hurt.

The thing to do is choose your threads carefully. Pick the wheat from the chaff and ignore the rest. Dont let it bother you-unless you know these people personally it's never actually going harm you in reality what they think of you. If any individual is picking on you then block user is your freind