to be annoyed at the smugness of people living on a shoetsring

[headlessandclueless]

i probably am.
mumsnet is full at the moment of people going on about how little money we have and how wonderful we are. or at least it seems that way to me.
what so superior about that? and even more so if you are a single parent? unless you are a widow, you made a choice to be a single parent, knowing full well that meant less money. yes, i know that in some cases of domestic violence, its not really a choice, but, it seems that in most cases i have seen on mn, its simply a case of, 'not being happy' with the partner.
whatever, if it makes you happier, fine, but stop harping on about how skint you might be, and how other people have too much money.

rant over.

I'm confused by this whole thread

definitely clueless op

fuckingninkynonk (also loving your name) that's so true. Money impacts on far too much, am now very much of the opinion that money is the root of all evil.

FuckingNinkyNonk
agree great name

actually I disagree. Money problems are not the only problems. Having money does not stop my son being profoundly disabled even though it makes coping easier.

You could have all my money if you could make his problems disappear. I have been poor. I would take being poor again in a heart beat

Ah yes Riven... But would you hand over the baklava?

Enough with the baklava talk people. I want some and I don't have any access to it.

Don't you just hate it when parents wah on and on about their profoundly disabled child? So self-indulgent!

OP if you are for real then you are a twat. And if you are a troll you are also a twat.

Hope this helps.

LOL, thanks pic. Not my usual, but I'm feeling a bit irky atm.

'dealing with it well does make you a better person'

ffs, most people WITH money (not all) don't HAVE to deal with anything well, why should it be reserved for those who's lives have shat on them?

pagwatch is of course right in principle: only problem arises when, as so often happens, poverty and disability are combined

being rich doesn't make disability easier to cope with, but being poor does make it even harder

you can at least alleviate some problems with money: being able to buy dd a wheelchair when doctors refused to prescribe one meant she could get to school without my having to carry her

being able to pay for a taxi meant I could take her to hospital appointments

ds will learn to write- because we are paying for a laptop

otoh there are treatments and beneficial activities that dcs would benefit from which we cannot pay for

and no doubt there are things that money could buy that could make Riven's life a little easier- like not having to worry about the motability car, just ordering the car that suits your family's needs

so yes, no disability would be best of all, but if disability is unavoidable then I think most of us would prefer whatever alleviations money will buy

Stopppppp it!

Money can ease some problems in life. In Riven's case, for e.g., more money would get her her mobility car which would make a lot of things less hard for her - but would never remove the problems she has with her own and her DD's health. But money would reduce the more peripheral problems.

(sorry to use you as an example there Riven, you are one of the few people that I could use)

I don't actually now care what the OP's problems are because she is being pathetic. That is mean of me but hey.

Anyway, I can joing the disabled child club, so there! THAT is my reason for spending more than my income, so I understand there are times when it is deemed necessary, and I 'chose' to bankrupt myself over his development than a nice house I suppose.

We are rich, we have been poor, rich is better.

Suck it up will you. I have made no secret of being quite well off on here and have received excellent advice and support when I have asked for it.

What I haven't done is whined about not being able to afford things this is because the things that I can't afford are lightyears from being necessities and it is distasteful to complain about that in a place where people are discussing how to feed their kids/buy them basics.

cory

Of course I am better able to help DS2 and give all of us a better life because we have cash

I am just arguing Ninkys poition that not having money is the only probelm

Being wealthy does not equal no grief, no sadness, no mental health problems, no illness, no depression , no alcoholism etc etc.

OK what is BAKLAVA ? never heard of it , what am i missing out on here

Not read whole thread... but WTF???? I choose to be left by my pathetic ex p did I? I don't really remember having much choice in the matter!!!!

It's the food of the gods.

It's layers of filo pastry soaked in honey and sometimes rosewater with chopped nuts,pistachios,walnuts etc.

And I've just found a recipe for banana baklava which sounds even better.

Pleased with use of word distasteful there, makes me sound quite posh I think.

I think it's the only problem that 'should' and 'could' be avoided perhaps, in a civilised society.

Health is pretty much given to you, but wealth is so much subject to luck, and then the unfairness of society. People can work hard to turn the luck in their favour, but often those that need the pressure of a shoestring budget relieving are least placed to influence their luck.