to be annoyed at the smugness of people living on a shoetsring

[headlessandclueless]

i probably am.
mumsnet is full at the moment of people going on about how little money we have and how wonderful we are. or at least it seems that way to me.
what so superior about that? and even more so if you are a single parent? unless you are a widow, you made a choice to be a single parent, knowing full well that meant less money. yes, i know that in some cases of domestic violence, its not really a choice, but, it seems that in most cases i have seen on mn, its simply a case of, 'not being happy' with the partner.
whatever, if it makes you happier, fine, but stop harping on about how skint you might be, and how other people have too much money.

rant over.

anyone else thinking DP here

Your thread title and the point you say you are trying to make, about attitudes to finaces, got lost, when you spent most of your OP going on about Lone Parents.

Oh, and your answers say it all. You're just really nasty, angry person. Bingo!

YABVVVU.

And you're being flamed because you made an incredibly crass and ignorant statement.

You're the smug one. Not the people you're complaining about.

It's not DP.DP would post under her own name.

What a stupid thing to say. Especially the bit about earning £45k and spending £46k - FFS, of COURSE there are things you can do to reduce your expenditure!

Move if necessary. If one or other or both of you lost your jobs, you'd HAVE to downsize pretty damn quick - let's hope you never have to face that, hmm?

AND why on earth should people not feel bloody proud of managing a family on a shoe string? it is hard work, bloody hard work. So, well done all those who are managing it. Feel as smug as you like.

Really can't be arsed to argue with you OP (I rarely post on threads like this but what a plank!).

For all you smug skint people, lets see some more smug posts please as I'd love to see more people who are on a low income coming on and sharing ideas and ways to make money stretch- if you dare show ignorant OP's that you use your noodle to make pennies stretch - I mean how dare you really !!!

'ones that arent so easy to solve.'

C'Mon then tell everyone on a shoestring how they can sort it out?

'constantly apologise'? f56k off! When do well off people 'have' to constantly apologise?

What? to who are you constantly apologising? You're making this up.

I agree that having money does not make you immune to other problems and issues

however , having money can make things easier, smooth the path

e.g you have a health problem

NHS wait to see a specialist is , say 6 weeks

if you can afford to go private, you see one within days

Or you have a sick relative, if you can afford it, you can hop on the train, get on a plane etc to go and see them...

or your boiler stops workng, you can afford to have it fixed

being on the breadline, and on your own with DCs can make 'ordinary' problems almost unbearable and unsolveable

"pag, as i said, i know i am probably bu. but i am really truly sick to death of it. money problems ar not the only issue in life. there are other, bigger problems in life. and surviving those can make you a better person, or not. why should people have to constantly apologise for being well off, high earning, when they might have a lot of other problems, ones that arent so easy to solve. "

Obviously trolling now!

DP would post under her own name.

Is it that you arent a Lone parent but sometimes wish that you were?

Or that you feel you have coped through other problems without getting recognition for them and you dont like perceiving people coping with different problems to you, getting the validation you feel you need?

It's awful having to survive on tiny money, awful. I think it must feel like being imprisoned.

If people are pleased with themselves for managing to feed a family well on a tight budget, or get great bargains, then good enough for them. It's a tiny victory.

Fuck me, I'm a lone parent, not through choice and skint, and sick of it.
I'm many things, but superior is certainly not one of them.

You're a laugh OP.

Yawn - have a jammy dodger

Headless - If you feel defensive, don't discuss your income, keep it to yourself, - privacy is something everyone has a choice about.

You haven't given any evidence of people behaving in the way you describe, but you've been very judgemental about other people's circumstances.

The argument which goes 'there are more important things to discuss than this, so we shouldn't discuss it' seems rather a pointless one on an open discussion forum. MN covers many topics, some trivial, some a matter of life and death. That's the way it is.

madamedeathstare, you have put accross part of what i was trying to say, rather succintly. not being able to pay into a college fund can be seriously stressful. i dont have this exact problem at the moment, but similar. and all i hear on mumsnet, is , well suck it up, at least you have electricity. or more than two noodles to eat.
its not right. if you come on about a problem with your dp, you get given advice and support, even by those going through dv. no one says, well, i get beaten up every week, so its ok for you to have a moany dp. so why is it ok to say that baou tmoney problems?

and for those of you saying im being crass and insensitive, well, better to be that way on an anonymous internet forum than in real life. it is a rant and it is in the aibu section.

i think having money is great. i look forwards to being in that situation again.

for now, i am pleased that we are coping ok.

if thats smuggery, then call me Mrs Smuggy-Mcsmug.

Yes and by posting it in AIBU? you're asking for our opinions therefore we get to tell you that you're wrong and being crass and insensitive.