to get annoyed when my mum calls me 'an older mum'...

[MrKiplingismypimp]

Im 28!!!

Oh and my mum was considered an old spinster at 24 as she was still living at home, no serious boyfriend and no kids.

I had my child at 31 and thought at teh time I was leaving it on the late side...but since then the majority of my friends and family are having their firts significantly older than me which has made me think I wasn't old at all!

I do think though that even late 20's is old physically even though it is young compared to the general population of mothers!

Until fairly recenbtly women continued having babies until they hit menopause, which could be in their fifties. I think the only real issue is the risk of defects increasing over the age of 35. The rest is just pressure from society.

When people make odd or negative comments about pregnancy, in my experience its often due to their own personal issues, more often than not envy. Any negative comments I have had were from women who had never had a happy stable relationship and so not had the choice to have a baby or when to have a baby, or from people who felt the oppurtunity for a family had passed them by

whrn my mum had me - at 26, she was labelled an elderly primagravida if that's the right spelling, that was 29 years ago, so probably a generational thing. nowadays us 20 something mums are the young'uns!

My mum was described as an older mum when she had me - aged 26!

I had my first at 30 and not a peep.

I think you need to be careful about thinking that because late 30s is becoming more common for a first child, it isn't 'older'. At a biological level, it definitely is.

That said, 28 ?!?!

I'm an older mum- I don' mind who calls me that- I'm just pleased to be called a mum!!!

I'm 51 and I adopted my little girl when I was 49. I had miscarriages when I was older trying to get pregnant so i am just so thrilled to be a mum- even if i could be a grandmum!

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1. you are not even an older mum

I'm 32 and 2 days over due with my second baby. I am by far the youngest mum that I know of a toddler/baby!

2. even if you were and I would say older mum now is 40 plus, its rude to call it you!!

This thread makes me want to go to the kitchen hack my head off with a large knife I'm 35 and TTC our first. It's only now I feel remotely grown up enough and yet I read that I will be an "elderly prima gravida". And there I was intending not to get old, ever.

yes I feel like reaching for the oven door ...I was 35 with DD1 and 40 with DD2 and don't feel remotely old (until about 9pm anyway...) Ideally I would have liked my first baby at 30 but DH didn't come along till I was 31 so hey ho this is how it's worked out

Had first at 39, having 2nd at 42, any age is a good age to become a mum! You are young compared to me but who cares about stupid labels anyway? Enjoy your pregnancy!

I was to be described as an 'elderly primip' on my medical notes when I was pregnant at 35...

I'm 37,had my first child 8 weeks ago. Home water birth too. No complications either. Lucky I know but shows age doesn't have to mean there will be problems.

I've just had number 4 at the age of 41. 28 is an excellent age to have a baby.

I had my first at 15 and am now pregnant with my second at 22. I don't think I would consider having any past the age of 35 ish... I enjoy being a "young" mum.

I had my pfb ds at 43..my consultant wasn't in the least bit concerned about my advanced age just complications that I have had all my life (a genetic translocation and anti-phospholipid syndrome).
My friend had her just weeks before her 48th birthday.
28 is definately not old.

doh!.."had her ds just weeks before her 48th"

That would annoy me too! YANBU! Definately not an older mum as everyone has said.

I got annoyed at being referred to as (overheard MWs on labour ward) 'that young girl' when I had my DD, I was 25 & married! Wouldn't have classed myself as a young girl!

That's ridiculous. 28 is a young mum. I think anything before 30 is young. 30-37 is normal and 38+ is an older mum. But that's just my view, based on my own personal experiences and my friends' experiences.

When I went for my booking in appt with my DC4 my age was highlighted in my notes in bright pink pen . I was 40.

When I booked in with DC5 aged 42 I was half expecting them to hand me a zimmer with my bounty pack.

Ooh, I'm glad I was a young mum at 30!

Personally, I don't think I was a 'young mum' at all. I wish I'd had children at 23, as my mum did. If I could have my life again, that's what I'd do.

OMG i am really as old as i feel then! (due #2 in 2 weeks, 28 in july!)

28 is young if you ask me. I had ds1 at 32 and was first of all my friends to have a baby. I did plan to have hung up mat clothes by 35 but ended up having ds 2 at 37 and ds 3 at 39. I'm still broody and will be 40 tomorrow!

sorry haven't read this whole thread, but, really, it's a biological thing isn't it rather than a what's average/what your friends do thing. it's about when your eggs start to die off or whatever and your body starts to feel old and your chances of getting preggers reduce/chances of problems increase isn't it?
i had my kids age 23 and 25. good ages i feel. physically young yet not too mentally young. i feel lucky for that. my mum had me at age 31. she says that despite being in good condition (regular exercise classes and all) she felt old physically. and that's without knowing what exactly was going on with her reproductive system.

In Camden and Islington PCT, it's 38 before you're called an older mother. I was 34 and the second youngest in my NCT class and at every antenatal appt the midwives kept calling me 'young' when assessing my risk...which pleased me no end. My aunt had her first at 42.

Man I feel old now though...