to get annoyed when my mum calls me 'an older mum'...

[MrKiplingismypimp]

Im 28!!!

Oh dear OP, can you please tell your mum that I'm older than her and I have a 13 year old dd

She may, however, faint

I'm pregnant with my first at 29 and in my world that is incredibly young - most people I know don't have kids until their late 30s!

Well if your mother is calling you an older mum what does that make her as a Grandmother ? Bloody ancient !

I've just had my first at 38. I didn't have any discrimination, think most of my younger mates were just happy I'd got round to it.

IvyKate44 -'What do you want to hear though - sorry but yes you are an older mum'
since when in recent time is 28 considered an older mother??

Oh god I am ancient........ Had my first at 35 (mind you, took me 8 years) and second at 37 (just!). Not completely given up on a third either (from beyond the grave I guess)

YANBU this is the first pregnancy I have not been called a "young mum" (my fourth baby) and I am 26.

ive always said to myself if i dont have a second by the time im in my mid 30`s i will call it a day and it just so happened that i had a lovely surprise on my birthday i just personally think that anything beyond 40 is abit old

at my maternity hospital you are now not classed as an older mother till you're 37-I thought I would be one at 35 but no.

BabyGiraffes you are not over the hill yet truth be known if i met my Mr Right i could be easily persuaded to drop one for the road

Hahahaha! Thanks guys! When its really bugging me, I can show her your messages!

A 'friend' gave me:

The Practical, Reassuring Guide to the Joys and Challenges of Birth Over Thirty'
(published in 1985)
From Amazon it appears that the age for elderly mothers needing advice has gone up since the author revised it in 1995 to thirty-five

Perhaps she is trying obliquely to tell everyone she is under 50?

count yourself lucky . I am 46 47 next month and i feel young and i am fed up being lumped in with people i talk to at school every day One woman is 62 and a man of 70 i really like them but they seem to think i`m in the same age group as them er noooo not for a while yet

I'll be 36 when this baby is born and I've not been referred to as an older mum at all.

Late 20s / early 30s is definitely not older mum territory...i'd say that kicked in when you are late 30s

I had DS at 29 and DD at 31 and considered myself an "average aged mum"

I had my first at 25
second at 27
third at 31

My Grandmother then said "that will be you now as you are getting old !"

Don't tell me what to do

I had my 4th last year I was 35 and I was not classed as an older mother.

My Aunt had her one and only just before she turned 46.No problems but an older mother.

I was 23 when DD was born (7 weeks shy of 24) and loads of people were concerned I was too young. Not because of my lifestyle or immaturity, this was solely based on the number 23.

Tis stupid. My MIL on the other hand had DH at 18 in the 80s, SIL1 and BIL1 in the 90s then SIL2 and BIL2 in the 00s. She therefore can state catagorically that having a DS at 40 was the hardest, but then she had already had 4 kids, isnt the fittest person on the planet, gets no help from her partner, helps her eldest DD often with her toddler and has two kids at home.

I think having your 1st at 40 is very different from what MIL went through!

I was 38 when I had my first and only baby, I must be an old wrinkly!

Had DD at 35, DS at 39. I think I must fall into the category of 'who the hell shagged the old gimmer' mum.

Enjoying this thread a lot

My notes say 'geriatric mother' as I was 35 with complications, surprised they didn't just shoot me and get it over with.

I just had DC3 aged 35 (DD at 29 and DS1 at 31) and no one mentioned my age. My mum had my brother (DC5) aged 34 (in 1984) and she said back then she was considered old to be having a baby.

Interestingly my mum said she found the pregnancy with my brother very very hard; at the time she put it down to her advanced age. Now she saw how easy I just found my pregnancy (I am a super fit gym fanatic) she now puts it down to being totally unfit at the time!

I had ds at 18 and I thought all the other mums on the ward were ancient!!! But now im 28, if I have anymore, I will probebly feel like an old mum!
I think it depends on where you live. A girl in my class at school had her dd at 14, and now she's pg!!! Her baby is due 2 months after her mums 29th birthday!!!
I would be mortified if I became a gran soon!!! Or even 36 if ds becomes a dad the same age I had him!!!

"grand multigravida" just means you've had a crapload of kids

I was an "elderly primip" - had DS just before my 39th birthday.