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my new boyfriend says he is going to vote BNP

459 replies

susia · 02/05/2010 20:51

that's it really, I was really shocked and went into a bit of a rant. I can't believe someone I've been intimate with and been close to would vote bnp.

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daftpunk · 02/05/2010 23:03

Well it's just aswell I married someone who really loves me...someone who wouldn't walk out on me just because I vote for a party he doesn't really agree with.....he believes more in people having their own brain, and democracy, rather than trying to control someone

People vote BNP for loads of reasons....

EricNorthmansmistress · 02/05/2010 23:04

Oh yes - he said that women like sex and they like chocolate cake so rape is just like force feeding a woman chocolate cake

LordVolAuVent · 02/05/2010 23:04

Questioning things now.

"He is more working class than me (that makes no difference to me) but I think he feels as he has just lost his job that immigration is to blame...I tried to talk about it to him feeling perhaps he'd been indoctrinated by right wing biased tabloids but he doesn't read the papers."

"he is not my newly ex-bf though we have just had a disastrous weekend. We started rowing about that and ending up rowing about sex!"

"after our row about that we then proceeded to have a row about sex. Not that it is relevant but he won't touch me when I have my period. I sort of understand but also feel quite insulted and hurt."

"His views seem to be based on ignorance around immigration and views that are repeated in the more right wing tabloids about how 'ordinary english, christians etc can't practice their faith because of political correctness'.

If you read these papers, they are repeated over and over."

"I suppose I feel a bit guilty I gave him a hard time last night about the sex issue, this was even before we had the voting conversation"

Which is it? He reads the papers or he doesn't? Row about sex or voting first. Either you're having a bit of fun or you're desperately trying to excuse your lovely man...by lying. Come on love.

And yes, daftpunk, I would, but don't imagine he'd be that welcome to vote BNP...

Gay40 · 02/05/2010 23:04

If my partner had any sympathy for the BNP, we wouldn't be together. For sure.

BertieBotts · 02/05/2010 23:05

Missmoopy, seriously??? That makes me feel sick.

EricNorthmansmistress · 02/05/2010 23:05

People vote BNP because they agree with the policies and sentiments and principles of the BNP. My DH agreeing with any of the above would mean he was a person I wouldn't want to be with. I wouldn't love a racist homophobe....

scottishmummy · 02/05/2010 23:06

curious susia bolts from this,finds tone offensive

but a bnp boyfriend,sacked for violent conduct she cant quite find the words...

let me help you out susia

fuck off you odious man.ps im Jewish

missmoopy · 02/05/2010 23:07

Interesting how daftpunk fails to metion being BNP supporter?!

EricNorthmansmistress · 02/05/2010 23:07

No, but lots of us did it for her!

SugarMousePink · 02/05/2010 23:08

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missmoopy · 02/05/2010 23:09

Yes bertiebotts its true. See www.hopenothate.org

another one of the scum said that disabled children dying is no big deal and we are oversentimental as they weren't going to contribute to society.

You've got me started now....[drags out soapbox]

carolondon · 02/05/2010 23:10

i think you'll find dp that most people on here would dump their partners if they supported the BNP.
I would shun anyone that supported them, friends, partners.

susia, if he believes every word in the right wing tabloids then he is very ignorant or stupid and i couldn't be with someone who was that gullible.

missmoopy · 02/05/2010 23:10

sugarmouse I wish i could be as civilised as you! It just makes me want to stay on thread and shout!

daftpunk · 02/05/2010 23:12

carolondon;

I can't believe that people would throw away years of marriage, and walk out on partners they are madly in love with..(possibly)...just because of the BNP...I just can't believe it.

susia · 02/05/2010 23:13

no I haven't disappeared but will shortly as I need to go to bed. It isn't a wind up and I haven't meant to drip feed information I have just answered questions. The reason I mentioned the papers is because despite him claiming not to read them he must have picked up these views from somewhere.

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scottishmummy · 02/05/2010 23:14

if views were odious and jar with moral core,then yep id walk away

most would

not you and susia obviously

daftpunk · 02/05/2010 23:16

I don't believe it SM...I'm sorry ..I just dont.

Kaloki · 02/05/2010 23:16

Daftpunk

"Well it's just aswell I married someone who really loves me...someone who wouldn't walk out on me just because I vote for a party he doesn't really agree with...."

No, well, we know what things you would judge people on. You open minded and accepting person..

missmoopy · 02/05/2010 23:17

daftpunk I wouldn't have started relationship with dh if he was a bigoted right winger, nevermind fallen in love and had child. I have ended friendships over the BNP issue. I cannot tolerate racist, sexist idiots in my life.

carolondon · 02/05/2010 23:18

I felt dirty just watching NG on the news. There is no way i could live with someone like that.

scottishmummy · 02/05/2010 23:20

dp,affirmative relationships based upon
respect
trust
values
positive regard
empathy

any of those go, i go.think you'd find same for most folk.have moral baseline.minimum moral expectations

id go for me
id go for the children

carolondon · 02/05/2010 23:20

By the way my DP is jewish so it will never happen. Thank God.

missmoopy · 02/05/2010 23:20

NG claims not to be a racist but there is a photo of him in 1980's wearing a white power t-shirt marching with the NF. Scum, scum, scum, scum. I do not accept ignorance as an excuse for voting for the BNP.

daftpunk · 02/05/2010 23:23

There's alot worse I could do than vote BNP....and my dh knows that...politics should not be a reason to break up a marriage or partnership...no way...it's just not important enough.

MaryMotherOfManchego · 02/05/2010 23:27

I would be horrified to find my husband was voting BNP. I would seriously question his values and wonder how I had missed that in his opinions.

3 months into a relationship, it would be a deal breaker for me.

Susia has probably gone to bed, it is nighttime after all, and the typical stuff on here about trolling is a bit disappointing tbh.