"Contray to what you believe nearly everybody wants the best for their children"
Well yes. But sadly there are a lot of people who aren't willing to put any effort or sacrifice into GETTING the best for their children, and prefer to take the path of least resistance when it comes to - well, more or less everything.
I'd include myself in this group sadly. I would love my children to achieve very highly at school - they ought to as they're extremely bright. But I'm too bloody unfocused and disorganised to get my finger out and put the time in to properly help them with their work, and I can't afford private tutoring, so my kids are under achieving at the moment.
A lot of it comes down to sheer bloody minded effort and hard work on the part of parents, it really does. Or at least for those of us who can't afford to live in areas with good schools, or afford private education.
The easiest thing is to let your kids eat rubbish, watch rubbish on tv and play on the computer all day. Which is what a huge swathe of working class kids do, all day, every day, when they're not in class day-dreaming about being on X-factor.
I know the hard-working, organised mums at school and I admire them with every inch of my being.