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Original poster

to be angry that my sister isnt breastfeeding

151 replies

jellytot92 · 30/04/2010 23:26

hi, im new on here. im having my first baby in november and im planning on breastfeeding. my sister just had a baby and she says she doesnt want to breastfeed. i just think thats soooo slefish. the leaflets my midwife gave me said its so much better for babys and i dont no why she doesnt want to. am i being unreasonable or is she just a selfish moo. she says she doesnt want saggy boobs.

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FairhairedandFrustrated · 30/04/2010 23:28

It's none of your business

You just concentrate on your own baby & leave her to raise hers as she sees fit

Different strokes for different folks!!

paisleyleaf · 30/04/2010 23:29

I think there'll be biscuits all over this thread.

BAFE · 30/04/2010 23:30

mind your own bloody business

GlastonburyGoddess · 30/04/2010 23:30

I wouldnt give it another thought. afterall if you bf, you can feel smug in the fact your not commuting to the kitchen in the middle of the night to make up a bottle or at the sink every few hours washing out bottles and sterilising

outnumbered2to1 · 30/04/2010 23:30

your boobs your baby your business

her boobs her baby her business

PrammyMammy · 30/04/2010 23:32

yabu

Evadeeb · 30/04/2010 23:32

I'm new here too...

I agree with PP but not quite so vehemently!!

Yes it is her business and each to their own but maybe you could have a more in depth conversation with her about it?

It's hard and not everyone gets the support that they need to carry on with it!

At the end of the day though she's your sister - and really - it doesn't matter how she feeds her baby does it? Will you disown her if she doesn't BF???

No - you'll support her through the sleepless nights and the two of you will relish your nieces / nephews being so close in age!!!

Zarasmammy · 30/04/2010 23:33

I think it's none of your business! I FF mine through choice and I don't regret it. I'm gunna try and bf this one but if it doesn't work I won't make myself feel guilty.

Concentrate on your own baby rather than other peoples.

Original poster
jellytot92 · 30/04/2010 23:33

i no its not really my business it just makes me sad for my neice that shes just too lazy to try it.

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ScreaminEagle · 30/04/2010 23:34

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saslou · 30/04/2010 23:34

She may well change her mind when her baby is born. People often think they will do things a certain way before they have children, but see things differently once they actually become parents. In the end though, it is her choice to make.

Alambil · 30/04/2010 23:34

Well, formula ain't poison, ya know

her baby, her body, her choice.

Lulumaam · 30/04/2010 23:35

YABU

you;ve not had a baby yet, you have no idea how hit and miss breastfeeding support is and how it is crucial in the early days if thigns are tricky ..

i did not breastfeed either of my children

however, in my job i support other women to breastfeed , and I am far more educated now about BF, and i do regret my choice , as it was not an informed choice

suffice to say, if someone who'd not even had a baby yet dared to voice their anger with me for not breastfeeding , i would have been exceedingly angry

i know now that they would have had my best interests and baby's best interests at heart... but expressing that as anger won't get you anywhere

you can mention that you have read lots about BF and the benefits etc... but leave it at that.. calling her a selfish mooo is not the way forward

smallishsheep · 30/04/2010 23:35

Slaps you with pendulous boobs

Lulumaam · 30/04/2010 23:36

i am glad you are not my sister. lazy and selfish for not breastfeeding.. and you;ve not had a baby yet and you are judging

BAFE · 30/04/2010 23:36

Actually,although I do think it's none of your business I can see why you're annoyed.

Your sister is a completely selfish and lazy bitch. Perhaps you could inform social services what she is planning to do and they could have a social worker ready at the hospital to whip the baby away at birth and save her from being FF.

Tiredmumno1 · 30/04/2010 23:37

Its her choice, get off her case. just worry about your own choices. and forget about it

Evadeeb · 30/04/2010 23:37

woah....

Easy tigers!!!!

Magaly · 30/04/2010 23:37

yes. leave her alone. formula is not arsenic. it's nourishing and filling actually.

JustAnotherManicMummy · 30/04/2010 23:38
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thumbwitch · 30/04/2010 23:39

YABU to be angry about it yes. You are entitled to your opinion but then so is your sister, even if it's different to yours. I wasn't that impressed with my sister's reasons for not bf'ing either ("urgh, I would just feel like a cow") but apart from telling her the benefits to the baby of BM, especially the colostrum, I left it alone. Her choice. Not mine - but no doubt she was disgusted with me for bf'ing to 23m as well. She never said much, I just got a "still? " look if she ever talked about it.

Zarasmammy · 30/04/2010 23:40

Also bf doesn't make your boobs saggy. I didn't breastfeed my children and my boobs are by my knees!!

ICouldHaveWrittenThis · 30/04/2010 23:40

Mind your own fucking business.

You will be more sympathetic once you've had your own nipples chewed off, trust me.

cat64 · 30/04/2010 23:41

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