to be angry that my sister isnt breastfeeding

[jellytot92]

hi, im new on here. im having my first baby in november and im planning on breastfeeding. my sister just had a baby and she says she doesnt want to breastfeed. i just think thats soooo slefish. the leaflets my midwife gave me said its so much better for babys and i dont no why she doesnt want to. am i being unreasonable or is she just a selfish moo. she says she doesnt want saggy boobs.

if my baby wouldnt feed then id have to give him a bottle but at least id try to feed him properly first.

Six MONTHS Prammy?! Ouch! I'm really really really hoping bf goes better with dc2 when she pops out. Fingers crossed no weeping and wailing of hormonal going-insane mummy this time...

oh dear These type of posts don't go well!

I would advise having tea and a deep breath, calm down.

Approach your sister openly and without anger and ask her about her choice. If she says I'm not interested in BF at all then drop it and give her support..she will need it as a new mum just like you will shortly.

If she says she doesn't know something about it or has fears then help her find the information...plenty of support online or RL.

Try not to judge. BF is natural but not always easy or straightforward. I hope you manage to support/get support each other

yabu and should butt out

i dont mean shes not feeding him properly i just mean feed him whats best for him

Look it has bugger all to do with you, if the likes of sma didnt give babies enough of the goodness they need, they wouldnt sell it. end of story, get your head outta your backside, and get your arse back into this century.

IT DOES NOT FECKING MATTER.

Oh my... is this going to go the way of 'formula is poison'?

thesecondcoming - I'm sorry but I'm with you........

that or OP is very young and very naive - OP, do i take it that the 92 in your username is the year you were born?

BAFE - just my experience, with a stroppy sprog and nipple thrush.

just pointing out that the OP doesn't have the first flying clue what she's on about.

yeah i was born in 92 but im not that young i know loads of people who have babies and there great mums.

Oh dear, you may well look back on this in future and cringe. There were a few occasions when I was such a judgy cow before I had my own baby (dummies, making rod for own back) and now I really cringe when I look back.

Whats bf got to do with being a great mum?

"they're means YOUR ARE. There means THERE"

says Ross.

My sister and I were pregnant at the same time. She chose not to breastfeed - it was her second baby she hadn't breastfed, and her reasons (v. dubious to me) were that she didn't want to feel like a cow.

It never occurred to me to question her - it was her decision. It's none of your business.

I must be 50% good mum and 50% bad

i didnt say that you have to breastfeed to be a good mum but i dont like people saying im just young and naive because i want to breastfeed.

Jelly I'm not suggesting for one second your parenting will be anything other than fantastic.. I was merely asking because your posts read as naive and your language is that of a 'younger' person. As a lot of other posters have said, I would suggest you wait and see for yourself about bf - and save your judging - there will be plenty of people doing that to you and your sister so surely you can learn a lesson from that. Read the info, make your choices - and remain openminded.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/sleep/955407-Top-tips-for-a-newborn

Madcat's right, it's great you want to bf, I'm sure you'll be a fantastic mum, but don't judge your sister. It's her body, her baby and her choice.