to be angry that my sister isnt breastfeeding

[jellytot92]

hi, im new on here. im having my first baby in november and im planning on breastfeeding. my sister just had a baby and she says she doesnt want to breastfeed. i just think thats soooo slefish. the leaflets my midwife gave me said its so much better for babys and i dont no why she doesnt want to. am i being unreasonable or is she just a selfish moo. she says she doesnt want saggy boobs.

YABU, though you can have an opinion about it

oh bore off OP

Is there a breast feeding thread troll operating at the moment starting threads about breastfeeding just to start a bunfight??? These threads always start with a "I'm new round here disclaimer" and seem intent on getting people to argue. Anyway this exact same thread has been done before infact when I read the title I thought it was an old thread brought back from the dead.

until you have had a baby and breast fed you have no right to be angry at her - please dont make an issue of it - my older sister - who also has twins like me went on and on at me - (including standing over me making me to the double- so yuk) - it really hurt so badly and while I am glad I went for it and survived the early days of hell - being made to feel like a lesser person for finding it hard was very depressing - I know what you mean when people say they just dont fancy it and that makes your angry- but I think everything about giving birth is so personal and everyone projecting their views is frightening at worst and confusing at best - concentrate on your own birth - let her get on with it

Red rag and bull come to mind. OP needs to worry about her own bosums-(and leave her sister alone) let's hope for her that they function as she wants them to in a few months ...

YABU. Can tell you are new.
Your baby your choice, her baby her choice.

Worry about your own breastfeeding OP - it's none of your business whatsoever.

While breastfeeding no doubt is an excellent thing for those who can manage it, there are so many opportunities to show yourself an irresponsible and feckless mother in the eyes of somebody or other. You will regret this attitude of yours when somebody is rubbing your nose in whatever aspect of your parenting doesn't meet their high standards.

yabu its her baby not yours by the way my dds not breast feeding ,but thats her right not to and its no ones buissness

Jellytot...grow up and get a life.

Not your business, I have breastfed 4 kids and bottle fed 1, breastfeeding is not the bloody be all and end all!

It is never worth falling out with relatives about how they bring up their DCs. It is nothing to do with you-unless she is abusing them. I expect that you will have years of not agreeing with her choices-much better to leave well alone to start with.

YABU, judgemental and incredibly smug. I hope your sister has some nice friends or nicer family members than you to support her when her baby is born.

Please try harder.

really couldn't be arsed to read whole thread on this but has anyone pointed out to OP that FF does not mean you are too LAZY to breastfeed - FF is more of a faff, especially at 3am, though there are ways, with a bit of planning to make it not to bad. might be ls of reasons not to but I doubt laziness is one of them.. and yes, YABU for all the other reasons everyone has said, but congrats on your pregnancy anyway and do try to relax about everything or you'll spend the next year at least in a constant frenzied state of worry that you are doing everything "right"

My MIL told everyone that would listen that I wasn't breastfeeding (the nosey little bitch) .. she didnt know that I was trying to and had Midwives coming over to 'help out' - She didnt know my business because I didnt shout it from the rooftops and because its noones business what I do except mine....whether your sister does or not is not your business...so imho YABU...its her baby, her body, her boobs and her business...

I planned to breastfeed too - didn't buy any bottles etc because I thought it would be easy. My first child never lathced on at all and I spent the first three months at every bf counsellor there was or attached to a huge electric pump being milked and feeling desolate. My second latched on like a dream but his face was always covered in blood and part of my nipple dropped off in the shower. The pain was much worse than childbirth. By the time I got to my third I was too exhausted to try for more than a week. If I had a fourth I would try again but have no judegement for anyone who doesn't.

Until you have the baby you don't know what you're talking about.

Did you know that some people believe babies pick up on negative emotions while in the womb? Give your little one and good start and stop being angry.

I was a young mum as well (not that it matters really) and I was convinced that I would be cooking nutritious meals for myself whilst the baby slept, I would wash the pram wheels every night to keep them nice and white, and that my baby would stop crying immediately when I picked it up.

You have wonderful fantasies when you are pregnant.

OP - just keep your thoughts to yourself. You will just end up muddling along to the best of your ability like your sister, and like the rest of us.

You may breastfeed, and your sister may formula feed, but then again your sister may be far better at mothering a toddler than you. Parenting is a long game, and the prizes are not determined by how you feed your baby for the first year.

Wash the pram wheels? I have never heard that one before, GetOrf!

YABU its got nothing to do with you if she wants to believe that her boobs will go saggy because of breastfeeding then leave her to it.

Just remember if you BF you will loose your baby weight quicker while she is scoffing on Special K.

BF does not necessarily mean you lose weight quicker. In my case it increased my appetite so I didn't really lose weight till after I stopped bf, or did it a lot less frequently.

Saggy boobs are created by pregnancy more than by bf. But hey, let's not have babies or sex at all and be as beautiful and desirable as the virginal Anne Widdecombe in middle age!!

OP - I don't see why you should castigate your sister any more than any woman who chooses not to breastfeed. The real culprits are the artificial babymilk manufacturers who sabotage breastfeeding in a thousand subtle ways.

That's why I support the Nestle boycott.

YANBU

I think everyone should at least try it, to refuse point blank to even try and give them the colostrum is selfish.

If they try and cant get on with it at least they have tried.

wait til you've had a baby yourself first before judging. BFing isn't easy for some women. And others just don't fancy it atall for various reasons. Live and let live.

I needed a lot of support in the ward after DS was born because I couldn't get the hang of it, but my determination saw it through and after a few weeks it was easy to do, almost second nature I suppose. Not everyone can take to a new skill, and some just are not interested.

I also FF DS after 6 months of BFing so have done a bit of both.

and I gained loads of weight with BFing. it made me laugh when people said 'it helps you lose weight'. Ha - not for everyone!! Only after I stopped BFing did the weight drop off. I suppose that had something to do with the fact I had more energy to get up and about and felt like walking more.