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AIBU to not want to breastfeed?

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VixeyV · 20/04/2010 23:04

Hi this is my first post but I have been a lurker since the start of my pregnancy.

Anyway, my question is I'm 20 weeks pregnant and the midwife keeps pushing me into breastfeeding. I just don't want to and don't get why she won't stop asking me how I'll feed.

To be honest, the thought of it freaks me out. I didn't breastfeed my daughter and she's fine on formula, she has aptimal because that's the best.

So what do you think? Should my midwife stop nagging me?

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CrankyTwanky · 20/04/2010 23:25

Must be DF.

FWIW, no difference between formulas. None at all. Except price. Aptamil is a "premium brand" is all.

And YABU.

JaneS · 20/04/2010 23:26

Vixey, I'm off to bed in a mo, but I really am curious: have you honestly lurked for 20 weeks and never read a breastfeeding thread on here?

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VixeyV · 20/04/2010 23:27

I don't mean it's weird they do it, just weird for me personally.

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Vallhala · 20/04/2010 23:27

I reckon so DuelingFanjo. But if not, OP, it's your choice. Just say firmly that you have decided not to and that it's not up for discussion.

NathanBarley · 20/04/2010 23:27

And yes despite my name I a female and breastfed for over a year despite feeling squeamish about it at first. I really miss it now dd is not a baby anymore, and some of my nicest memories are of feeding her.

everythingiseverything · 20/04/2010 23:27

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Ell11 · 20/04/2010 23:28

Lol ABitBatty

Vixey - I dare you to try it!

Magaly · 20/04/2010 23:29

No you're not.

But...... I find it interesting when people are determined not even to try! Don't you want to know that it's wrong for you, rather than just guess that it's wrong for you?

StewieGriffinsMom · 20/04/2010 23:29

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Original poster
VixeyV · 20/04/2010 23:30

I'm sorry, I didn't know me posting would cause upset. I'm not a troll, I just wanted opinions and didn't knwo it had been done before.

I'm sorry, I probably shouldn't bother posting I obviously don't fit in.

I only wanted advice.

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scottishmummy · 20/04/2010 23:30

bemused op you dont know feeding threads=fight night

well you know now

pingviner · 20/04/2010 23:30

your baby, your boobs, your body, your business
Next!

Though I agree that the plug for 'aptimel?'was a bit unsubtle, trip trap more lightly next time because this got boring very quickly....

runnybottom · 20/04/2010 23:30

First post...in AIBU? About breastfeeding?

Totally not a troll then.

StewieGriffinsMom · 20/04/2010 23:32

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IveStillGotIt · 20/04/2010 23:32

I bottle fed my ds, and had planned too, as soon as i found out i was pregnant, and all the way through my pregnancy i had to put up with midwifes, other mothers, my mothers next door neighbour e.t.c banging on about 'breast is best' to the point i told them all where to shove there leaflets, ideas, opinions!
It's your body and your baby, if you want to bottle feed, then thats your choice and nobody else has any right to tell you what to do.
However, even though i bottle fed ds, if i ever have another dc, i would probebly give breast feeding a go, as im 10y older and wiser now, lol! But if it didnt work out, i wouldnt feel guilty about bottle feeding again, after all bottle feedings not a crime!

pingviner · 20/04/2010 23:32

ooh that was bitchy of me, Im recanting already
but if you arent a troll the B&BF board is probably much more useful than us gin sodden insomniacs

i speak for myself only>

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VixeyV · 20/04/2010 23:32

Why would posting about bresatfeeding make me a troll. I'm a bout to have a baby it's important to me.

Like I say, I'm sorry I posted.I really don't know what to do for advice, thansk for the link but I;ll probably just get the same response

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JaneS · 20/04/2010 23:33

'I just wanted opinions and didn't knwo it had been done before'

Ok, there is no way that someone could have 'lurked' for 20 weeks, pregnant, being pestered to consider breastfeeding by their midwife, and not stumble across at least one thread.

OP, don't try breastfeeding, that hairy, hairy chest of yours will make the baby cry and wake up the billy goats gruff.

scottishmummy · 20/04/2010 23:35

vikey take this query to mw for 1:1 consultation.you wont get an objective answer on aibu

StewieGriffinsMom · 20/04/2010 23:36

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VinegarTits · 20/04/2010 23:39

dont listen to the troll accusations op, you do what ever is best for you and your baby

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VixeyV · 20/04/2010 23:41

I only found this site last week and have been lurking sicne then. I said I'm 20 weeks pregnant but didn't find mumsnet till now, why are you all been horrible? Ive done nothing wrong, just answer the question that#s all I want. where am i meant to ask what people think if not hear.

I only wanted to ask because I really don'#t like the idea of breastfeeding, I'ver got my own reasons and my daughter was ok on formular.

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foxytocin · 20/04/2010 23:42

rofl at VT again

ben10isgr8 · 20/04/2010 23:43

As ppers have said be firm with your MW and explain that you have made your decision to FF and would appreciate it if she stops questioning your choice.

It is her job to encourage BF but at the end of the day it is your body and child and you make whatever decision suits you and your family

good luck

BitOfFun · 20/04/2010 23:43

Vinny, you are the maestro

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