To think they could have planned this better?

[bilandsildrivemecrazy]

Have been stewing on this for a while and finally decided to brave AIBU with this

So, we have 2 DC and their birthdays are v close, less than 3 weeks apart.

We fell out with BIL and SIL a few years ago and none of us have any contact.

Also have a rocky relationship with PIL mainly due to their interfering behaviour but things are ok with them at the moment.

Anyway, BIL and SIL are having a 2nd child and the due date is slap bang in between my DC's birthdays, two days before my eldest birthday in fact!

I can just see years of conflict over PIL attending birthday parties etc and don't really understand why they absolutely had to plan it so they have a baby at this time, considering all the other months in the year there are!

So, AIBU?

yes yabu and i think you should see a counselor as you obviously have issues

YANBU how very out of order they are to plan their baby to disrupt your plans.

Bastards.

You nutter.

YABU - but you must know that! They won't have planned it on purpose!
It might be unfortunate if you think it will make party clashes inevitable, it might even be good fun for joint parties if you make up with your bil and sil, but to think it's unreasonable of them not to have planned a pregnancy to avoid your DCs' birthdays is very unreasonable (and made me chuckle, sorry)

err...

You cant be serious! They may have been trying for ages - what did you want them to do miss the month that might be their only chance? get over yourself YABVU.

YABextremelyU

Yabu!

This is a joke, right?

erm.... you're not serious are you? are you?

I doubt they've been trying for ages - their eldest is not even two.

Bil, did they definitely "plan it" I mean these things don't always actually work that way do they?

I am inclined to think you are being a bit unreasonable......

So why on earth did you plan to have your second child within 3 weeks of the first? Surely you could have forseen the years of conflict with siblings having birthdays so close together?

YADNBU - I bet they did it just to spite you

Lol @ MummyDoIt. I'm now thinking the same.....

do you fall out with alot of people?

Blameit I think they did do it to spite us - it's typical of their insecure, attention seeking behaviour.

OP - maybe they are trying to mend bridges and did in fact plan it so that although their baby wouldn't be born on either of your DCs' actual birthdays, it would be born between the 2 dates, thereby providing a bond and thus ensuring that although relations between you and them might be strained, those of the next generation could be mended and strengthened over the years with joint parties and togetherness?

please entertain us enlighten us with examples of their behaviour

Is this one of those posts where you're the other party?

Mind you my sil made it quite clear that she didn't want ds2 to arrive on her son's birthday. Luckily he was early and spent a week in NICU so that was ok .

Same sil also hoped and told me that dd wouldn't be too pretty so as not to take attention away from her dd.

Obviously yabu and mad as a box of frogs.

HTH

What if the baby is born on one of the birthdays? Surely you will explode?

traceybath - i hate those!

If you explode then you can quite safely assume that you will always been known for being the relative who was so attention-seeking that she had to explode on the birth date of their child.