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AIBU?

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Original poster

To think they could have planned this better?

181 replies

bilandsildrivemecrazy · 20/04/2010 18:03

Have been stewing on this for a while and finally decided to brave AIBU with this

So, we have 2 DC and their birthdays are v close, less than 3 weeks apart.

We fell out with BIL and SIL a few years ago and none of us have any contact.

Also have a rocky relationship with PIL mainly due to their interfering behaviour but things are ok with them at the moment.

Anyway, BIL and SIL are having a 2nd child and the due date is slap bang in between my DC's birthdays, two days before my eldest birthday in fact!

I can just see years of conflict over PIL attending birthday parties etc and don't really understand why they absolutely had to plan it so they have a baby at this time, considering all the other months in the year there are!

So, AIBU?

OP posts:
stripeyknickersspottysocks · 20/04/2010 18:19

You're insane, if I was your SIL I'd have been tripping over myself to fall out with you as well.

Shaz10 · 20/04/2010 18:19

Fine, I'll bite. YABU because it doesn't matter. It's the most pointless thing in the world to get upset about, partly because it's probably accidental, and partly because it doesn't matter.

displayuntilbestbefore · 20/04/2010 18:19

"I have found out that they are having a second DS though, whereas we have one of each, so we have beaten them on that one which will be pissing them off!"

Oh dear.......OP, I think you need to take a double dose of these little red faced lovelies

BariatricObama · 20/04/2010 18:20

please can we hear about their behavior it will help us understand you

MrsC2010 · 20/04/2010 18:20

Hahahahahahahaha.

posieparker · 20/04/2010 18:21

You are unreasonable because as an adult you should not see children and babies as one up man ship. You need to stop letting these people, who obviously hurt your feelings, get under your skin. They probably couldn't care less about your dcs and their birthdays and this new child is going to be your relation and you should be happy.

You sound bitter and envious, take it from me it isn't pleasant to read and it must be worse to feel. It will never end well.

stripeyknickersspottysocks · 20/04/2010 18:21

Are you really, really thick? People have told you why you're being unreasonable, very clearly told you.

displayuntilbestbefore · 20/04/2010 18:22

YABU because if you were being serious, it would mean that such people really existed outside Jeremy Kyle's studios.
That a decent enough reason?

stripeyknickersspottysocks · 20/04/2010 18:22

  1. I doubt they've done it on purpose.

  2. Its none of your business. You can not dicate when someone else has a baby.

  3. Its really not that important.

  4. You sound insane with you bragging about having "beaten them".

hocuspontas · 20/04/2010 18:23

You're bound to fall out with PIL again so the 'years of conflict' re the parties will be irrelevant.

scoutliam · 20/04/2010 18:23

Don't let either one of them play with your toys ever again.
If they try to speak to you, I want you to go find the nearest grown up and tell them your in laws are not allowed to be your friend any more and come straight home.

Ladyanonymous · 20/04/2010 18:26

Seriously? You really think people would bother timing this...just to piss you off? ...if this isn't a joke you need to stop smoking weed before the paranoia really kicks in or address your sense of self importance.

easyoptionwoman · 20/04/2010 18:28

Been waiting to use this emoticon for ages -

Littlefish · 20/04/2010 18:29

Ha ha ha ha!

Just in case you're not being funny....

How on earth do you know they "planned it" to happen in that particular month. More than likely they were just trying to conceive, and it just happened in that month.

You're being absolutely, completely and utterly unreasonable, ridiculous, petty, selfish and downright stupid!

Grow up.

herbietea · 20/04/2010 18:30

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wukter · 20/04/2010 18:33

Don't let iy cause years of disharmony with the PIL's. Simply cut them out of your life now -

Original poster
bilandsildrivemecrazy · 20/04/2010 18:33

Even if they didn't plan it to happen in that month they could have abstained to avoid it.

It's the same thing.

OP posts:
BariatricObama · 20/04/2010 18:34

i think you should have it out with them. preferably on facebook or by text.

Joolyjoolyjoo · 20/04/2010 18:34

I am finding it hard too to believe that OP is genuine..

..But if you are, OP, then er, yes- YABU!

it is a non-issue: lots of children have birthdays on the same day or similar time. People rarely ttc with a specific birthday in mind (well, unless your sil and bil are as competitive and odd as you are, in which case I suppose it is possible and we'll leave you all to it...)

MintHumbug · 20/04/2010 18:34

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posieparker · 20/04/2010 18:34

Now you've fully blown cover....that bit was just too stupid.

stripeyknickersspottysocks · 20/04/2010 18:36

Why on earth should they abstain?

Are you really that selfish, self centred, full of a feeling of self importance that you really think everyone else should revolve around you?

AnyFucker · 20/04/2010 18:37

BOF...is that you ?

Original poster
bilandsildrivemecrazy · 20/04/2010 18:37

How is it stupid posie?

Plenty of people abstain in certain months - to miss christmas or late summer birthdays.

YOu would think if there was any good reason to abstain it would be to avoid years of family heartache.

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Littlefish · 20/04/2010 18:38

Ha ha ha ha ha ha.