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AIBU?

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To think they could have planned this better?

181 replies

bilandsildrivemecrazy · 20/04/2010 18:03

Have been stewing on this for a while and finally decided to brave AIBU with this

So, we have 2 DC and their birthdays are v close, less than 3 weeks apart.

We fell out with BIL and SIL a few years ago and none of us have any contact.

Also have a rocky relationship with PIL mainly due to their interfering behaviour but things are ok with them at the moment.

Anyway, BIL and SIL are having a 2nd child and the due date is slap bang in between my DC's birthdays, two days before my eldest birthday in fact!

I can just see years of conflict over PIL attending birthday parties etc and don't really understand why they absolutely had to plan it so they have a baby at this time, considering all the other months in the year there are!

So, AIBU?

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AnyFucker · 20/04/2010 21:03

If it had been reality, I think she would have fessed up when she realised the direction it was taking

It was funny at first

JackBauer · 20/04/2010 21:04

I havea very sneaking suspicion this is a regular trying for a laugh, and it has backfired massively, agree that possibly never outing yourself might be a plan.

muddleduck · 20/04/2010 21:05

disagree.
I want to see an embarrassed admission of guilt

azazello · 20/04/2010 21:06

YABU and very silly.

My DB is precisely 10 years younger than me to the day and there has never been any disagreement about birthday arrangements. Perhaps DB is sufficiently grown up to be sensible about it.

AnyFucker · 20/04/2010 21:07

yes, jack, I agree with you

like I said upthread, if it is a regular, let it die now

the window to fess up has passed, and I feel a bit sorry it had backfired so spectacularly

SpringyThingy · 20/04/2010 21:08

OK, if you're not trolling I'll share my story...both my SILs were pg at the same time as me, mine was stillborn and I have a nephew and a niece. I had to coo over them and be lovely. Hardest thing in the world but I could not love those wee babies more.

We tried again and SIL gets PG again (accidently) and I have to sit on bed rest, watching her sail through, the agony. We were due on the same date but DD was 10 weeks early. She held my DD in NICU while hers was still safe and sound in her tummy.

End result, I'm grateful to have amazing family that support me even though we don't particularily get on. Both SILs have made me a very proud Auntie.

OP you are a loon - cheer up and get on with your life.

verytellytubby · 20/04/2010 21:10

Never heard anything like it. You say you've been estranged so I doubt they would be counting 9 months from a shag and realising it was near your DC's birthday. People really have too much going on their lives to think about it.

My parents and IL's are devoted to my DC but they only came to the first couple of birthdays as it becomes all about pre-school/nursery/school friends.

Your oneupmanship regarding the sex of your dc is sickening. Who cares about the sex, most only want a healthy child. Yes I have a DD which my brother would want but she has a serious heart condition and I would love her whole. Get over yourself and think about other people. No wonder you've fallen out with them. You sound so unkind.

AnyFucker · 20/04/2010 21:13

Sorry for your loss, springy and the rocky start your dd had x

cerealqueen · 20/04/2010 21:14

Of course YANBU because its very easy to plan these things exactly. Didn't you you specifically ask them to refrain from shagging in those months when you didn't want them to conceive?

outnumbered2to1 · 20/04/2010 21:18

wow i'd hate to think what you would make of my family since my sisters Daughter shares her birthday with my mum and her son shares his birthday with my dad.... God how bad is that for planning?

StewieGriffinsMom · 20/04/2010 21:18

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Meglet · 20/04/2010 21:21

I have had a shit day and the op's madness has brought a smile to my stressed out face.

op - yabu

JackBauer · 20/04/2010 21:22

I am so sorry for the losses of those who have told their stories on this thread and added a bit of perspective.

muddleduck · 20/04/2010 21:26

d'ya think this thread will make the Daily Mail?

AnyFucker · 20/04/2010 21:29

MD...I would think the presses are running right now

Do they still use newspaper presses ? < shows age >

Kaloki · 20/04/2010 21:33

Maybe the OP thinks that the family should shag to a schedule?

"Sorry darling, no sex tonight, SIL says so"

MadamDeathstare · 20/04/2010 21:36

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muddleduck · 20/04/2010 21:39

"catfood eating troll's child"

what?

how can catfood eat a child?

Dollytwat · 20/04/2010 21:43

linky MadamD?

NoahAndTheWhale · 20/04/2010 21:47

OP I am assuming you are trolling but if not then of course YABU. September is my family's month for birthdays - there's me, my cousin a week later, my aunt five days after that, DD who was born on my aunt's birthday and my dad four days after that. Never noticed a problem (although I was quite glad DD wasn't born on my birthday. Wouldn't have sent her back though if she had been ).

grapeandlemon · 20/04/2010 21:59

I say this in all seriousness.

You need professional help.

OtterInaSkoda · 21/04/2010 11:21

Having read numerous threads on (ahem) itsurdayhun.co.uk from B2Bs (that's brides to be) furious that their BM (that's bridesmaid) has got herself knocked up and will look fat in the photos - I have a horrible feeling that the OP is for real.

I am inclined to agree with grape that she needs help. Living life thinking people do things like get pregnant to spite you cannot be good for your general wellbeing. And even if the SIL did get pregnant to spite the OP - allowing oneself to get so irate has to be unhealthy.

OrganicHairbrush · 21/04/2010 11:27

Well, I scheduled DDs birth to clash with my university graduation, all cos I wanted to annoy my supervisor and piss off the administrator. DH and I discussed the game plan during the conceptual act...

MadamDeathstare · 21/04/2010 14:22

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FickleFairy · 21/04/2010 19:08

Can someone enlighten me as to what a "Troll" is???? and