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AIBU?

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Original poster

To think they could have planned this better?

181 replies

bilandsildrivemecrazy · 20/04/2010 18:03

Have been stewing on this for a while and finally decided to brave AIBU with this

So, we have 2 DC and their birthdays are v close, less than 3 weeks apart.

We fell out with BIL and SIL a few years ago and none of us have any contact.

Also have a rocky relationship with PIL mainly due to their interfering behaviour but things are ok with them at the moment.

Anyway, BIL and SIL are having a 2nd child and the due date is slap bang in between my DC's birthdays, two days before my eldest birthday in fact!

I can just see years of conflict over PIL attending birthday parties etc and don't really understand why they absolutely had to plan it so they have a baby at this time, considering all the other months in the year there are!

So, AIBU?

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Original poster
bilandsildrivemecrazy · 20/04/2010 18:11

No, I am not the other party.

I'm serious, a little bit of planning could have foreseen this - now I have to spend the next few months worrying that they'll share a birthday, or trying to plan their parties but not knowing if PIL are going to be able to make it because they'll be visiting the new baby.

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hocuspontas · 20/04/2010 18:11

Lol! This is hilarious! I was just thinking how boring MN was today...

StephysFamous · 20/04/2010 18:11

YANBU!
How dare they?!
^
Sarcasm dear.

You have no contact with them so of course you know they planned to have second child on that date on purpose.
Get a life.

BariatricObama · 20/04/2010 18:12

i hope they do share a birthday and they call the child the same namae!

traceybath · 20/04/2010 18:13

Oh I think PIL will definitely spend more time with the new baby - but I think there may be some other reasons.

You know - because you are deranged.

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bilandsildrivemecrazy · 20/04/2010 18:13

THeir attention seeking behaviour is a whole other thread bariatric so I won't go into it.

Just take it that they are very competitive with us.

I have found out that they are having a second DS though, whereas we have one of each, so we have beaten them on that one which will be pissing them off!

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displayuntilbestbefore · 20/04/2010 18:13

I hate to break this to you, OP, but I have a feeling there may be other people in the world who already share your DCs' birthdays

BariatricObama · 20/04/2010 18:14

oh yes they are v. competitive...

posieparker · 20/04/2010 18:14

I think you need to tell us why you all fell out...

Or shall I run a virtual sweepstake?

Christmas dinner
A will
They decorated the bathroom the same colour as you
You bought a newer car
They lent you money
They are drug dealers

displayuntilbestbefore · 20/04/2010 18:15

You are concerned about their attention seeking behaviour?

traceybath · 20/04/2010 18:15

Oh - you are just being mean.

I had 2 Ds's and then had a DD - so hey good job I'm not your sil because I'd have beaten you .

I do really hope you're not for real because you sound really unpleasant.

Look - nobody thinks you're being reasonable so perhaps think about that.

5inthebed · 20/04/2010 18:15

Maybe they could have simply not had sex 9 months before your DC's birthdays, then you'd have been fine. How inconciderate of them, having sex.

BariatricObama · 20/04/2010 18:15

lol @ posie living up to her name

FickleFairy · 20/04/2010 18:15

OMG Bils you are going to send yourself totally mad with talk like this. You've "beaten" them?????? Good Lord!

posieparker · 20/04/2010 18:15

did your husband fall out with his brother/sister or did you?

hocuspontas · 20/04/2010 18:16

Stop! Stop! I'm pissing myself. PLEASE no more!!

stripeyknickersspottysocks · 20/04/2010 18:16

This is the first time upon reading a thread that my mouth has actually fallen open.

FGS, I'm sure they didn't plan it. Even if they did you have no right to tell them when they can or can't get pregnant. They've probably being trying for a few months. It takes most people a few cycles do get pg.

As your kids get older its not even as if they will still want their grandparents coming to their parties.

waitingforbedtime · 20/04/2010 18:16

Maybe they wanted a second ds...

Pronoia · 20/04/2010 18:17

YAB a nob

BariatricObama · 20/04/2010 18:17

this is shitola i can't believe there are people bitter enough to gloat over the sex of new babies

posieparker · 20/04/2010 18:17

BO..I am truly , I come on MN to --nose- advise people and join in the bitchfest concern. How very dare you!!

AnyFucker · 20/04/2010 18:17

ladies, ladies

this is obviously a regular having a good larf at the outrage on this this thread

come on OP, fess up, who are ya

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bilandsildrivemecrazy · 20/04/2010 18:18

Well everyone is happy to tell me IABU, but nobody wants to tell me why

I am cross because this just creates more bad feeling than us and more opportunities for family disharmony, which they will probably enoy

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posieparker · 20/04/2010 18:18

BO..I am truly , I come on MN to nose advise people and join in the bitchfest concern. How very dare you!!

aaahhhh that's better

BariatricObama · 20/04/2010 18:18

don't spoil the fun af