to be annoyed at this - even though I've been open minded about porn?

[BattyKoda]

Found out that DP rang a sex line, one of those thats on the tv. It's really got to me, even though I know he looks at porn occasionally, and I haven't had a problem with that, he has an extremly high sex drive and I cna't keep up!

How would you feel? I don't really know what to do... he's sleeping on the sofa.

SGB - Did I say I was going to throw him out?

shineoncrazydiamond - I'm up in arms becuase he hid it from me, deliberately. He did it, knowing it would upset me.

My understanding of 'Babestation' is that you watch her on screen, and if you call you can 'instruct' [shudder] or just listen to what she's saying

He deleted the number from his phone so that I wouldn't see it. He admitted he did this.

If he knows that it will upset you, why is he doing it? That's just mean, unthinking and REALLY disrespectful.

And why does everyone here seem to think it's ok for a bloke to look at skanky pics of nudie women, pics that upset their wives and daughters, so long as it's not costing much money?

The whole thing is just rank and pathetic. He needs to grow up and have some respect for your feelings. And you have no reason to feel bad for finding it all upsetting.

I don't think you should be upset because he hid it. He is probably embarrassed about it and doesn't want to broadcast it. He is not going to tell you that he rang a sex line because he knows you will not be pleased. But I think that ringing up to speak to a person is a worrying step, that is going too far. I don't think a porn ban will work, but you have to make it clear that speaking to a live person is totally out of order and can't happen again.

he hid it because he is ashamed and because he knows he was acting like a stupid dick

I wouldn't put too much emphasis on that fact, tbh, BK

The reason that most posters aren't screaming sad pervert(those girls aren't old on TV are they?) is because the OP wants to move forward with this man.

Op men, ime, like to avoid confrontation and so he thought what you don't know won't kill you or him!

its the secret thing as much as the actual ringing that would bother me, he knew he shouldnt do it, otherwise wouldnt have hidden it. but its a blip isnt it, talk and tell him how pissed off u etc, and move on. my attitude is right r we going to split up over this,if not u both have to sort it and move on

shineon, don't be obtuse.
By "old style video", I mean a film (on video/dvd/blu-ray or whatever), which is made impersonally. The whole point of this phone-line business, I guess, is that it feels more personal, like she's performing just for him. It's just that step closer to visiting a prostituted. And that is what would make it more unacceptable for me, if it were my DH.

agree entirely with clumsymum, that is the problem with talking to a real live person. The next step up from that is to actually see a live person. Watching movies is impersonal and is not as bad as speaking to live people.

I've conducted some research.

Michelle Moist is on at the moment.

God he really is a twat.

What channel?

906.. I think... switched it off now, made me feel a bit queasy.

But... better the devil you know!

Ah, that's BBC Wales for me. I can see how that would be a turn-on...

I think it's exclusive to sky.

906 is Heart Radio for me

< ironic smile >

I think it's cheating in a weird way.. Tbh I think it's really pathetic and I'd smash up my dp's phone if he did this. It's just the idea that he got off to another womans voice live- you can't ban him- that will just make him more sneaky. I'd tell him to grow the eff up or get out. Maybe just show him this page so he can see what women think of such low behaviour.

Would you really smash his phone?!

Dinkytinky - sorry WHO needs to grow up???

Whats wrong with following them to the toliet...?!